Twins sleeping arrangements?

Question

I have identical twin boys who are four-years-old. Since they were babies, they have shared a room. We live in a 3 bedroom townhouse, but the 3rd room is currently their toy room. Now that they're bigger and out of cribs and all do you think I should put them in different rooms? I don't know.. I'm just one of those moms who wants them doing everything together since they're twins. They started crawling within the same week, both were walking within 2 weeks of each other, same with talking, potty training etc. My husband says separate them so they have more space. We don't have the big huge house but we do have 1 more room (toy room) But about them being together I plan on having them together in school too :)

What do you think about the room arrangements? Together, or apart?

Answer 1

well see what they think, in my experience kids at times would rather share a room then have separate ones. my nieces who are ages 6 and 7 didn't want separate rooms. while encouraging to be individuals is a good idea maybe you should wait to give them separate rooms until they are older and actually want them. they are young and considering they are brothers i would say they are playmates to. they probably enjoy the shared bedroom, i would say want until six or seven and then ask them if they would like separate rooms.

Answer 2

At this age, they prob still play together a lot & would be better off together unless they have requested to be in seperate rooms. They'll start finding their own individualities as they get older. Once they do this, you can fix up their rooms to fit each of their styles. I have 4 1/2 m/o twin girls, a 4 1/2 y/o girl, & 2 y/o boy living in a 3 bdrm house. My dilemma is whether to buy bigger house or add a bdrm on. The twins are still in our bdrm, but will share a room until, like I told you, express desire to be in different rooms, once we decide what we'll do in the meantime. Good luck!

Answer 3

I have twin 3 year olds (girls) and they have also shared a room since they were born. I am planning on keeping them in the same room until I don't know when, probably until they move out or we have a bigger place and if they want to be split up. They are growing into their own person. They like different things. I think you should keep them together they will do things themselves. They will find things they like on their own and that will be their time apart!

Answer 4

I had twins, a boy and a girl, in 1981. They had the same bedroom until they were 4, then I separated them. I was always of the opinion that they had so much in common being twins, that I wanted them to develop their own personalities, likes, dislikes, friends, interests, etc. So I had them in different classes all throughout school. They were still very close, and still are, even though they live in different states. But I felt separating them took a lot of the competitiveness away. It allowed them to be their own individual selves. After all, they are the same as any other siblings with one exception - they share the same birthday. This is just my opinion. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 5

I don't think you should separate them. If they have a toy room, what do they use the other bedroom for other than sleeping...so I wouldn't really say they are invading eachothers space. We have 4 and 5 yr old daughters, and we actually just moved them into the same bedroom. They just played in eachothers rooms anyway, now they only have one to clean...instead of distroying both! The only thing that sucks is now we cant seperate them! LOL

Answer 6

I work with twins all the time in preschool, and often I find that they do better separately. They always have each other to rely on at home, which is wonderful, but they should be able to have their own identities. Yes, they are twins, but that does not mean that they will have the same tastes, same friends, same likes/dislikes, or same skills, and nor should they. As much alike as they are, they are equally different people. I would have to agree with hubby on this one... different rooms that reflect their different personalities would be a good idea. Or, if you wanted to keep them together at night, a good compromise may be that you divide the room in half (visually) by painting each side a different color and decorating them completely differently according to each's taste. If talking/playing at night is a problem, I'd recommend that you split them up. As for school, I'd separate them to allow them to build social relationships with other children. Often, twins are more comfortable to spend time together rather than branch out and develop relationships with other children. Also, teachers tend to compare twins who are in the same classroom to one another, sometimes putting them in competition with one another. I would also recommend allowing them to find separate after school activities. It is okay if one likes soccer and one prefers baseball, enroll each in the sport/activity they like. The more individual you treat them, the more they will grow to be independent of one another. They'll always have their twin connection- that is something they will never outgrow, but they should be allowed to be seen as the individuals they are.

Answer 7

I don't see why you have to break them up....or why they can't be apart either. If your instinct tells you to keep them in the same room, then that will be fine, and the toy room option sounds like a great thing too. They will be just fine in life if they are together all the time! Having them switch rooms may be more traumatic than their social skills after sharing a room!

Answer 8

My twin sister and I slept in the same room until we were 13. keep them together but give them their own space in the room.(like put a book shelf between the beds so they can't see each) Don't put them in the same class, the teacher may compare each other(why can't you be more like your sister?)
There was a really cute boy sitting next to me!
The playroom could be a haven for when they have a fight.

Answer 9

I think you should leave them together as long as they're both happy. They have a bedroom and a playroom, so they shouldn't be craving space, especially at this age. You could bring up the topic and see what they each want.

Answer 10

Have you asked them? I know that they're only 4, but they may have an opinion worth hearing. And let them know that even if they choose separate rooms, if they decide they'd rather be back together that they can move again.