finances are too big of a deal for us, i'm a full time student recieving my GI Bill ($ for college for serving in the AF for 4 years), and i could get student loans to subsidize any extra costs.... hubby has a great job with an upcoming promotion.... but my mom hates when i talk about wanting to get preggers... we've been married for almost 3 years, and are in our mid twenties..... this is sooo frustrating! if it weren't for her, i would be prego by now! she won't let up on me.....
2007-04-03 08:59:04 · 17 answers · asked by User Name 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i've already served my 4 years....... i'm out of the AF.
2007-04-03 09:20:10 · update #1
I do suggest waiting until you're done with school to have a baby; they're both a lot of work, and putting those together is a huge job (I know, because that's what I did). A student loan is intended to subsidize education, not babies. Wait until you are finished, and I think it will be better for you.
2007-04-03 09:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this is only an opinion, but my advice to you is that this is a decision which should be made between yourself and your husband. I am sure your mother is only looking out for your best interests and trying to help you avoid the potential downfalls which could arise. However, if we all waited for perfect timing in which to start a family, there would be several of us who would never have children. Only you can know when you feel physically and emotionally ready to have a child. And, if your husband is on the same page as you, then the two of you should proceed and begin you journey into parenthood.
2007-04-03 09:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you already stated your husband has a good job, you've been married for 3 years, you are in your mid twenties, and you have your lives together already.
Why do you need your mothers approval to begin your family?
Yes, we will always love our parents and value their opinon but as an adult thats all it is and opnion. You run your life and you make the ultimate decision.
If you feel you are ready for a child have one! You are already more prepared then most individuals who have babies as single mothers and no boyfriends!
I do not want to say grow up but its time for you to stop acting like you are still 14 allowing your mother to control your life. You are an adult make the decisions you feel are best for you and your hubby just be prepared for the outcome. Trust me if your mother is controlling your decision about this an important life changing decision shes probably controlling other aspects of your life. Soon your hubby will get tired of it. So do you want to get divorced and live back home with mommy or do you want to have your happy life as a family?
The decision is yours and your husbands only! Good Luck!
2007-04-03 10:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Day C 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Then don't worry about what she says! If you feel it is the right time then go for it. I am 26 and a mother of 1 year old. I love being a young mom! I have the energy to play with him and act like a child myself. Your mom is probably thinking about your stress level while having a baby and going to school. There are many people who do it, but i would also recommend waiting until you graduate! My hubby and i waited until we both graduated. But like i said, go for it if you feel it is the right time. It is such a joy, as long as you can juggle school and a baby.
2007-04-03 09:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by micah z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting her decide when YOU have a child? Its completely between you and your husband. Honestly, plenty of teenagers and unwed people have children and here you are happily married and both wanting a child!
It's nice to be financially secure, but as the saying goes, if you wait for the money to be perfect the baby will never come. :-). Just make sure you have atleast a couple grand saved to cover bills or lost work.
2007-04-03 10:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you care or discuss your private life with your mother? You are married and this should be between you and your husband. Do not let your mother run your life. You are allowing this situation to happen here. Remember, "no one can take advantage of you unless you let them".
"If it weren't for her, I would be prego by now"...what does she stay in the bedroom with you and your husband so that you cannot have sex? That is absolutely ridiculous!
Remember that your husband is your closest family member now, NOT your mother. You are allowing her to get away with this. The question is, when are you going to grow up and grow a backbone sugar? I know this is your mother, but you need to cut this nonsense out and do something about this.
2007-04-03 09:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by PrincessOfFun35 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's time to take control of your own life. The decision is between you and your Hubby. Could it be that Mom fears being a Grandmother as she might think that labels her as "OLD" When you and hubby are ready go for it . Good Luck
2007-04-03 09:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by lucyshines49 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How are you going to be a parent if you're still letting your own parents boss you around? Your mother may have some valid points and you should take them into consideration, but so long as you've thought things through and you think you are ready, you've got no reason to put things off.!
2007-04-03 09:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is worth thinking about to wait - you want to be the absolute best mom you can be and thats really hard when youre serving in the AF AND trying to finish school.
2007-04-03 09:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by sierraskyesmom 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your mother has no control over your actions anymore. If you want to get a baby, do it. She can hate you for it (though I'm not sure why she would) but she can't stop you.
2007-04-03 09:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋