I'm about to meet my boyfriend's parents over dinner, and I'm super nervous. Any advice??

Answer 1

It's natural to be nervous, but there's no reason to be. Your boyfriend obviously cares a lot about you if he wants you to meet his parents, and if they see that he likes you, I'm sure they'll like you too. Just be yourself. Be nice, be sweet, and if they ask you about yourself, tell them about your family, your hobbies or interests, etc. Don't try too hard to impress them or be funny or anything like that, cause they'll know if you're not being genuine. You'll be fine! Have fun :)

Answer 2

That is the worst part of a relationship... fights, breaking up... nothing is as bad as "meeting the parents".

First, dress for the occasion: If you are used to wearing dresses all the time, wear a dress that isn't too fancy.

If you are a jeans girl, wear a clean, nice pair of jeans, not exteremly faded jeans or jeans with holes or anything. Keep the pant simple. Wear a sweet looking shirt, something that isn't too low cut and has sleeves.

Also do your make up very lightly (no red lipstick or blue eye-shadow), keep it natural, and don't make your hair too funky. Don't make it look like you are "dressing up", but remember about who it is you are meeting!

Smile plenty! The parents know you will likely be nervous, so just do your best take things calmly.

If your boyfriend ever leaves you alone with his parents (for example he goes to the restroom) kill that silence by complementing your boyfriend, "He is such a gentleman!" and what-not, and maybe even ask stories about when he was a kid.

Know your manners! Lots of thank yous, and pleases! And after dinner help his mother clear the table and offer to help her with whatever (if she starts washing the dishes right away or whatever). Complement the cook on the food! A little tip I've always noticed when coming to the in-laws, put your napkin in your lap. It's rather old fashion manner thing... and mothers usually notice it (don't make a show of it though).

Just relax and remember that sooner or later, the night will end!

After the night is over.. remember to tell your boyfriend how wonderful his family is! Don't say things like "I'm glad that is over" or anything!!

Answer 3

Meeting "the parents" for the first time is hard, so don't feel alone in this situation. Be yourself, and then you won't have to feel compelled to "be on your best behavior" every time you are around his family. He was raised by these people, so they are similar in many ways... so the same traits that attracted you to him in the first place will be present in his parents to some extent. So don't be nervous, just enjoy yourself and be respectful, and everything should work out fine.
Good Luck

Answer 4

The small fork is for the salad, the big fork is for the entre'.
The napkin goes in your lap, not tucked under your chin.
Sit up.
Elbows off the table.

Don't talk with your mouth full.
Don't order Spaghetti.
Don't order any alcoholic beverages - better to be boring and sober than drunkenly offering your bf's father a lap dance.
Don't discuss politics, religion, or sex.
Don't discuss topics which you and your boyfriend have not thoroughly discussed beforehand (plans for the future, etc).

Do be polite, even if they insist on discussing things which are none of their business. You've got your hooks into their baby, everything is their business.

Do be yourself as much as possible, without violating any of the don'ts above.

Do your research ahead of time. If bf's dad is a "sports nut" find out what team he follows, and learn a little about it. If mom is into crocheting or needle-point, at least look them up on line so you know what she's talking about when you ask her about any current "projects" she has.

Above all....BREATH.

Answer 5

Don't wear something crazy. I am not saying you need to go to j.crew and buy a new outfit. Just keep it simple, and modest.
Don't worry about saying something stupid. they are normal people. I just wouldn't choose the first dinner to debate. Use it as a time to get interesting info about these people. especially to get the funny embarrassing childhood stories about him that he won't tell you. Just have a sense of humor.
Offer to help the mom with serving/preparing/cooking.
It gives you a chance to get to know the first woman in your guy's life.
Just remember, your guy will like you no matter what. While its somewhat important that you and his family get along, its not the end of the world if you don't. Besides, you like their son, and thats a pretty good sign.Just be polite, have fun. and mistakes can be the moments that endear you to them. (they make great thanksgiving jokes later on)

Answer 6

Be yourself. He liked you the way you are enough to make you his gf and have you meet the parents (that's huge) then show them that same exact person and they'll love you too. Good luck.

Answer 7

It's normal to be nervous. After all it is very intimidating to "meet the parents". In the Philippines, we show our respect to our elders by saying "po". But when you meet them, say things that will make them like you for example:


"Good ______, how are you today?"
"Oh mrs. ____, I love your ____"
"Mr. _____, that's a very nice ____"

You can probably come up with a lot more when your in the situation, but most importantly, be yourself.


Good Luck!

Answer 8

Relax...I used to enjoy meeting GF's parents...I always knew I was smart and good looking and well grounded by my parents and if the GF liked me that was what was important anyway....so just be confident.

Answer 9

just smile and be polite, but also talk up a little. say please and thank you, don't be scared to eat, parents like seeing that.

annd, be yourself! your guy will stick up for you if anything happens. it's normal to be nervous, soo just relax! i've done it a couple of times, it's no big.

vote me best answer =] and good luck!

Answer 10

I've been in that situation. Be polite, but be yourself. If they ask you any questions, be honest. Compliment their home or food. And just let them know who you really are. Good luck!