so me and this guy david have been having a long distance relationship since the beggining of december, ive always trusted him untill recently at the end of march i went onto his myspace profile after a long time i dont normally get on it but i did cause his phone got turned off, so on his page i seen a bunch of comments from another girl saying how much she loved him and couldnt wait to spend the rest of her life with him and then i seen a picture of her within his other pics it was of her with a heading saying "this is my babygirl, she will be min and mine forever." i got realy upset and did some research and looked at her proflie and seen messages from him saying that he loved her with all his heart and he wanted to marry her, he had alreayd asked me to marry him and we were going to look for a ring this summer. so i confronted him and he said they were jsut good freind playing, what does he think i was born yesterday. idk if i should stay with him or not and jsut keep a close eye.
2007-04-03 08:53:33 · 39 answers · asked by Leeann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after i confronted him with this he claims that he deleted and blocked her, and he wont let me tlak to her, he says to jsut forget it. i cant get it off my mind and im scared that if i do take him back becasue of the distance he will jsut do it again, he claims that he loves me with all his heart but when i see him say taht he loves some other girl i feel differetn. i jsut dont know what to do and i really need some advice. should i still be with him, he claims he will never tlk to a girl like that and i can jsut keep a VERY close eye on him, or should i jsut give him up. im really in love with him and i dont knwo waht i would do with out him and i would do anything to make this relationshop work. but i od hate cheater i jsut dont know
2007-04-03 08:58:58 · update #1
if you caught him in the act....how can he deny it !?
2007-04-03 08:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by Cloudy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't even think about marriage! 1) You have not been with him long enough.. a 'honeymoon period' lasts about 6 months. This is when every thing is it's rosiest, when that is over and you have survived your first real rows etc then consisder if he is the one..
2) If he has possibly cheated so early on in the relationship what will he be like in 5, 10 or 15 years..?
3)If you don't trust him then there is no point in staying together. Get rid of him and find someone closer to home. Most long distance relationships don't last because the eyes can wander...
2007-04-03 09:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by gellygoggles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should check to see if they live in the same city or state. If not, then I would assume that they were just playing (unless they knew each other before myspace). You shouldn't worry too much about that. U obviously have a problem with him flirting online so tell him that u don't like that. If he is worth being with he will respect that it makes u insecure and he will stop it. If not then drop him. U should definitly try to see whether they live close enough to have ever met before. If they do then I would be a little suspicious. P.S Make sure not to talk to him too much about it until u have some idea of what's really going on. If u talk to much now he may start to cover things up...if something is even going on.
2007-04-03 09:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, maybe if you need to have a long talk with him and hear his side of the story. he might have a good explination. or you could just wait and see how it goes. maybe he was telling the truth, and was just playing around with a friend for a joke. or you could get in the way a bit and leave a message saying 'what is this all about' or something. maybe the other girl is in the same position as you are.
if none of this works, you'll just have to let him go.
although, if you are in love with him, just trust him and keep telling yourself that it's ok. don't keep going on about it to him though.
2007-04-03 09:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kirby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you only been dating this guy since december and thats only 4 months. Ive been there girl there is no way I would marry this guy and even if they were just playing I would definantly take a break from him and see how things go. Ignore him and if he really loves you like he says he does he will come chasing you. Just be careful... good luck
2007-04-03 08:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by prettynpink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!!
Please don't stay with him as you will always be looking over your shoulder and you will start to become insecure.
I would go on her myspace site and ask her questions if she say's she is with him then i would let her know that he has been with you for a while and promised to marry you. He can't have his cake and eat it....Bloody men!!!
If he can't be man enough to tell you the truth then he's not worth it.
You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince!
2007-04-03 08:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by x Jay Jay x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are married and your partner is away for work or deployed in the military, there is NO SUCH THING AS A "LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP". Once you leave someone or vice versa, the "relationship" is pretty much over. You both need to move on. Love the one you are with!
2007-04-03 08:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Richard Hurtz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm talking from experience when I say that whatever you decide to do, your relationship will NEVER be the same again. Personally I wouldn't bother trying to fix the relationship if he hasn't got enough respect for you to tell the truth.
2007-04-03 08:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by dnbgrrly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding, right?????? You already know the answer ..... but it sounds like you are going to keep asking people till u et the answer you WANT to hear so I won't waste my time telling you what I really think. Sooooooo I think it's a GREAT idea to stay with him. I think he will be very faithful to you!!!! Can I come to the wedding?
2007-04-03 08:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myspace is crawling with cheaters....Beware... if you confronted him and he's denying it then you should go to the girls myspace page and ask her...See what she has to say.. don't tell her who you are just ask if he's her man and she will I'm sure take it from there... I know if you asked me who someone was in a photo I had and he was my man I would get upset and defensive....just being honest...
And if he was cheating on you with her then I'm sure she would like to know....Inform her.....nicely!
2007-04-03 09:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by danxtsupamodel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you saw him with your own eyes, how can you still love him and saying what should you do. Well there is only one thing to do is to, just leave him alone with someone who you saw him with. He is just using you nothing else. Open your eye what he's doing to you. He is lying throw his teeth ,why don't you tell the girl you saw with him that he's your boyfriend that he's cheating with both of you.
2007-04-03 09:09:18 · answer #11 · answered by Ashisweety 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋