How do you know that your girlfriend is ready to become your fiance? Are there certain signs one should look for? Is there a time period that should elapse before you should think about marriage
2007-04-03 08:52:23 · 25 answers · asked by citizenparticular 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It should definatly be a matter of years, not months, but every couple moves at their own pace. If you are truly ready, ask her! If she sayd yes, then she is ready too.
2007-04-03 08:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by kitmandoo22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have never talked about marriage before then I wouldn't reccomend that you ask your girlfriend to marry you yet, thats something that should be discussed at some point in the relationship before its brought forth to the other person for a Yes or No decision. But knowing when to ask the question is different for everyone. But a couple of things you should make sure of before you pop the question are:
Can you afford to BE/GET married? and
Have you been together long enough to feel you really know the other person and can trust them with that kind of commitment and responsibility?
Alot of people make the mistake of getting married simply because they are excited at the thought of the ceremony and honeymoon, but have no idea what to expect once they are married, make sure you know and understand the things that will be required of you after all the fun/easy stuff is done.
I know in my own situation, I have been with my fiance for 5 years before we got engaged and we are planning a long engagement of at least another 3-4 years to unsure that by the time we are married we have bought a home, that our careers are stable and we are settled in them, that we're finished going to University and that we'vesaved up and can afford to pay for all the upcoming costs of our wedding (yep, we're paying for all of it, no help from the family at all; if you can afford to BE married, you should be able to afford to GET married).
Good luck though with the asking and everything afterwards!
2007-04-03 09:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by West_End_Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she freaks out at the words "commitment", "children", "marrige", Then i would say shes not. But it depends on how long you have been together and why you have been together that long and if you want it to last even longer. Also how close are you to eachother? is she the one? (for sure) and the only way you can be sure is by proposing! if you do pamper her take her to get a massage, the out to a nice dinner maybe like the place you met or were you had your 1st date. You know the little things. Or maybe play "your song" if you guys have one. While you propose.
2007-04-03 09:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by elizacandle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will definitely know. Usually the woman will start initiating talks about marriage and stuff. You could even initiate it if you feel that you're at a point in your life that this is the direction you want to go in.
A lot of couples even begin saying, mutually, "yeah, I know we're going to get married, it's just a matter of time really." Then it's just up to someone to propose.
2007-04-03 08:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The line should be between girlfriend and WIFE. Fiance means that you have arranged to be married, and your just waiting for the date. The question of g/f vs wife is a very big one to ask here, and its way to personal as to what you want.
2007-04-03 08:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by xturboexpress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question: Iv'e been involved for ten years with a wonderful woman. She told me last week if we win the lotto she will ask me to marry her! Was that a hint in the sence that I don't make enough money or a hint that I must ask her. Anyhow, I love her to bits and I just feel the time is right.
That's the anwer: When it feels right to you!
2007-04-03 08:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed marriage with her? Have you discussed what you want out of life? When you each talk about the future, do you see the other one in it? If you haven't done any of this, start feeling her out (don't literally if you know what I mean). Ask her how she feels about the idea of marriage, what she sees in her future, does she see you? Have you each said you love the other?
2007-04-03 08:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by batscout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere between "I love you" and "Will you marry me" eh?
If she's talking about the "future," and you are actually in her plans, she may be waiting for you to pop the question.
If you've had dinner with her parents at least once, and have been invited back, she may be waiting for you to pop the question.
If you've plaid monopoly together, and are still on speaking terms, she may be waiting for you to pop the question.
If you've talked about religion, and haven't started a Holy War, she may be waiting for you to pop the question.
If you've talked about politics, and she still kisses you good night when the date's over, she may be waiting for you to pop the question.
If she's leaving subtle hints around the house, like flyers for engagement ring sales, she may be waiting for you to pop the question.
If you can imagine yourself waking up next to her for the rest of your life, or at least giving her half your stuff if you can't, she may be waiting for you to pop the question.
2007-04-03 09:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, you're ready for marriage.
2007-04-03 08:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most couples have discussed it when they have moved into the very serious relationship stage. Listen to your heart...you will know when the time is right for the two of you...good luck
2007-04-03 08:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋