I am joining the marien corps, i have twin girls and a fiance, we were going to get married before i went to bootcamp. the recriuter i went to told me i was not allowed to get married until after bootcamp because i cant have 3 dependents when i go to bootcamp. , he said when i get my 10 days after bootcamp i can get married and not until then or they wouldnt let me join the marines. is he lying, what should i do, just wait to get married, if i wait can i still send my family money for the bills? that is my biggest conceren is sending my family money.
2007-04-03 06:09:34 · 16 answers · asked by kenneth m 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Just wait, the military in general do not like big families for newbies.
2007-04-03 06:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by George D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The recruiter did not lie, the thing is, if you go in with all of those dependents then the military doesn't want you, you can only offically join the military if you would make enough money to support your family and unless you are going in as higher than a E5 then you "offically" can not provide for your family. The other thing is that when you go to bootcamp sometimes it takes time to get the pay up and going and so if you had a "family" then it could cause even more issues.
All the money is directly deposited and so you would just add your fiancee to your bank account and she could handle the finances, and yes you do have time after you are done with boot camp and then you can go get married.
All the money that you get again will be put into your bank account, but it can take awhile to inprocess you, and so either you being married or not you might not see the money until you are done with boot camp. That is one of the reasons that they like small families or single soldiers, because the soldiers are taken care of during that time because they are in boot camp. To take care of a large family is hard when you might not get any money.
2007-04-03 06:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the first week of boot camp you will be given a debit card for recruit-exchange purchases, and all your pay will go into the account the debit card is tied to. If you order checks at that time, you will be able to send checks to your fiance when you write to her.
But the recruiter did not lie. You cannot enter boot camp with three dependants. You will have 10 days leave after boot camp graduation, though. Your wedding plans need to be VERY flexible, because it's common to not graduate the date you expect you will. Injuries, illness, failure to perform a task, physical fitness... those are all things that can bump your graduation date.
Also, you will not be able to utilize off-base base housing or take your family with you until you complete schooling and are assigned to your permanent duty station. At that point you will qualify for off-base housing assistnace and you'll be free to move the whole family.
Oh,. and by the way, the word "Marine" is ALWAYS spelled with a capital M. You'll understand that more by the time you graduate from boot.
The BEST online resource for you and your family is http://www.marineparents.com
You will find a wealth of information about the USMC, as well as support for your fiance and parents while you're in boot, and later on, when you're deployed.
2007-04-03 09:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am unsure as to wether this is true with the marines or not, but not with all lines of the military. The military pays you per your family in some cases (how large your quarters are, etc). That is probably why he is concerned. HOWEVER, if you are responsible for your fiance and children, you can have your money sent anywhere you want to. Have it deposited directly in a bank your fiance has rights to.
My brother in law has his mom on his bank account where the marines deposit his money. She has all rights to his money, just like he does.
2007-04-03 06:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by sheristeele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes and no. Technically you are only allowed two dependents when youu join HOWEVER they can issue you a waiver for the third dependent, you just have to ask for it and if your current recruiter isn't willing to file the paperwork for you, go to a different recruiter!
2007-04-03 06:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by mustangsally76 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's lying. You can have as many damn dependants as you want. The smartest thing for you to do is to get married before you go in. You'll receive more money, which is probably why he doesn't want you to do it.
Go get married, and then tell him to deal with it or you'll join the Navy / Army / Air Force.
2007-04-03 06:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by ski4ever1977 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have to wait to get married. I would consult with another person from the Marine Corps that is not your recruiter to see what the policy is.
2007-04-03 06:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by msi_cord 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's full of it. You still have to provide for your family. If he doesn't understand then join the Navy, Air Force, Army, or Cost Guard.
2007-04-03 06:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Rusty Shackleford 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't want to have to pay you more, your pay is based on the number of people in your family. why would you want to go into the marines if they don't want your family, something is not right, I would be very careful and go and talk to another recruiter, hey the post office is looking for people, and you don't get shot at and they don't care how many kids you have!
2007-04-03 06:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that recruiters can't have more than 3 dependents...so I don't doubt it.
Hubby and I (he's Army) got married during his Christmas leave during AIT.
You'll have to have direct deposit - so have it go to your regular bank that she has access to....easiest way.
2007-04-03 06:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋