Here me out everyone! I'm one of those nice people that aren't racist to anyone no matter what culture... ahem... had to clear my throat. So here it is, my Black friend called me a ****@. I'm white and I figured okay what's up my ****@, because we're friends and I thought he would be cool with it, but Oh,Noze!, he got pissed off at me and said "You can't say that ****@ to me!!! That's racist!!" I was like "Well, you said it to me... LOL." he was like "Oh, um... well that's different... It's okay if I say it to you because you're White."
I told him to not call me that word If can't say it back to him in a friendly way... The word ******* is racist, but ****@ is a different meaning.
It's weird because I have another Black friend that doesn't mind if I use it to him... he don't care as long as I use the A at the end.
What's your thoughts on this, double standard?
2007-04-03 05:36:29 · 6 answers · asked by Randy S 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Honey, it's a word. Tell him the only way he can govern the use of a common word is if he has it copyrighted. Does he? I doubt it.
Here's the deal, that word only has power if people give it power. Allowing someone of one race to say a word and not allowing someone of another race to say it is racism, plain and simple.
People like to think that because African American people were opressed, we have to give them privilege over us now. That is called "soft-prejudice," and, if I were African American, I'd find that patronizing and insulting. The language double standard, the extreme affirmative action laws, and the double standards in criminal law are all examples of how white people are getting the shaft. We've gone past equal rights and are now in the area of special privilege. This needs to be set right.
No one should have to pay just because their great great grandfather did something bad. The people we're coddling now aren't even old enough to have been slaves. It was 200 years ago. Get over it, America!
2007-04-03 09:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there is a very big double standard when it comes to using this word. I am a black woman and I say you are right he should not say it to you if you can't use it in reference to him. But if it were like he just said the word in your presence and you took this as permission to use it just because he felt comfortable enough to say it around you then that is not right. We use it as either a very harsh word to spit venom at another person who has irritated or offended us or as a type of pet name to the homie. Its the equivalent to women calling each other bi*&hes but you know as a man that it is not right to call a woman a bi&*h playing or not. Some words some people can say and those around them will be accepting. Other words most people just know better not to say.
2007-04-03 13:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by kattiegrl2004 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since I have been in this type of social structure, here is your responce " shut up craker ". See how it works. And occasionally you will have the friend you can call a ****@. There are no double standards.
2007-04-03 13:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Ray2play 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Did this story really happen? Or did you want an excuse to ask a question? Either way, I think you're "friend" is silly and you shouldn't talk to him anymore.
2007-04-03 13:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your friends are total douch bags. I have never heard n e 1 act like such douches. Your '****@' friend is a douche too,
2007-04-03 13:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by d bag 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
HE'S being racist and has one heck of a double standard.
then again, since he called you the N word, call him a "cracka".
:)
2007-04-03 13:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋