Okay so there is this guy I like & I want to be able to date him but my parents think that he is too wild and they are stereotypicaling him to be a typical wild guy that treats girls bad! How do I tell them that I want to be able to make my own decisions & learn from my mistakes without being rude? My parents are very protective of me and I love them for it but I want to be able to make my own decisions. Does anyone know how to help me? I really like him because he is like my total opposite! I am very talkative and he's not and I'm not shy at all and he is. I just wish that my parents would let me make my own decisions. My dad says that he is just trying to protect me and I totally understand that but I have a GOOD head on my shoulders and I'm not the type of girl that will do anything bad! Please help me figure out how to tell them to just give him one chance! I have had trouble with guys in the past treatin' my like crap so could that be the reason they are like this! Please help me!
2007-04-03 05:27:44 · 13 answers · asked by fastpitchchicka_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, how old are you?
If you are still in high school (assuming you are), then ask your parents if it is ok if your friend comes over for dinner or to watch a movie. That way they can meet the boy and get to know him, and you get to hang out with him. If he thinks that is lame, then you need to get a new love interest.
2007-04-03 05:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Katrina81 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are correct and you are not.
You have a track record, that is what they are looking at.
why do you want a totally wild and crazy guy????
Are you really looking for trouble?
Maybe you should take a tour of a prison and see some of the wild and crazy guys???? Maybe it will open up your eyes.
You must think that you can handle anything......hink again dearie, you might get yourself in a jack pot that you can't get out of.
Maybe you should go bungee jumping for a thrill and don't put your well being physically and emotionally in the hands of a wild and crazy person.
I can't support your plea....You are so off base here it is unfortunate. You need to grow up a lot before you should be making your own decisions. Your parents are right....and now they have to protect you from yourself, your bad decision and your reckless abandon.
2007-04-03 12:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Ya know, I understand where your dad is coming from and then I do also understand where you are coming from. I was once with a guy who was 4 years older than me. Of course, I thought he was amazing and everything that I wanted. He was "cool","popular", "had money", "had a cool car". Ya he WAS all of those.
Well, before you know it "that guy" took my virginity and then shortly after that I ended up pregnant. I was sixteen years old. I have absolutely no regrets. My son is almost ten now and my other son will be eight.
On the other hand, coming from your dads view... I could see him watching out for you. I would if you were my daughter, due to past things that I had gone through. Consider your dads concern a bit of a blessing, even though it just seems really tough. My mom didnt stop me from seeing the dud that fathered my two kids. All I can say i guess is, you live and learn. You could ask for your dad to meet him. Maybe things will be smoother...
2007-04-03 12:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Well you definitely sound like a mature girl and you sound like you've got a GOOD head on your shoulders! Lol!
First things first, how old are you and how old is he? If you're under 16, the first thing they're probably worried about is underage sex! If you're over 16, they'll be worried about unprotected sex! Then of course, they will be worried about you getting hurt if you have been hurt in the past.
The best way you can win them round is to show them how mature you are. Sit them both down (together if you can!) and explain how you feel about him. Say you wouldn't want to go against their wishes and you don't want to upset them, but that you really like this guy and you really want to go out with him.
Whatever you do, don't have a teenage strop :-) If they keep saying no, remain calm, and if you're upset and need to cry, do so quietly! Screaming and shouting won't help you win them round. You don't seem like the kind of girl to scream and shout though.
Explain to them that you need to make your own mistakes in life. Your parents obviously love you a great deal and don't want you to get hurt. Tell them that you understand this. Tell them that you know all about sex and you're not about to do something stupid. Explain to them that you know they care about you, but if they keep wrapping you up in cotton wool whilst you're a teenager, by the time you hit your twenties (or go to college) you won't have any experience with guys and you'll make even more mistakes then! Tell them that you just want to learn things by yourself.
If they still say no, explain to them what a good guy you think this boy is. Maybe make a deal with them that you can go out with him if he is willing to meet them. Where have they got the impression he's a playboy and a wild guy from? Have they met him before? If so, persuade them to meet him again. If he's really into you, he'll be willing to go through the 'meeting the parents' hell if it means he gets to see you! If they agree to him coming over for dinner (or something similar), make sure he's polite and brings a gift and proves himself! If he says no to meeting your parents, he isn't the right guy for you.
Hopefully if you approach them maturely and put their fears to rest they will let you see him.
Good luck!
xx Emmie
2007-04-03 12:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this strong you need to sit down and have a dinner at home with this guy and your parrents so they can get to know him. At first let you dad decide the terms on when he can come around. Just be careful if you procede with this relationship. My sister had the same problem last year, she was level headed and smart. She got pregnant, and moved in with him, then everything seemed fine then he started beating her she barley got out with the baby alive. Not saying this will happen just include your parrents with this and make sure he is what he seems to be. best of luck!
2007-04-03 12:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them exactly what you said here that you have a good head on your shoulders but you need to go out and experience life and learn from whatever mistakes you may make. tell them that it's not fair for them to judge anyone because he seems like the typical bad boy doesn't mean he is!
2007-04-03 12:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having said that you have already been treated badly your parents are trying to prevent you making the same mistake again. Try evaluating him as they are - make a list of similarities and differences he has with your previous boyfriends - you may see what they see. Good Luck!
2007-04-03 12:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old you are... Say things like, "look I don't want to be like those kids that sneak around, I want us to have a good relationship, i want to be able to take your advice and make my own decision." this will suggest that you can consider to sneak around eventually if they don't ease alittle. Tell them that if they really want to keep you safe they will let you experience life for yourself, they can't protect you from everything, and heart break is eventual. "We may break up and i will be sad and mad if that happens, but with your support in seeing him, i won't / can't be mad at you!" Besides, by not letting you see him you won't be able to decide whether you really like him for him, or like him because your parents don't.
2007-04-03 12:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are probably right they have experianced alot and teach you based on mistakes that they have already made and want to save you the pain of going through it yourself try to be open minded and listen to what they are trying to tell you
you can experiance life by learning from your own mistakes but a truely smart person learns from the mistakes of others and doesnt repeat them
2007-04-03 12:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by NAYNAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that they cant controle your life you need to make your own mistakes and learn your own lessons if not try to find another guy till you can move out...
2007-04-03 12:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋