If so, why did you? Are you all still friends?
2007-04-03 04:25:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes!!! I knew he was messing around on her. i couldnt tell her because then she would just stay with him and not believe me, it eventually worked out.
She made him use condoms all the time, but he hated them, so a friend of mine had herpes, and i asked her to hook up with him and she did and he got the herpes...cruel, yes i know, but you shouldnt ever get on my bad side what can i say.....
We are still very good friends and she doesnt even know about my involvement about the herpes thing ;) some things are better left unsaid.
2007-04-03 04:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...my best friend could not see that this guy was a user! He was 10 years older, and I think he was married. He was such a creep - that she was compromising her own integrity just to be with him.
Since we shared an apartment, I told her that he couldn't come over and STAY overnight anymore. (He would avoid the rest of us in the house and just go into her room late at night) If he wanted to come over, he would have to be out in the living room with the rest of us. This started a big fight and we told her that he was just using her for sex and a place to stay at night.
We didn't hardly talk for a couple of weeks after that. I had a terrible nightmare that we hated each other and I wanted to kill her. That freaked me out so bad that I had to tell her. I went into her room and we talked - and she dumped the guy.
Yes, we remained the very best friends...and she is still my best friend in my heart. She was killed in a car accident when we were 25.
2007-04-03 04:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by pknutson_sws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH YES! But it's their life to lead, you can only give suggestions. It will only be a hinderance in your friendship if you let it be. You can still be good friends with your friend and just spend less time with their significant other. It can be hard, but it's her life to lead, all you can do is bring up advice once in a while, and let her decide.
2007-04-03 04:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. The best thing you can do is continue to be a friend to them. The worst thing you can do is interfere in their relationship. If you do that, you won't be friends anymore.
I am still friends with him, but not nearly as much. I kept my mouth shut when I didnt really like his girlfriend, but he decided to bad mouth my girlfriend on a regular basis because he is jealous that I spend a lot of time with her.
Bottom line, don't get in between them, if they are wrong for each other, your friend knows whats best for him/her, he will realize it.
The other side of this is if there is abuse. If there is abuse in the relationship, get in the way.
2007-04-03 04:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by ShadowASL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question!
I strongly dislike my sister's boyfriend (and she is like a best friend to me!). He's cheated on her, been violent towards her and treated her like dirt. Yet she chooses to be with him. It causes all kinds of problems, and it has caused me to be angry with her at certain points. But I think in these situations, unfortunately, people have to make their own mistakes.
On the other hand, my best friend did not like my ex-boyfriend. Apparently, none of them did! I never knew this until he cheated on me and I dumped him. Once I'd dumped him, they all suddenly told me they'd hated him from the first moment they met him! Since then I've made them promise to tell me if they don't like any of my future boyfriends, as their opinion matters to me.
I think the best thing to do in this situation is gently tell your friend you do not like certain things about their partner, or the way their partner treats them. After that, they have to make their own decisions and as their best friend, you have to support them when you can.
xx Emmie
2007-04-03 04:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I hated him because he was mean to my friend and their children. Yes were still friends, and hes finally out of the picture. Gotta love a good divorce!
2007-04-03 04:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely - I have often clashed with some of them just because they seemed to be less than they deserve but I simply avoid spending time with the friend when they are with their partner and let them get on with it - its their life and their decisions/mistakes and Im not the one who has to live with them. I respect that and am there for them when they discover what I already knew lol.
2007-04-03 04:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disliked my brothers wife. My best friend disliked my girlfriend. I decided not to say anything to my brother. It was his choice who he marries not mine. Besides, as long as she wasn't a mass murderer it was not my problem. My best friend, on the other hand, decided to vocalize his dislike of my girlfriend. I ended up marrying her. Needless to say, I no longer speak to my ex-best friend.
Conclusion, no matter how much you hate their choice, you are not permitted to say anything or else your relationship will become "weird".
2007-04-03 04:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by blue2monday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, i hated him because he cheated on her all the time. i have even caught him. he dated my other friend not knowing that she was my friend and when i found out i told my best friend and introduced her to the other girl. she still dated him after that anyways. i am still good friends with her i am just honest in telling her how i feel about him
2007-04-03 04:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by poeticscribe1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! I don't like my sis's husband either. But you do what you have to do. Be civil and tolerate the partner for the sake of your friend. Your friend shouldn't have to worry about her choices being acceptable to you, and vice versa.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-04-03 04:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by datgirl88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋