Question about my dead sister?

Question

Last night I had trouble sleeping. When I did get to sleep, I dreamt about my sister who died a month ago today. All we could do was hold each other in the dream. She was saying stuff that didn't make any sense, but the one thing she said I heard clear as day. She said, "Mom and Dad ran me out of town." Our dad threw her out of the house when she was a teenager and has hated him ever since.

I haven't had any dreams about her since she died, and I'm kind of unsettled by it. In fact, it's making me remember how much I miss her, and I'm trying not to cry my eyes out again. Is it normal to have dreams about dead loved ones, and how long will this continue? In addition, is she trying to communicate with me?

Answer 1

She's is for sure trying to communicate with you. Look at it as her being with you. She is dead phisycally but not spiritually. Enjoy those dreams. But at the same time try listening to them and what they are trying to tell you. Maybe you should tell your parents about what she said. Maybe that hurt her really bad all her life but never had the guts to confront her/your parents with it. She might want you to tell them something. Maybe that is the last thing she wants to do before she rests in peace. Good luck.

Answer 2

Wow.. I'm sorry for your loss. Having dreams about dead loved ones is completely normal. I believe that through dreams, they can and do communicate with loved ones who are left behind. The fact that you had the dream a month to the day after her death is very interesting. I have had dreams about loved ones, but usually they are silent and I just knew they wanted me to know that they were okay now and at peace. You may just have to wait and see if you have more significant dreams about her, and if they are really bothering you, seek grief counseling and talk about it with someone who has an open mind.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

Yes more then likely she is trying to communicate with you , as well as your own memories of her and you. First of all your sister is still able to see you and feel you, so realize that death is only a clear glass away from us. They can see us but its hard for them to communicate to us depending on how determined they are to talk to you. You may see her as flashing street lights when you walk under them. You can have lighting at home go off and on. You can hear a radio go off or on. You can misplace something look for the longest time and find they put it just where you were looking. (they love that one) You may feel her around you. You may see a light, a flash or see her spirit which can appear looking sort of like an upright jelly fish. Stringy whitish lines and hovering. She can chose to come through your dreams only as well. Know she is there with you. And rest assured she is in a great place..you will be with her yourself one day when you are very old.

Answer 4

My grandmother who I was close with just died a few months ago and two weeks after she died I had a dream of her telling me she was fine and to stop crying. The dream seemed real. That was the only dream I had of her so it makes you think she was trying to communicate with me. Maybe thats what is going on with you.

Answer 5

I know how you feel hon, I lost my dad 3 years ago and I have dreams about him all the time, he was an avid outdoors man and known around our town for fishing in tournaments and stuff and everytime I dream about him we are usually at that type of even.. it started once I was thinking about doing a memorial tournament! anyways he and I talk but I cant understand what he is saying and just before I wake up he tells me I gotta go and starts walking away and I wake up crying and saying daddy dont leave me I love you come back please come back and im 21yrs old he has been gone since 2004 I honestly think this is his way of telling me something but I am not sure what it is! I have had alot of problems since he died (anxiety, Post tramatic stress disorder, I fear death you name it) I think that eventually it will come to you what your sister is talking about in the dreams! if not go to www.johnedwards.com he does stuff like that maybe you could attend one of his shows and maybe your sister would come threw to him and you could get some insight! wouldnt hurt would it???

Answer 6

Some believe that when a loved one whom has passed comes to you in a dream this is them visiting you. They aren't necessarily trying to tell you anything just wanting to visit with you and try to consul you. To let you know they are ok, I guess. If you are not ready for this you can tell god to please help you not remember these visits until you are ready.

I believe that this is true. I also believe that when you are asleep your soul goes up to heaven to visit with your loved ones and you of course return before you wake up. We never remember these journeys but they do help you heal.

I am sorry that you lost someone but over time you will heal, things will never be the same but you won't hurt as much as often.

Answer 7

i'm sorry about your lost of your sister, don't what im going to say is gonna be of any help but those things happen when love ones comes to people in dreams i have friend it has happened to him already and in my own experience ther was one a lady i knew who died i never got the chance to visit her as kid i rememebr her last words to me before she died i remember playing in the yard she said "carville why are u playing in the mud" of cousre bieng a kid i jus laughed but never looked at her face in fact the only thing i saw was her dress blowing in the wind and that was it she feel ill, died couldn't attended her funeral and in my mind over those yrs i just wanted to see her face one more time and she did and i was in my early twenties she never spoke a word all she did was smiled and i was happy... so i wouldn't worry to much may your sister just wanted to let u know don't really now the problem but it gonna be alright perhaps some other she may appear who knows but don't dwell on it to much you still got a life to leave even though you loved you sister to the fullest :)

Answer 8

i had a dream about a close friend that died shortly after we graduated. She died in a very bad car accident and i was very close to her family. I dreamed that i was at our reunion in high school and she was there. She just looked at me and told me that she was ok. And then went away.
I believe it is very normal to have dreams about people that die close to us. I don't know how long they will last it really just depends and i don't know it they try to communicate or it is just our minds seeking some closure.
I hope that your dreams bring peace to you and im sorry for your loss.

Answer 9

I have dreamed of my grandfather who passed away, a friend who passed away and also a grandmother who passed away. I honestly believe that I was really communicating with them in my dream! It was wonderful time in my dream, I wasn't sad, I was comforted.

Yes, maybe she was trying to tell you something. Maybe she was letting you know that she was ok. I am a Christian and I believe when people pass away they go to Heaven. In the bible it says there will be no tears or sadness in heaven. No hate or anger. So maybe she was telling you something you knew but also maybe telling you she wasn't angry about it anymore. I am not sure about that part.

When I dreamed of my passed loved ones it was kind of a way for me to say goodbye, to hug them again and to be with them.

I don't know if it will continue. I have prayed for more dreams about my grandfather and haven't had one in over more than 1 1/2. I don't think God would want you have them if they hurt you. But also you have some unresolved feelings about your sister leaving her home as a teen that you need to work out. So you might want to talk to someone about that.

My dream about my grandfather who had passed was wonderful! I dreamed it the day he died. He was up in Heaven and showing me his new home in Heaven. He was so excited he couldn't contain himself! He was rushing around showing me everything. I have never seen him so happy. When he was alive he collected political cartoons and he had them framed on the walls! He hugged me and said, "Come look!" I told my grandmother about the dream a few days later and she had tears in her eyes. She was happy to know he was happy.

If you want to dream about her again I'd suggest praying. Ask God to let you talk to her. This is what I do. It may happen or may not. Like I said I haven't dreamed of my grandfather in awhile. But when I did dream of him, the hugs were real and life like. I do believe with all my heart it was my soul connecting with his & he was letting me know he was ok.

God bless

Answer 10

Yes, it is normal to dream about the people we love, who have died.

When my Mom died, she used to come to me in dreams quite often for that first year after her death. Most of those dreams were just scenarios that my subconscious made up to make me feel better (and they did help).

The other dreams...what I called REAL dreams....I chose to take as messages from her. One of them was a dream that I had at least 10 times, where she disappeared from mine and my father's lives (I was living in their house, taking care of my Dad) and moved downtown to be by herself for five years. But five years after she left, my Dad left the house one day, and went downtown and found her, and brought her back home. In my dream she was young and vibrant, as she would have been in her mid 30's, even though she was 84 when she died.

Then in May (coming close to Mother's Day) of 2005, I had a dream where me and my Mom and her sister (who had died one year after my Mom) were sitting at our diningroom table getting stuff ready for Thanksgiving dinner. And we were talking about family and friends, when my Mom turned to me and said "Don't worry. It is going to be a REAL thanksgiving." The sentence was really emphasized in the dream, and I can still see her face as she said it. And unlike other dreams, I remember that one completely, and the recollection of it has not dulled over time. (This is why I call them REAL dreams.)

Well, on Thanksgiving night of 2005, just 30 minutes before I would have served out the full turkey dinner, I went into my Father's room to get him ready (he was 93) and found him dead in his bed. He had been fine, but sleeping just 30 minutes before then when I checked on him last. The kicker is that his death happened FIVE years after my Mom's. I gather that he "went downtown" to find her.