Am I cheating?

Question

My roommate says I do.
I have a bf, and I keep dating other guys on the weekdays, but as it's just for sex, I feel I'm not cheating. When I'm with my bf, is everything OK

Answer 1

Wow, he** yeah your cheating. Your boyfriend doesn't deserve that, yes your still with him but you are keeping lies and secrets from him which is wrong. If you want to go and have sex with other guys, then your own guy must not be good enough for you. Come clean to him and if you want to keep him don't ever do it again, but if you don't need him leave him and do what you do. I would understand if it was just hanging out with guys on the weekends as friends, but sex is far past the limit of cheating. You should feel really bad, but ya good luck, and i hope you change your habits very soon

Answer 2

Yes, darling, you are cheating. I completely understand where you are coming from, though. You think that since you are not emotionally attached to the guys you are sleeping with, it should not be considered cheating. I know it's hard to see why, cos cheating is so hard to define...you love this guy, but he doesn't fulfill all your sexual needs so you find someone who can. But that's cheating...because you are sharing intimacy with other guys and you are not supposed to. Basically, cheating is when you share your "body and/or soul" (like kissing, passionate touching, having sex etc) with another person aside from your boyfriend.

The thing is though, that it is just not a fair thing to do to your boyfriend. If he is there for you and treats you right and does not cheat on you that means that he is dedicated to you and it's just not fair that you don't respect that enough to not go running around with other guys. The thing is that unfortunately, in a serious monogamous relationship (which your boyfriend thinks you relationship is) you just can't EVER have it all (or you can but it's extremely rare). Basically, you have to settle.

Now, I'm not saying settle for anything, but settle in the sense that, once you figure out what is most important to you in a relationship or what are those most important things that you want your boyfriend to have and then settle for the less important ones. To you, the most important thing is sexual fulfillment and since your guy cannot offer that it is unfair that you are leading him on, making him think that he is the one who adequately fulfills you. That's not just cheating on him, it's lying right into his face and it's not nice.

In my opinion, you are not ready for a serious relationship yet and until you are, forget having a steady boyfriend. Have a guy friend and lots and lots of f-buddies...and that's OK, cos once you are ready fir a serious relationship, you'll stop sleeping around. But take your time, there's plenty of time for serious...now, just have fun and sleep with as many guys as you want; it does not make you a whore no matter what people say...you are just exploring things, right? You'll settle when you are ready. But until you are ready, just forget about your current boyfriend and dump him so he can find someone who will appreciate him better. Good luck!

Answer 3

My answer may be a little different than the others you've received because it could be either way, depending on the cirmumstances. If you have made a committment to your boyfriend and agreed to not see or sleep with other people, sleeping with other men is absolutely cheating. If you have an "open" relationship, where you've mutually agreed that sex with others is fine, you are not cheating.

Here's where it gets complicated though. If you've made no committments to your boyfriend, but he doesn't know that you're sleeping with other men, you may not call it cheating, but he might see it that way if he ever finds out.

As long as your boyfriend is aware of what you are doing and is ok with it, I'd say you're in the clear.

Please, be careful of mixed signals so no one gets hurt.

And without a doubt, please practice safe sex!

Answer 4

As much as I would love to be an optimist and say that you're not cheating; sorry honey, but you are. Unless you and your boyfriend have layed it all out and you two aren't in a serious relationship, but judging from what you've said, it looks like you *are* in a serious relationship, and going out and having sex with other guys is cheating. Perhaps it doesn't feel like you are, but look at it this way; if he finds out and it hurts him, and you feel guilty, then you can't just say it didn't feel like cheating at the time.

Answer 5

Oh heck yeah.

It's weird. Women, in general, are more concerned when their boyfriend/husband has an emotional affair with another woman. (Of course, physical is really bad too, and I'd personally be equally pissed at both).

Men, however, don't care as much about an emotional affair and it's the physical affairs that infuriate them. Why? It's biological. Men, by instinctual nature, do not want to raise another man's child. Sex, biologically speaking, is to procreate. When you go have sex with another guy, you have a chance of carrying this guy's child.

Nothing's okay. You better break it to your boyfriend. It's a lot better to do it now than when he gets an STD or something and gets confused as all hell.

Answer 6

HAHA r u serious??? u have sex with other guys while having a boyfriend and ask stupid questions like 'am i cheating?' Ur more than cheating him!!! How can u ever think this is ok?? Break up with him if u want 2 carry on this way.

Answer 7

hello!?!?!?!? yes you are cheating.....why do you feel like you have to sleep around on the weekends to get satisfied? who knows what std you picked up and gave your bf? if he found out, he'd drop you so fast! how can you say that when you're with you bf "everything" is ok? it's NOT! your roommate should tell your bf! if she doesn't you should!

Answer 8

no. u r cheating and u should either stop cheating or break up with your boyfriend. its really unfair to him and when he finds out, it will break his heart, so just leave him for good now. if u r unsure and think tht he might be OK with that. ask him what he considers cheating. then u`ll see. but please, leave him for good. dont screw up his life. i understand u want adventure or smth, but it doesnt mean that people should get hurt. u either choose to be with 1 person or u choose to be with different people every weekend. its your call, but dont continue what u do now. sex is not only a physical act, it makes people intimate, they get closer and there is a connection esatblished between them. it shouldnt be taken lightly as u do. so, please leave your boyfriend alone. dont break his heart. u know deep inside that what u do is VERY WRONG>

Answer 9

Are you serious? If you have a boyfriend that thinks he is the only guy in your life and you sleep around with other men, and he has no idea you are doing it, that is the definition of cheating. You can't possibly be that clueless can you? If your boyfriend knows you sleep with other people and is fine with it, then no it's not cheating, but if he is unaware, it's defiantly cheating.

Answer 10

1st off , does ur bf know about these weekends? If he's fine with it then maybe its not cheating. But also think about if you would be fine with it if he were doing the same to u. Would you be ok with it? that's all I'll say