Basically she met someone on the internet , they mailed and met up now she thinks it was all a mistake and doesn't know how to let him down gently. She knows it was wrong to have met him and that maybe she led him on. Now she thinks he has the wrong end of the stick and may ask her out she isn't interested in him like that.
2007-04-03 02:59:07 · 37 answers · asked by guapita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell your friend...NOT TO MEET ppl off the internet...and then tell her to email this fellow and tell him ....she's not interested in him. She can be honest and tell him it was a mistake....and she regrets it now.....so for him to stop emailing/calling or whatever........bottom line.......She's Not Interested ! She needs to be upfront to him so there is no misconception /misunderstandings and she wont be leading him on as she'll come straight out and tell him it was a Mistake to meet him and it's over* done* finished* Nothing else to say~
2007-04-03 03:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, tough situation for your friend!
But at the end of the day - she hasn't really done anything that wrong. Until she met up with him, she couldn't know for sure whether she liked him (or at least that's what she can tell him! lol!)
I'd tell her to send him an email and be straight with him. She should tell him that the chemistry just wasn't there, even though she'd hoped it would be. Tell her to make it gentle, but firm. She should end it by saying something like she's really sorry if she's upset him, but doesn't see it working out and didn't feel it was fair to lead him on.
He'll find someone else eventually :-)
xx Emmie
EDIT: Also, as long as your friend is careful and sensible, there's no reason she shouldn't meet guys off the internet. I met my boyfriend online and we're together 3 years on! As long as she meets in a public place, perhaps has a friend hiding in the background to watch over her, doesn't take him home before she knows he's sound.... etc etc! I'm sure she knows this!
2007-04-03 03:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I like to tell your friend how dangerous this kind of thing is and that your friend is lucky not to get abducted by a predator. Second whats wrong with this friend that she needs to meet people over the Internet. Third Honesty is the best policy here tell the person she meet she isn't interested and hope like heck she doesn't have any repercussions from her actions.
2007-04-03 03:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way always is honesty: Simply say:
Look, you are a nice guy but I realize I made a mistake. I am not ready for a (new) relationship and I think you deserve the truth and not being led on.
2007-04-03 03:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Eugene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Your friend', that's original. Just telling the truth is the best way. All she needs to explain is that now she has met him she has realised that they don't get on as well as she thought / or that something seems different compared to when they were online. Then just say no. Girls screw with guys heads all the time - he should be used to that kind of thing and if not - it'll only make him stronger.
2007-04-03 03:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her tell him something that seems to have worked with me, and the other person didn't feel bad.
Tell the person that when you met, you enjoyed their company, but was looking for that "instant, love at first sight, thing", which I didn't get from our experience. Then say that you can be friends, but you have waited this long for the perfect person to come along and can't see settling now. Then wish them the best in their pursuit of happiness.
2007-04-03 03:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens ALL of the time. People meet and then realize that what they thought was real isn't what it seemd to be. Funny how that happens.
All she has to do is tell him: That there was no chemistry. That she does not have romantic feelings for him. That she's met someone else. That her old boyfriend called her and she's going to give it another try. Pick one.
2007-04-03 03:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh dear 'your friend' seems to have got into a sticky situation...meeting people off the internet is always a big risk as often mentioned, however after you have met if the problem that you're having is letting them down then its the same as if you had met the normally..just dump them in the most sensitive way you can think of!
x
2007-04-03 03:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by jem42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the big deal?! Your friend simply needs to inform him that she doesn't want a romantic relationship with him and leave it at that. People disclose this to members of the opposite sex all the time. I'm sure he's a big boy who can deal with the truth. It's all part of the 'dating game'. She needs to get accumstomed to expressing how she feels. What are her other choices....date him out of a sense of obligation?!!
2007-04-03 03:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't that just why we don't meet people from the internet???
She should have been prepared for this outcome. She needs to be completely honest with him. Tell him she isn't attracted to him, but she's glad she met him and perhaps they could write to each other? And don't do it again!
2007-04-03 03:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by Dogsbody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋