My girl wants a big ring. I got her a decent ring (to my standards) but seems not to be enough. I own a real 1970 Olds 442 convertible which is a classic car. Got it appraised and I would actually get around $50K since it is in awesome shape. This is the price tag on the ring she wants. She suggested me to sell the car and get the ring since the car is just sitting there in storage and I only use it on special ocasions. She told me that this would be proof of my commitment to her: selling my beloved car and buying her the ring and making her happy.
What should I do?
2007-04-03 02:42:01 · 37 answers · asked by zaxxon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
NO DON'T DO IT. This is a classic car. I am a female and frankly think its outrageous that your fiance has asked that you do this. In fact, if she loved you she would not ask you to do something of this nature. I have a classic car as well, and its not worth near what yours is but still would not sell it. DO NOT DO THIS, YOU WILL REGRET IT!!! How materialistic can she be, maybe you should rethink your proposal as if its all about the size of the ring to her then does she really want to marry you, or is she using you for the ring? I'm sorry to say these harsh things to you, but seriously that is flawed. I'm thinking you are one of those hidden gems to even be considering this.
2007-04-03 03:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Elvira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to start a pattern that will continue until your dying day, then by all means sell you stuff and buy her the ring.
Stand your ground, man. DON'T (under any circumstances) sell your stuff for a ring. It's never a good idea to start out life in debt. In addition, ask yourself where this is leading. If you allow her to walk all over you now, what will your marriage be like.
BTW, the proof of your love is your willingness to get married not the stupid ring. $50k is a good down payment on a house. It's not a ring. That's just ridiculous.
2007-04-03 03:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to "prove your commitment" after proposing, then its not the real deal. Tell her to stop being a spoiled princess, unless you are a millionaire with money piling up faster than you can spend it, there is no need to spend 50k on a ring that she might lose down the drain, or God forbid, get mugged for.
A ring should have a price tag of about 1-2 months of YOUR salary. NO MORE!!!
RING does not equal LOVE, and in a related note, an overblown wedding doesn't either. The important thing is the upcoming MARRIAGE!!!
2007-04-03 02:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anah B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It almost seems like she is more after you for your money!
When I got engaged, we couldn't even afford a ring at the time, I finally got my ring a few months down the road, nothing big and flashy, but enough to show. My fiance is still upset about not being able to get me a larger one, I told him that when our 5 or 10 year anniversary comes around, we can upgrade the center diamond if he still feels that way. I am honestly just happy to be getting married to the man I love and to be able to HAVE a ring.
I do not think selling your possessions is going to prove anything. Tell her if you selling the car means so much to her that she needs to sell something of equal value for you. Or if you do decide to sell it, use the money to buy her a fairy tale wedding that no one will forget.
And remind her that you can't put a price on love...
2007-04-03 03:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by lethalseduction85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, no.
My husband had several things he collects that he could have sold for a large sum of money. I guess I could have had a huge ring then.
But the thing is those things make him happy & I love him, therefore I want him to be happy. Selling things that you love isn't proof of commitment, it's proof of anothers selfish ways.
A ring is just a ring. It's really no big deal. I know how much my ring cost & I adore it. It's perfect. But that's because what it's attached to & what it means. The price tag means nothing to me. If she's that worried about price tags, it won't stop at "sell your car." It will get worse overtime.
2007-04-03 05:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first thing, no to the big ring regardless . but...why is she asking, is she insecure ?, is she moneygrabbing? is she manipulative ? or is there something you are not telling us, if maybe you have in the past run fast and loose, she might need convincing of your intentions, but that should never be in the way of an expensive ring, if she gets the ring, then she calls it off, she keeps the ring, and you have lost everything.
by comparison, i am getting married in october 07, i dont have the money for a ring as yet (any ring) as i am trying to start a business, but it is ME she wants, not proof, my advise is to get your car out of storage, and use it, join a car club, and maybe you will find a woman that wants you and your car together. get your life back, and find a woman that appreciates you, not what you can buy
2007-04-03 03:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by soareractive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should gas up that 442, hop in it and drive as fast as you can to get away from that woman!
Holy COW! What a golddigger. I can't believe she would actually suggest to you to sell something you love so dearly just to buy her a thing to "prove" yourself.
In all seriousness, you asked her to spend the rest of her life with you. That should be proof enough of your love and commitment. If it's not, I would really, really reconsider taking such a huge step with someone like that. Is she ever going to be happy with anything you have to offer, or will she always want more.
I would never EVER EVER EVER ask my husband to part with anything that he loved just to buy me something. That's just not right.
Besides, if you DID decide to sell your car one day, I'm sure you could spend the money in better ways. $50k is a 20% down payment on a $250,000 house.
2007-04-03 03:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN! and this comes from a woman! First of all let me say, me being a woman and all, that every woman wants a nice diamond. I would be lying if I said they didn't. However, I am sorry to say if she wants that expensive of a ring and expects you to sell something of that value not only money wise but of importance to you she is going to be high maintenance. You will never have anything for yourself. Isn't it commitment enough that your asked her to marry you and gave her a diamond? Sometimes you have to make sacrifices and compromises but what she is wanting you to do is way out of line. I am sorry but I would think twice about this and wonder why I even gave her any kind of ring in the first place. She sounds very materialistic and selfish. Obviously out for what she can get from you more than she loves you. Sorry if this hurts you but that is the way it sounds. Best of luck to you. If you decide that this relationship should end..I hope that you find someone who will love and appreciate you for you and not what you are willing to sacrifice for her in order to get what she wants.
2007-04-03 03:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by susie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should look into getting her a ring that is still beautiful, but more in your price range. I don't know what to tell you. Do you think that you need to proof your love to her by selling your car I'm sure there or other ways to do that. You should sell your car if that what you want to do! Think really hard about this. Please don't do something that you will regret later!! I would not do that. And I would never ask anyone to do that for me but that's just me. If you think that it is worth it then go for but make sure that's what you want to do!
2007-04-03 02:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! She's asking an awful lot of you just for a ring! I am very troubled that she said it would be a proof of yoru committment to her-as if spending your life with her wasn't sufficient proof of that fact. What will she want next--a mansion? And what will you have to do to satisfy her on that front? She can't walk around with a $50,000 ring and have only a $20,000 wedding or a million dollar house--that won't suffice. I think you two need to have a realistice discussion about money before you get married.
2007-04-03 02:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋