guy problem....and its big!!!!?

Question

ok so i have a boyfriend, we have been together fo almost 4 months, and when were seperated in school, i have a guy who hangs out with me, and puts his arms around me and even trys to hold my hand, my boyfriend knows, and yet says nothing to the other guy. and plus theres this guy in my gym class that is soo hot, and we end up flirting all the time and i like this guy. my friends say to dump my b/f for him, but i dont want to, but i feel close to both the guys, it bothers me plus that my boyfirend lets other guys hit on me, but im also flirting with the guy in my gym class. HELP PLZ!!!!

Answer 1

Dating in High School is tough, because there isn't the
"freedom" to date around like there is in young adulthood.
My advice to you is to be truthful to everyone about how you
feel and be very careful about hanging around too many guys
and flirting openly because you may create an unfair reputation for yourself........Now, that was my advice from a
"Mom". If I were still in high school i would probably say.....
"Date the Hot Guy". lol

Answer 2

yes this is a m ajor problem. But soon you'll have to make straight up choices that can change how your future is going to be. Your going to have to choose over your boyfriend or the guy in your gym class. If your bf doesn't care wheather you get hit on by some other guy chances are he either doesn't care or he's too self absorbed to notice orrrr he's to scared and doesn't have the guts to tell the other guy to back off his girl. I don't know these are all just assumptions and you know the saying assumptions make an "***" out of "u" and "me". "***-u-me". So yeah. well try talking to your boyfriend about the other guys and how they won't leave you alone and if he doesn't do anything then go to the guy in your gym class and go out with him unstead.

Answer 3

First of all, WHAT? You're "question" is all over the place. I don't know what you're actually asking. Deep dreaths. In. Out. In. Out. Better? OK. Your ordeal isn't THAT big of a deal, by the way.

Keep doing what you're doing. You're obviously young. Flirt with, kiss, hang out with as MANY guys as possible while you can. As for your boyfriend. Drop him. You don't need him at your age, and you obviously want to play the field a little. That's fine, but you should respect your boyfriend enough to cut him loose first. Otherwise he'll REALLY get hurt.

All of this is assuming you're younger then 17. If my assumption is wrong, seek help immediately. You've got problems.

Answer 4

Here's the thing, sugar - jealousy doesn't prove that someone cares for you.

It seems that you want your guy to be jealous to 'prove' that he cares for you. Stop playing that game!

My boyfriend (of 3 years) doesn't get jealous of me, because he knows he doesn't need to. He trusts me! That's what relationships are all about.

In contrast, my previous boyfriend, and my girlfriend before that, both got very jealous of me - even though I gave them no reason to! Turns out that those two people were both a) incredibly insecure and b) unfaithful people who believed that just because they cheat, I must cheat too! In both cases their jealously didn't 'prove' that they loved me.

Your boyfriend isn't jealous due to one (or more) of the following reasons:
1. He trusts you
2. He's not insecure
3. He doesn't mind you flirting; he sees it as harmless
4. He knows you're trying to make him jealous - and he's not falling for it!
5. He doesn't care about you that deeply (not saying this IS the reason, but yeah, maybe it could be)

No offence, but you sound quite young, so maybe you're not ready to be with one guy at the moment! If you're single, you can flirt with as many guys as you want. But stop messing your boyfriend around.

I think you're only keeping your current boyfriend because you *can* - it's not fair to be with him and lust after another guy!

Dump your boyfriend and let him find someone who doesn't mind that he isn't jealous, stop playing games with guys - it won't get you anywhere. If you still like the gym guy once you've finished with your boyfriend, then ask him out.

xx Emmie

Answer 5

I don't want to judge but come on. Listen i think you have a good bf that is cool you should thank God that he is not one of those guys that hit you in every thing that you do. Sooner are later you are going to have to choose between your bf and the other guy in the gym class, not because your bf does not say any thing to you went you flirt with other guys does not means he does not have any feelings or mean he does not feel bad to see his girlfriend with other guys.

Answer 6

Flirting is harmless, and the guy that puts his arm around you and wants to hold your hand seems harmless as well. If your bf knows this and it doesn't bother him, then I would wonder what is his problem and why doesn't he care? Talk to your bf first before you make any other decisions. Then go from there. See if your bf is what YOU really want. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Honey not a one of you understand your feelings yet. That's why you are all testing them out on each other. You wont be live me I didn't believe my mother either but its still true. Wait to pick a steady boy until your hormones and head and heart all meet up together at the same. Otherwise you end up pregnant at 16 like me an have to listen to your mother tell you i told you so. Tell your friends to butt out. I'm sure they are playing with their new found feelings too. PS 4 months and already separated doesn't bode well give it time and thought please?

Answer 8

Since you are still in highschool, or middle school, you shouldn't have a boyfriend. Take the time to hang out with a bunch of guys, and just have fun flirting. You'll like that more, since you don't like to hang only on your boyfriend.

Answer 9

I had a similar situation in junior high. When my girlfriend of only a couple of months began accepting the attention of another boy, I figured I wasn't in any position to tell her that she couldn't, nor did I feel that would that have been the correct thing to do. I still hung around with her a little, but eventually I stopped calling althogether.

Answer 10

This is not your boyfriends fault, it is yours. You should be able to choose the person you love, and stick with that person. If you feel the need to go talk to other guys there is something wrong in the relationship. I recommend picking one guy and sticking with it. It will make it easier for you both. The boyfriend probably doesn't know what to do since you feel the need to talk to other guys.