I am 21 and my sister is 30....for a while now we have only seen each other on holidays, just about two weeks ago I started calling her for recipes and then I got her e-mail address, so I e-mailed her and asked her to be the maid of honor in my wedding and for my niece to be the flower girl....but she was very rude to me and said things like "me bieng your maid of honor isn't going to magically make us closer" and things like that? what should i do?
2007-04-03 02:16:13 · 6 answers · asked by Sam Fisher 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
A good response would be to tell her that, no it won't magically make you closer, but it is a start and working together on the arrangements, etc. would give you two a starting point for the bond that is tenuous to become stronger. My own sisters and brother are a lot older than I am (14 years, 10 years and 8 years older) and it wasn't until I married myself that my relationships with them grew strong (we finally had something in common), I wish the same for you. Ask your sister to lunch, just the two of you. Remember, it is either of your faults that there is such a large age difference but only the two of you can find common and mutual ground to begin to build a relationship. May God Bless you both and especially your upcoming marraige.
2007-04-03 02:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first thing's first ---
if you want a relationship with your sister, there must have been something wrong in the past.
tell your sister how you feel about her (I feel sad because we can't be closer -- I love you, etc). Ask her what you can do to make your relationship a little better.
she was rude to say what she said about being your maid of honor (some people have NO manners).
the best you can do is try to make amends with your sister. if she resists, at least you tried. and if she doesn't want to become closer, there is nothing you can do. take care of YOU, and try to move foward with life.
i wish you all the best! hugz ( =
2007-04-03 02:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is pretty hurtful. did something happen to make you two drift apart? how about meeting in person instead? it's hard to get closer with an e-mail. to impersonal. set up a lunch date or have her come over so you can have a heart to heart. tell her that you want to get to know one another again. maybe the maid of honor thing is a little to much to soon. give it some time.
2007-04-03 02:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am exactly the same with my sister, her being 18 and me being 24.
She is a very private, closed person and is not affectionate or friendly to anyone in the family. Up until 4 months ago, we both lived with my Dad. Things would be very awkward because she would go for months giving us the cold shoulder.
I tried everything to make her more firendly, me being friendly, buying her things, inviting her out, etc, but to be honest, in the end I realised that if she WANTED to be close to me, she would reciprocate my efforts.
I have since backed off and let her come to me...It's happening very slowly but she is slightly more friendly these days (mostly when she wants something though).
I don't think you can force someone to be friendly if they don't want to, unfortunately.
Just back off, let your sister have time to think about what a good sister she has, if she doesn't realise then that's her loss!
2007-04-03 02:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"me bieng your maid of honor isn't going to magically make us closer"
...I love you, sis.
"clod shoulder"
....doesn't matter I still love you.
"very rude"
I will not listen to this...it's not productive and I say this because I love ya.
It would also help if there is something that needs to be worked out that you take your honest personal responsibility for the rift ....if there is one. Only U would know this.
2007-04-03 02:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats tipical with older selfish siblings. My brother is the same way and him and i have no bro and sis relationship at all. It sounds like u and ur sis have things that happened in the past and shes stiill hanging on to her hurt feelings. Not saying that u did something wrong sometimes they just take it out on u. Like me and my bro he did alot of things to hurt me and for some reason he holds me to blame for alot of it but it was his falt that the things happened.
I cant talk to my bro cuz he wont let me in but maybe u can sit down and try a talk with ur sis maybe it will work. Good luck hope it works out.
2007-04-03 02:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by NickyNawlins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋