My ex and I are the best of friends, and were even before dating. The dating was brief and troublesome, but we easily transitioned into friends with no hard feelings. There has been no romance between us for years. Now he is getting married and they both invited me. Isn't it disrespectful to attend?
2007-04-03 01:58:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Go.....it's okay if they want you there.
2007-04-03 02:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Emily 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's disrespectful. If you guys are the "best of friends" as you say and you only briefly dated, then you should be there. Wouldn't you want your best friends at your wedding to support you and celebrate with you? As long as his fiance (soon-to-be-wife) understands the relationship between the two of you and doesn't mind that you are there, then go. It's only disrespectful if she's bothered by your relationship with him and you show up anyway. But, if you're officially invited, then I'm sure she's okay with it! So, go, party, have a great time, and celebrate your best friend's new life!
2007-04-03 02:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. If they were both in agreement on inviting you what is the problem. I could see if she was leery about having you attend then I would say "no, dont go" But, like you said, you are back to friends with NO romance between you for years. Enjoy the fun.
2007-04-03 02:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's never disrespectful to attend a wedding you are invited to. They wouldn't invite you if they didn't want to. If you feel comfortable then by all means attend.
2007-04-03 03:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think about yourself in this situation. How will you feel at this wedding? Will you be comfortable? Will you be supportive? Are you going there for the right reasons? It's very difficult to stay friends with someone that you were involved with romantically. Most of the time, it will start out fine, but jelously and feelings will get in the way sooner or later. You have maintained a friendship with this guy and you should cherish it, especially if you are truly happy for him and his bride to be. Go to the wedding, give them your best. But! Make sure you bring a date, show him you also are very happy and you've moved forward and don't have any feelings for him whatsoever!
2007-04-03 02:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am getting married Sept, 1st, 2007 and we have invited my finace's ex and her boyfriend to the wedding. We are good friends with her parents and have hung out with his ex occansionally. They had a long and rocky relationship but that was more than 8 years ago and the past is the past.
2007-04-03 06:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by jamitha99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! If you're friends, there's not a thing in the world wrong with attending the wedding and wishing your friends a happy life together.
2007-04-03 02:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by sylvia 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
This isn't for points and will spoil my averages but doesn't it make YOU sad that you should have to ask such a question. Please recognise generosity and kindness or even concession and guilt as reasons you would be good if you attend.
For you not to attend could cause real pain to your ex and his new partner.
2007-04-03 02:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by salubrious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they invited you (and you intent to behave - which it sounds like you will), then go. But you may want to select a seat at the ceremony and the reception that is "near the back" so as not to in anyway upstage the bride in any way.
As there will probably be other friends and relatvies there they you will enjoy seeing, and you were invited, go for it.
2007-04-03 02:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, it isn't disrespectful at all for you to attend. They wouldn't invite you if they didn't want you there.
2007-04-03 02:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were your ex I would be insulted if you did not attend. You all have moved way past the ex factor and into life long friendship. I believe the friendship trumps the dating, especially since his soon to be wife has also apparently moved past it.
2007-04-03 02:05:50 · answer #11 · answered by kjslove1994 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋