I had sex with this woman who invited me over but my girlfriend
found out and I am having lots of problems. I don't feel its my fault because I just went over there to help the woman with something and then she initiated sex. I only had sex because she wanted to. I am not that kind of person. What can I say to my girlfriend to make her understand that it was not my fault??
2007-04-03 01:53:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What a crock! It is totally your fault as you should have said "no" to the woman. How would you like if your girlfriend went to a man's house to help him with something, he initiated sex, she went ahead and had sex with him, would your really be ok with it because it was "not her fault" because she didn't initiate it, the man did?
If you have no more integrity it appears that you have, your girlfriend is smart, she will dump you. You should not be in a committed relationship less you are truly committed to being monogamous to that person...clearly, you are not ready for that.
2007-04-03 02:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the impression you asked this same question the other day. Once more, the answers you're receiving are showing that YOU need to accept responsibility for your actions.
Reposting the question again and again will not change the answers you get:
YOU cheated on YOUR girlfriend. Regardless of WHO initiated, NO ONE held a gun to your head, and FORCED you to have intercourse with another person. YOU CHOSE to.
Once you accept responsibility for your actions and stop trying to shift the blame, you'll begin to start a healing process...not necessarily with your girlfriend, but perhaps with your life.
2007-04-03 09:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by wintermuteprime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your fault. She may have initiated it but you should have gotten out of there. Instead you hung around and screwed her. That is on your shoulders. If you cared about your gf so much you would have told the lady who came on to you that you were in a committed relationship. Instead you f-u-c-k-e-d her and now your wondering why your gf is mad and that you're not at fault. Man you must be a republican.
2007-04-03 08:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are that kind of person! And it was your fault. You went through with it. Did it ever cross your mind to tell her no or just to get up and leave. Your girlfriend has all rights to be mad at you. Your lucky she hasn't left you, because I would. You broke the trust bond. And it is terribly hard to get that back.
2007-04-03 09:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by btyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango, as the saying goes. If you had said no, do you think you would have this problem? You wanted it too. It is such a lame excuse to say that you just accomodated her. Now tell me, how would you feel if your girlfriend had sex with someone because she said he wanted it and accomodated his request? Putting yourself in your girlfriend's shoes will make you see it from her perspective.
BTW how did she learn about it?
2007-04-03 09:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by ★Spotter★ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely correct. and if your gf cant understand that it is genetically inbreed into all males to distribute their genetic gunk into as many females as possible, then she needs a refresher course in Biology. Now get back to inseminating the world.
2007-04-03 09:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im pretty sure not... sorry about your luck, cheating is cheating; doesnt matter under what circumstances. I'd try to make this seem like everything would be okay and happy for you, but thats not to realistic
2007-04-03 08:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the girlfriend and go for the one night stand because your relationship is over.
2007-04-03 09:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your fault. you have a gf you're in a relationship that has commitments. basically you screwed up. that lady doesn't have control of you.. you do and you chose to have sex with her so bite the bullet and find a new gf.
2007-04-03 08:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by M!sta Carter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there aint nothing to say. it is plain and simple cause you cheated and that is the bottom line. weather you wanted to or not you still did it.
just move on cuase all this drama is going to bring to all of you is heart ache and pain.
it is men like you who give us a bad name.
good luck
2007-04-03 08:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by Michael F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋