What should i do? I mean the girl is very nice and outgoing. But i do not know what to do.Please help!!!
2007-04-03 00:50:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
hER DAD SAID I HATE YOU REPITEDLY AND HIT HER AND KICKED HER AND SHE CAME TO ME AND SHE IS 15 AND MY DAUGHTER KNOWS ALOT BETTER THAN TO GET PREGO AT 12.
2007-04-03 01:50:26 · update #1
She is here now but i dont know if i should put her back into a abusive home.
2007-04-03 01:53:20 · update #2
She is here now but i dont know if i should put her back into a abusive home.
2007-04-03 01:53:21 · update #3
I mean i care deapily about this poor girl AND HER BABY WHO WE FOUND OUT IS DUE IN 2 MONTHS
2007-04-03 01:54:34 · update #4
Hmm, tricky. You don't want to see the girl out on the street, but equally you probably don't want to be heavily involved in the family problems.
In the first instance you might want to talk to the girl in person, listen to her side of the story, then you might want to approach the girl's family. It might be that it's just the way the girl sees it. It could have been a conversation she'd had with her father before she got pregnant. For example "well, if you ever got pregnant you'd be outta here!".
I find it hard to believe that a father's true reaction (not the initial knee-jerk one), would be to kick his daughter out. Find out the true facts once things have settled a little, but if the end result is that she comes to stay with you then you will need to inform Social Services.
I hope this all works itself out, and I hope that there's an outcome that works for you all. Take care and good luck.
2007-04-03 01:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by Alfa Female 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love that you commented 'my daughter would know better than to get prego at 12' which is true, she probably would- but you really should be more worried about the messages you are sending to your daughter by allowing a pregnant girl to stay in your home. Yes, take her in as long as her PARENTS know she is living there- the problem is you sort of become her parent and also open yourself up to confrontations with her parents. Check into your states laws of emancipation- and see if she couldn't be emancipated and then she could be up for state help and make it easier on you and her. Best of luck!!
2007-04-04 03:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Raych 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that this is alot to take in but in the end (she) the girl has no where else to go, so try to help her out. Would you really be able to sleep at night knowing that a 15 year old is out there about to give birth with no where to live. And its a good lesson for your daughter now to see that a baby at such a young age is not a good idea.
2007-04-03 16:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by JESSICAC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's an awful lot to ask hey. I would call around the local charities & housing commisions. Here in australia we have The Department of Housing who not only house people in hardship but also help pay for bonds for people who rent privately. The charities can help with things like food, furniture & baby necessities as well as bonds for utilities.
Offer her your moral support but I would not let her move in. You will not only be taking on her responsibilities with her newborn but also her problems with her Dad. Im sure her dad will change his attitude if he sees his daughter can survive on her own, independently without having to live with friends. There are many services out there for pregnant women, or girls, to utilise, do some research on her behalf. Do what is right for you & your own firstly. Hard I know, but in the long run it will be better for your family.....& your daughters friend.
Oh wow just saw additional details...that is serious & I totally understand how protective you must be feeling. 12 is young hu, poor sweety. Even if you do take her in & help her with all your heart, remember those services & charities are there....for you too babes, best of luck to you, your daughter & more importantly, her innocent friend & newborn. Oh my lordy, my heart goes out to her.
Know any bikers who can teach daddyoh a lesson about beating up young girls? ****** prick. Scuse the language but I see enough of that around where I live so it hits home hard.
I send you both my angels in hope they shed some light on the situation. Best wishes xxxx
2007-04-03 08:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could try talking to the girls parents and see why they wont stand by their daughter. If they dont want her to stay there then let her stay with you but only if you feel comfortable doing so. She is obviously young and will be very scared right now it will be good for her to have stable surroundings
2007-04-03 07:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by n4w05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a tough situation. I think you should try to weigh out everything. Who will pay her medical bills? Can you afford the extra food, etc... Do you have room for her and baby? What kind of message would that be sending to your daughter? Would she then think it's ok to get pregnant/have sex? I wish I had a better answer for you, I know I would stuggle with this myself.
2007-04-03 08:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by lindsey4706 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on wether you can get permission in writing from her parents. At this age, even though she was kicked out, if her parents don't want you taking care of her, they could get you into trouble for harboring a runnaway wich would lead you straight to court to prove your word against theirs.
Be careful, and best of luck!
2007-04-03 12:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, the poor girl. Where will she live after the baby is born? Personally speaking, I would take her in, but then move heaven and earth to make sure there is something permanent on the horizon!
2007-04-03 08:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is under age and the dad say's no ,you could have some serious legal problems.....does her dad want her to stay home ..? ..If it was your daughter pregnant where would you want her to be...If this girl is under age and her parents want her home you really shouldn't interfere.....just tell her no,...that she has parents....if they have thrown her to the streets....you need to apply for temporary custody in court so you don't get in trouble....my Dad went to jail for allowing my brother to let a girl spend the night with out parents consent...they were both underage so they took him to jail instead....contributing to the delinquency......this girl may at first seem nice and out going?....she must be some what rebellious and sneaky to be in her condition...does she bad mouth her family?...how long til she would be talking about your family the same?think this through....and do it legally if you still want to...
JUst looked back at the details....you seriously need legal help with this....do you have a local runnaway shelter?you could call there for advice....they know it all.....they could work to get her legally placed with you....you could drive her down to talk with them....also woman helping woman.......Dad could want her on the streets to suffer and could lock you up for helping....then where would your kids be? call a shelter...help her legally.....they will be supportive and do what is in HER best interest.......get her a court advacate..socail worker..medical card..prenatal...get custody worked out...help her but cover your butt to...you may need a restraining order for dad so you need custody....
2007-04-03 08:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I say you keep her in your house, because it will take a little while for her father to get use to the new baby and one he sees the baby he will want his daughter back, Trust me that is how I was with my first daughter that got preg.
2007-04-03 10:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋