i met this girl last summer and we automatically clicked and was attracted to eachother, the only problem was that she lived in another country and she was going back. Anyways she left and went back and we started speaking to eachother on the phone. We grew a relationship over the phone very fast in the space of 8 months, she told me how she could see herself marrying me and she even named kids she wanted to have with me in the future,and from then we talked about dating because she's coming back this summer to live here in america. Well the phone conversations were getting shorter and then we started chatting on msn and then all of a sudden jealousy started coming between us and now she has a boyfriend because she claims i made her do it because she was hearing things about me and i also found out she liked him before they dated and i said hurtful things to her. She still tells me she wants to be with me when she comes but now she ignores my messsages and claims to be busy with work.
2007-04-02 23:44:26 · 7 answers · asked by mr discreet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to let you guys know, she has been dating this guy for 5 months now and she still tells me she has feelings for me and she wants to marry but yet she doesn't show here feelings anymore and i tell her to in my messages and she ignores me. I stopped calling her last month and she's mad at that but won't tell me. She told me she doesn't love her bf but yet on his myspace page she tells him she loves him and miss him....she's confusing me i dunno if she's doing this on purpose because of the girl im messing with now and she's just trying to make me mad or did she lose feelings for me and likes her bf more cuz she told she likes me more than him and i dont beleieve it. He even asked her who i was and she told him don't worry about it, i dont know im confused.
2007-04-02 23:50:31 · update #1
Man up and just tell her this "look, you're a flake and I'm gettin' kinda busy here. I have a date tonight and If you want to talk with me when you come to America, you know how to get in touch...talk to you then.. bye for now"...and leave it at that. answer no more messages. If she gets in touch with you when she comes here, then have fun and don't wear your heart on your sleave and no ned to get al sreious with this one for sure and tell her you're not at all ready to get serious with anyone at this point in your life.
good luck!
2007-04-03 00:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by simon07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a relationship like this before, me being the girl who had a bf and travelled for a week to a foreign country where I met a guy and...well then I came back home and felt so much for the guy, and we were keeping in touch and everything for months. My relationship with my bf just sucked because of this. I never cheated on my bf with the guy, just emotionally, which is just as bad I know. But I'm still together with my bf, because I know that a long distance relationship is not realistic and my foreign crush deserves someone better who lives close. The fact that I never broke up with my bf does not mean that I was playing with the other guy, in fact I felt more for him than my bf, meaning I rather palyed with my bf and not him, I know I'm disgusting. I just knew that there was no possible way to start the other relationship. But I hurt my bf a lot with this whole thing. I wish I wasn't this stupid. Bad news though: I still feel for the other guy, though we don't talk. I try to close my heart and be with my bf, he deserves the attention I'm giving him now, I try to make up for all the hurt I gave him in the last few months. It's just so complicated and I know that some people don't understand it and it's okay.
But your girl is acting weird. She didn't have a bf when you guys met...She seems to be playing.
2007-04-03 00:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Hellomynameis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distant relationships are hard and take a lot of commitment. She could have drifted for several reasons but didn't want to hurt you or feel like she was doing anything wrong. Reading your question it seems like the relationship began dieing a while ago and you missed the point of correction.
Keep her as a friend but move on with your life as this relationship is over in everything but name.
2007-04-02 23:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by clint_slicker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its her loss! You sound like a really nice guy! Dont waste all your life with a stupid girl who only wants you because if you sex, money or the fact your goodlooking, I bet she is really silly and childish and her boyfriend is about 10! RForget about the idiots and hang with the people that you really love!
2007-04-02 23:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Hollz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you that desperate?
When you found out about the boyfriend
that should have been a wake up call that
It's over.
Move on with your life.
2007-04-03 00:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you known this girl? isn't it a bit fast for her wanting to get married and have kids...I agree with Hollz, you should try to move on
2007-04-02 23:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's simple. She's had a better offer. Time to move on.
2007-04-02 23:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋