i'm getting so sick with this thing called love...no matter what i do or how hard i try to make my relationship work- it's all underappreciated...i'm a beautiful girl wit a really nice personality but for me to find the one guy, i've been through 3 relationships and only god knows how many more...is this world filled with jerks and liars n cheaters?
2007-04-02 22:42:48 · 11 answers · asked by frantic! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, there are still some nice guys out there. I once felt the same way you did, so I stopped looking. Then one day soon after I entered a chat room I had never been to before, clicked on the only name in there that seemed "real", and a little over a year later we were married. He is everything I have ever searched for in a man. Your prince charming is out there somewhere, you just have to be able to recognize those frogs quickly so you don't waste your time on them, and don't try to hard.
2007-04-02 23:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Rae Ray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men, as women are like snowflakes, no two are alike, so rather than trade war stories, why dont we focus on how to fix your problem? First, most people focus on what they can get out of a relationship and not what they can bring to it. Maybe the reason your underappreciated is because your not accenting the qualities you want noticed. Try putting yourself in a positon of more common interest and where you can meet people like yourself with common interests. Bars and clubs are lousy places to judge this type of situation while loud music is playing and people are drinking. Try churches, an organization that shares some kind of hobby you do or some type of part or full time work environment where you can see this individual in action and judge where thats the type of person for you.
Next try a form of better communication. Ask for the type of individual you want or behavior and stress the importance of you getting it. Many women love to assume men know these things and frankly, men are incredibly stupid about knowing what women want.
Finally get into psyche with how men think. Go to the library and get a good book and read up on it. Its the men are from mars, women from venus thing, and it works. Or if you dont do that try the movie what women want...same idea.
Ive been married for well over twenty years, and Im certainly no expert, but if I was on the prowl again, I suppose thats what id do...good luck and god bless.
2007-04-03 05:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered another Q with this but I think it might help you find what you are looking for.
Love is this strange, amazing, magical, mysterious and tantalizing thing that ALL are desperately seeking… but really you can only come to understand it by listening to your inner voice. Unfortunately many have little idea what LOVE is because their understanding has been corrupted by their parents example of what love is. Consequently the way they “understand love” is actually damaged.
To correct it can take years and some die never knowing what love is. However there is a way to learn about and understand love and this way is an internal journey back to the source of your beginning.
So to answer your question is impossible for we cannot be in love until we have discovered what love is.... do you “know” what love is? Tell me if you can and I will show you what you are seeking.
My proof is this, and it's very simple... To be "in" a forest you first need to find one don't you? To do that you need to know where it is and then go there, then you can look around and hear the music, feel the wind, listen to the trees, smell the perfume, and look into the grand experience and beauty of life. You see reading about it simply can’t compare can it?... It is EXACTLY the same with how you need to learn about love if you are to “know” if you have found it in another.
So to be "in love" you need to know where it is and I can tell you where you will find it first... It is inside you, When you find it within yourself you will know how to recognise it when it walks past you and your eyes meet! It is like a spark in the eye, you can't miss it!
2007-04-03 05:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by James 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the right guy will eventually come along. and you shouldnt get discouraged. Love is a game of trial and error. You are gonna fail 10 times for every time you succeed. When you find the guy who tells you that you are gorgeous or beautiful instead of hott or sexy and you find a guy who would do anything to be with you even if it means losing his family and friends, when you find a guy that you can look into his eyes and see that everything he has ever told you has been the truth, then you will have found the one. But dont ruch it and dont get discouraged. It will happen when God wants it to happen and you will know right away when it does there will be no question.
2007-04-03 05:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that when you don't try hard to find a good guy, that's when you stumble across one. I found mine at a convenience store... my car wouldn't start, i tapped on his window and asked if he had jumper cables and if so could he give my car a jump. He did have cables and he got my car started. Then he gave me his phone number and I thought he was cute so I gave him mine. He called me later that evening to make sure I made it home okay. I had gone to the battery shop where a friend works, and they checked my battery and the terminals were loose so they tightened them. He then called me the next evening and asked me out to dinner. We've been dating for almost 2 months and things are going great. There is hope out there. I will tell you that much. I will also tell you something else, I'm not the best catch out there. I'm 40 yrs old and I'm chunky. My guy is 34 yrs old, 5 ft 6, blonde hair, grey eyes, he's cute, he's thin.Most guys are totally turned off by chunky women, he's not but I would have never gotten to know him if I hadn't given him my phone number. He made the first move, because I've been burned too many times by guys who are turned off by my chunky body, that I would honestly have never called him... even though he gave me his phone number. I'm quite happy with him and I think our relationship is going great.
2007-04-03 06:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by tiggerkitty3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are still nice guys around. I found one myself. Just be patient. Remember Phil Collins' song "You Can't Hurry Love."
2007-04-03 05:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by thatsraven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it helps your not alone!!!! :o)
I do reckon you can attract the wrong people when your in the wrong frame of mind, changed my frame of mind and still attracted the wrong ones but they were a different type of wrong ones so theory kinda worked!!!
Chin up it will get better!
2007-04-03 05:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Tinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are nice guys out there. Email me and you can talk to one of them.
2007-04-03 06:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Patience will pay off.....there are nice guys out there but take things slowly...
2007-04-03 05:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one of them, I ask where the nice girls at?
2007-04-03 06:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by kayef57 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋