Is this how the catholic religion works?

Question

My ex girlfriend who I loved with my heart and soul cheated on me about a year ago. Were together 2 1/2 years. She cheated on me because I didn't ask her to marry. I would have married her without any inhibitions if I knew it meant that much to her. I just wanted her to finish school and be happy with her job and wanted us to agree about kids, where we were going to live, etc(major issues in a marriage)..before I asked her. Being the compassionate person that I am I forgave her and said I needed time to rebuild trust. After 8 months I caught her again cheating and lying again, saying I was not treating her well but through all this time of me being so bad she kept itching for me to get married. My question is, all through the relationship she said how she wanted me to go to church (catholic) with her. Now my question is if your a catholic does this mean you can go lie and cheat on someone who's honest and then just go to church to get forgiven? Her actions sound like Satan's work to me

I am not trying to cut on the catholic religon at all. I am just simply asking a question.

Answer 1

Let's examine your opinion.........

You seem to be using Catholic as an adjective...........putting the blame of your relationship on that.

So why don't you insert another adjective, such as fat, short, , big nosed, smelly.....you get the picture, and see how ridiculous your question is and blaming the Catholic faith.

Hopefully she will run away from someone as judgemental as you.

















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Answer 2

Have you considered the possibility that you were nearly engaged to a bad seed? As commendable as your forgiveness is, there is always the possibility of her cheating even in wed lock - and that possibility would always be in the back of your mind.

Is that any way to conduct a marriage?

It's a good thing she is enthusiastic about going to Church. It will help her discover the errors of her ways, eventually.

However, it does you no good to blame all of Catholicism on account of the bad behavior of one Catholic. The Church is not a house of saints, it is a hospital for sinners. If your ex-girlfriend is everything you claim her to be, a Catholic Church is the BEST place in the world for her to be.

You should also know that the Sacrament of Confession will not absolve sins that have not been honestly repented, even when the sinner orally confesses them. It takes a confession with an honest and contrite heart for the absolution of sins to take place.

God's capacity for forgiveness is far greater than mankind's capacity for sin.

Then again, perhaps she is honest in her repentance, but she struggles in other ways we don't understand.

Again, it does you no good to mention she is a Catholic and then opine that her actions are of Satan. This was the one point you were trying to get across in your question. Think about it, if we used your initial question, omitted he sob story, and then threw in the last sentence, we would have the meat of the point you are trying to make:

Is this how the catholic religion works? Her actions sound like Satan's work to me. "Catholic religion works" and "Satan's work". Putting two and two together, Catholic religion's work = Satan's work, thus they are the same thing.

If I were you, I would be upset about the whole ordeal as well. But why advocate the idea that the Catholic Church is somehow responsible for your ex-girlfriend's indiscretions?

Answer 3

Hey listen I am so sorry for the hurt that you have experienced and pray that you will know the Lord`s healing in your life,I as a Catholic am not surprised at your girlfriends behavior,many people today regardless of what denomination they profess are really only such in name only,she really did not practice her Catholic faith and this shows in her cold actions towards yourself, it is a sign of our times that people decieve and lie and some see this as being the norm and think they do no wrong, well Catholic or not it is most certainly against the Holy Spirit Who detests lies, please try to forgive and forget this girl and try to move on through the pain,the Lord who loves you will be with you and hopefully you will find the right person for you.
God bless you.

Answer 4

No. The Church in no way teaches or condones what your ex-girlfriend has done. If the two of you have permanently split, I can understand that after reading your question. As far as Church teaching, she needs to stop that behavior. I would like to apologize that your first glimpse of the Catholic Faith had to be like this, because this is not how the Church teaches.

God bless.

Answer 5

JC you've been hurt and i'm sorry. your girlfriends actions had nothing to do with her denomination. apparently for 2.5 years you never did make it to mass with her. once you fall head long into a relationship you both have to decide who comes first -- you need to walk together with God in front. i don't mean to be judging you - please don't take it that way however.... "not knowing how much marriage meant to her" not knowing where you stood on moajor issues.... you are right - you knew her but apparently didn't "know" her. youhave made a wise decision. i do wonder the full maturity level though, only because you seem to be trying to put the blame for the ruined relationship on the Rcc - and that's just silly. there are people within every denomination who are "human" and make mistakes --
God bless you & may you find a loving woman who is ready for a true relationship.

Answer 6

I am a former catholic and my experiance is there is sincere and less sincere catholics. And no person is perfect. However what is important is deciding if this person is trustworthy. If not it can be a lifetime of regret. Or a bad mariage that might not last. This person may have a problem, or perhaps you just don't hold her interest. I'm sorry I don't mean to sound blunt, but you deserve to marry someone you can trust and someone who is in love with you.

Answer 7

The deceived multitude, not limited now to a third of the earth or a special prophetic district but taking in the breadth of the earth, went up against the seductions of Satan. They are pressed upon and surrounded by the Others. Once this judgment fell on them from ZeroKane. The devil was written in the books of record. Still another element was brought into view. And death and Hades were the divine judgment. The heaven and earth passed away, but death and Hades never. There was for them only divine destruction and judgment. They are looked at as the power of Satan. He has the power of death and the gates of Hades; and hence these are forever destroyed judicially. But the true power is the code and ZeroKane are men of code. The wicked. Now these were, consequent on the judgment of the white throne. The limit and measure of escape was the book of life.

Answer 8

Well, if your ex went to a Baptist church would you think all Baptist did the same thing? Come on!

Think man. Use your head. The answer is no it isn't how Catholics or anyone 'should' think or conduct themselves. You guys apparently had issues big ones, as difficult as this may sound to you now, thank God for letting you out NOW than later.

Answer 9

I don't agree with the catholic church but in this situation I don't think it matters if it was a Baptist church. I've sorta been in your shoes and my advice is the one you don't want to hear. It's time to move on. What makes you think marriage is going to stop her from cheating on you again....and apparently her religious values ain't doing anything to stop her either. Time to find a real woman. A born again spirit filled Jesus lovin woman of God. Believe me the hurt of the loss will be better than the hurt of divorce.

Answer 10

Not all catholics live catholics lives. Don't blame religion for the dismay of your girlfriend. The relationship died a long time ago. You should still try to go to church, and meet a real catholic girl.