I met this girl a few months ago...she goes to an out of state school so we dont really see other a lot, hung out during her spring break twice and it was nice...couldnt really sense a lot of flirting or anything, but did notice the occasional glance and look over if u know what i mean. when we talk online we talked about us found out a little more about each other since there is nothing wrong with getting to know someone...but also interests...and she has called me "nice guy" twice but that hasnt happened in over 1 month so thats good...she texts me a lot, well every now and then (she initiates convos), i cant even tell if im in the friend zone.
fortunatley she hasnt called me a "friend" or "brother" crap yet..but i want to avoid that AT ALL COSTS
what are somethings i could do to make sure she sees me as a potential boyfriend, not just a friend...things to avoid, things to do, things to say/not to say, how often to respond back to texts etc? i'm a confused kid.
2007-04-02 19:25:32 · 7 answers · asked by Wayne D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. Stop being friends.
You don't have to play your cards right for her to see you as a potential boyfriend vs. just-a-friend. Either she sees potential or she doesn't. The only thing you can do is express to her the way in which you're interested in her.
People get stuck in the friend zone because they voluntarily go to that length to have a remote chance at a girl. What these fellas need to realize is that girls aren't attracted to guys with that little self-respect. Go for what you want, and if you don't get it, keep your chin up, move on, and be kind to her anyway.
2007-04-02 19:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's actually a very tough question, because if you care you want to be involved, by being involved all the time you become the dependable "friend". You have to judge where her intentions lie by the activities she asks you to partake in. Another thing, it's never a bad idea to be friends with her friends, if you are in good standing with them it generally reflects positively on you to her. If they are truly her friends then they will no doubt be rather protective of her. If you gain their favor there is the chance that you can gain insight as to how she feels about you through her friends. Try to be as involved as possible without coming off as overbearing. It's a fine line but with careful mediation you can determine which side you fall on. Good luck.
2007-04-03 02:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by Drew H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be very foward my friend.
put the cards on the table:
my roomate just went through a similar situation.
what happened is that they been hanging out for a while, everybody thought that they were into eachother, but unfortunately, she wasnt,
so what he asked her to choose, because all that game was getting to his nerves
and told her that from that point she had to choose, and whatever she wanted, thats what was going to happen, and he was going to respect that,
*keep being friends, but stop doing things that could encourage them to get closer, and talk less that they used to
*stop talking to each other completely.
*or be friends with the chance that something could happen in the future.
and let her decide, you don't deserve to be like this forever, so take charge, she will admire your courage, they absolutely love a guy that has that willingness to take control over the situation, trust me she will respect that, but
YOU
HAVE
TO
DO
IT.
i hope everything goes well.
God bless.
2007-04-03 02:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rodrigo D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing to do is find out her intrest see if any match up with yours. Girls want a guy whos compatible. see if she wants to go to a concert with you or do a sport, rent a movie. try to spend a good amount of time with her. make sure her friends like you too so dont act like an idiot be friendly not creepy. if your good at massages give her one girls never turn these down. be flirtatious dont be clingy, dont make her your world. be direct make her know that you are into her and be yourself
2007-04-03 02:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her on a date. Tell her what you want. She will tell you how she feels, either she is interested too, or she doesn't want a long distance relationship but might be interested if you were closer, or she just wants friendship. You have to talk about it openly, or you'll never get anywhere! Good luck.
2007-04-03 02:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date her out only you and her. a rose will help you say all. but if she doesnt ready to want you as a bf, or even call you "brother", accept it (accept any relationship she wants), your only mission now is to keep her likes you. beside her, have lot of funs and laughs. everything now is going to a happy ending. trust me.
2007-04-03 02:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jay Cheng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just curious.. u said she initiates convos.. do u initiate any?
2007-04-03 02:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by sugrnspice 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋