I am in a relationship and recently accepted Jesus into my heart. My question is this, if we have had sex before this change in my life, should I stop doing it? I know that it is a sin, but it seems a little odd because I'm with the same guy, and we've been doing it before all of this? He hasn't put any pressure on me but we still love eachother very much. He is not a born again christian but believes in the christian faith
2007-04-02 19:21:39 · 37 answers · asked by Cutiepie98 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex isn't a SIN... Nothing in the TEN BIG LAWS state, "Thow shalt not have sex before marriage."
What sex IS in the Bible is personal gratification and the reason for the “no sex before marriage” was written is this. When you have sex with a person it is suppose to mean something good. Having sex out of wedlock can have more bad repercussions. Think of ALL the bad things that could happen to you by having sex out of marriage.
When you are with someone and make a commitment to that person by being a spouse. That binds both your lives together. Both of you now truly rely on each other for everyday needs. When you are not married then either one of you could walk away without any backlash. What happens if you get sick from having sex? There are more illnesses out there by sex than just STDs. Is he going to help you financially? What about getting pregnant?
If this happens then other complications in your life can make things harder on you. When times are tough you may call on God to help but it gives you less time to really appreciate what He has to offer. Then you take your eyes off the prize and just live to survive. And we all know that’s no way to live.
All God wants is what’s best for you.
2007-04-02 19:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Renoirs_Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what love dictates. The bible is a guide to living a life of peace and love for all. Marriage is a contract that legally binds two individuals in order to recieve some benefits in filing taxes.
Sex is often a tough subject in correlation with the bible/christianity and I think people can be really tough on the whole marriage then fornicate deal. I reccommend reading and really researching your bible to find the answer to this question rather than taking another person's interpretation becuase the problem is that we tend to accpept the words of other people as law over the book that actually dictates the law. Yes those that told us may have read the bible but did really explain it to us according to the bible interpretation or are they just imposing personal morals upon you. Know the book and you will then know the truth.
2007-04-02 19:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by Quite Frankly with TheFokalist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of relationship do you have with this guy? Are you planning on spending the rest of your life together? That's something to think about when considering whether or not to continue having sex before marriage.
Do you feel conviction about something?
When you accept Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior, you take everything to Him...all your sins, your problems, everything.
Somethings take time to change.
I am a born again Christian, and I am still struggling to stop smoking, for instance.
It is definately not easy to change your life in a matter of minutes, and I don't think God expects us to. It's something that takes time.
Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend about this subject and see how he feels. If having sex now makes you uncomfortable, don't do it.
2007-04-02 19:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Courtney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you accept Jesus Christ as your saviour, all your sins are forgiven and you become a new person. You have surrendered "your" life to think and act in ways that will bring glory to God, by the way you live and your actions are proof of your total faith and obedience. You don't get to make the rules, nor anyone else.....except God. He sent Jesus here to teach us His laws and then to lose His life so that we may be forgiven of our sins. Read you Bible and for your answers, and very importantly, listen to the Holy Spirit which dwells within you to guide your conscience and aid you with your choices about what is right and what is wrong. So, read God's word and instructions, pray for guidance and listen to you heart. I think you already know the answer to your question. The right answer isn't always the one we want to hear, but the reward you will receive after this life for obeying His laws, will be worth many times more than the simple physical act of sex which lasts a few moments, compared to an eternity of the blessings you will receive for living an authentic Christian life. I know it's hard, but you were given the free will to decide and everything you need to make the right choice for yourself. Thanks for asking this question, as alot of us struggle with this everyday.
2007-04-02 19:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Paula E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you know it is a sin, in your heart. It is part of that conviction taht first brought you to Christ. It seems like a lot of people are saying who cares about your religion, or they are saying the Bible doesn't teach that premarital sex is not a sin.
Galatians 5:19 NIV •
The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery;
Ephesians 5:3 NIV •
But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.
Colossians 3:5 NIV •
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.
1 Thessalonians 4:3 NIV •
It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality;
They are speaking from ignorance. I know it is hard, and awkward and you probably don't want to stop. but Jesus says that in this world you will have trouble, but take heart I have overcome the world.
2007-04-05 08:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by prilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not an expert on this spiritual topic but I think that when 2 persons love each other and make love not sex in way it has so bad. There are a lot of people that are married and they are with some alse wahy cuz thers no love in that merriage. I think that as long as you do it for love it should be fine, but try to get married at the same time specially it you had already commited to Cristianity.
I hope my answer helped you!!!
JP
mexico....
2007-04-02 19:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by gasparin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a very difficult situation. Sex is beautiful and amazing. It is a sin to have premarridal sex this is probably why everyone got married in there teens back in the old testament. you could marry the guy but i dont know if that would work. if the guy is in love with you he would wait for marrige. I had a friend wait a year and half until he had sex again wth his girlfriend.
2007-04-02 19:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I do not believe that god will not accept you into heaven just because you had sex before marriage...I am a Cristian and i have sex as well...Sex all depends on the love in the relationship it has nothing to do with if you are married or not....I really would not let it bother you...If you truley have accepted this into your life then it will stop you if your niot suppose to have it... Just listen to your inner Self..
2007-04-02 19:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by Fallen to Serenity 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u had sex b4 marriage u should ask 4 forgiveness from God cuz itz a sin to o it b4 ur married. Hey I'm a born again christian too by d way. Until ur married you can do it.
2007-04-02 19:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by JC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a touchy subject with a lot of people. However, now days at least the religions aren't followed as strictly and most people just don't care.
For me, I don't care. My beliefs are my own so I do as I wish. Like any other guy, except for the homosexuals, would ever turn down a really hot piece of ***. Good thing there's repentance huh?
2007-04-02 19:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by John S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋