I have been going out with this girl for 7 months. we have gone through alot of bumps on the road and we have been on the "breaking up" side of things for the past 2 months. we really love eachother and we want to continue the relationship. but things are not the same after the fighting. what things can i do. what places can i take her to spark that fire that once was there.
2007-04-02 18:36:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You won't like this answer, but it's honest and accurate.
Fighting isn't avoided by taking her places or doing cute things. People don't seem to realize that you can't fabricate "sparks" or "fire". It has to come mostly on its own.
I'll tell you what has the best chance of truly re-sparking the fire. Date other people. You'll come back to each other if you "really love each other".
Of course you don't have to take that advice, but you'll keep fighting if you don't.
2007-04-02 18:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who did that for three years (with only the first 6 mos being good) I can say this - you can both try as hard as possible - and you'll get really mad that the other person doesnt appreciate the effort in the exact way that you want them too....and it only gets worse. And you only get to love the person more. So it gets worse in a lot of ways. And it sounds like she isn't committed to fixing this - which means she already has one foot out the door. You cant fix a team if half of it doesnt care to be on it, y'know?
2007-04-02 18:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what I did once:
Hire a harpist for an hour (from a local college, its way cheaper)
Meet the harpist at the Park, and set up everything for a picnic along with the food, drinks, and flowers, of course.
Then go meet your girlfriend and take her to the park and surprise her! She will be so happy to find such a romantic setting, and fall in love with you with the little harpist playing in the background. I know its a lot of work and planning, but its worth it. I did this for my boyfriend and he could not believe it, he was almost in tears.
It was really memorable.
Try it. Make lasting memories with her.
2007-04-02 18:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by AyeVivi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might try talking to a counselor if you both our serious that you love each other and want to make it work...or you may both just set your mind to quit fighting over little things and try to get along...a person has to have the intention to try and make this relationship work and give their all to it....and do things like you use to do that you enjoyed to do together...mainly talking and finding out why you are fighting in the first place and settle your problems...but you may need a counselor.....think why you fell for her and why she fell for you...think of the things you love about her and vise versa...and see if you both love one another to work on this relationship
2007-04-02 18:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her. if you still care for her then show her. let her know that you love her and that you want to work through this, cuz it sure sounds like you do. maybe she was hurt by something you said or did when you were fighting? ask her, talk to her, tell her what you jus wrote down here.
2007-04-02 18:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't reverse time.
Try simply sitting her down and talking with her very openly and directly.
I would basically tell her everything you just typed above, except for the final two sentences.
2007-04-02 18:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, you must really love this girl...you need to show this girl you love her...I think you need to just look at her when a fight starts out and tell her" shut up and kiss me" and then just kiss her if you can...when she starts to talk about anything just tell her shut up and kiss me.. It works every time... show her you love from your heart...good luck... love hurts..
2007-04-02 18:44:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, dont fight. discuss problems. if u feel like your going to argue, go and get some space. if its ment to b you will work your stuff out. b good to each other. lattr
2007-04-02 18:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by bobo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and re-live old memories. thats the best, trust me. it will melt her heart. do small things too. like hold her hand or kiss her forhead. girls like that stuff. good luck =)
2007-04-02 18:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take her were you went on your first date
2007-04-02 18:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋