The last few times that I went to the gym to work out, there is a girl there that hits on me, and it's pretty obvious.
The thing is she's 20 and I'm 33.
She's nice, and she's one of the prettiest women I've seen in a long time. And I can tell she wants me to ask her out.
What do you think? Do you think age difference doesn't matter, and I should go ahead and ask her out anyway?
Thanks
2007-04-02 18:01:23 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you two like each other, then what's the problem? Don't let the age gap discourage you from finding out if she might be THE ONE! As long as you two are grown adults, then it's fine. Go for it! Don't let this one slip by without knowing for sure!
2007-04-02 18:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by artutina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thirteen years, huh? Well, it's not as though she's 17. She is an adult---though not of the legally drinking variety, but definitely well beyond the age of consent.
I think the fact that women mature faster than men probably means that intellectually, you're only eight years apart.
I don't think in this day and age of Aston Kutcher and Demi Moore and every other socially acceptale May/December relationship, that it's going to make one bit of difference.
Ask her out.
I'm not sure how this applies, but it might. Years ago, a friend of m ine was counselling me about the fact that I was considering going out with a much shorter man. She told me that we're ALL the same height when lying down.
If you squint, somehow you can see how this might fight your situation.
And maybe not....
Good luck.
2007-04-03 01:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by I am Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in asking her out; it's not like you are getting serious, right? You may have a lot in common, which means age doesn't matter, or you may find you have nothing in common, which means age doesn't really matter, either, because there is no attraction (beyond physical).
You never know if you don't ask, and wouldn't you hate to be wondering, 5 years from now, what would've happened if you would have asked her out? At least this way you'll know.
But then again, I'm biased. I married a guy who is 16 years older than me!
2007-04-03 01:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lori B. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say ask her out. As we age the difference seems to shrink anyway. So when she's 45 and you're 58, maybe it won't seem so big. What do you have to lose? If she likes you and you like her, enjoy yourselves.
Possibly you are a very youthful person and she is a bit mature for 20 and you two will meet somewhere in the middle.
2007-04-03 01:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by siddoly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure ask away.
Unless you're very immature or she's old for her years you won't find much in common that isn't physical or directly related to specific common interests.
But it never hurts to ask or to expand ones life experiences, so long as this doesn't become a marriage . If it does head that way better make it a long engagement (years) so she has lots of time to decide this is what she really wants.
2007-04-03 01:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ratsoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anymore age dont matter I was 17 and my husband was 26 when we started dating and got married, we have been together for 4 years now, trust me no one really thinks about the age thing, and they arent going to be able to notice while your walking down the street hey they are 13 years apart! go for it get over to the gym tomarrow and ask that babe out lol!
good luck!
2007-04-03 01:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by Just_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother did, and the gap was the same. They were married 7 years and he was a good substitute dad for her. Supported her, controlled her and directed just about every aspect of her life, and she liked that, until she grew up and wanted to be a responsible adult.
The divorce is final next month I think.
2007-04-03 01:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just ask her. Most women don't care about age. You both are still young and vivacious!!! Live a little!!! Even if she does have a problem with age, at least she would be flattered!!!! Go for it!!!
2007-04-03 01:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by ~Crystal~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! Age doesn't matter now! As long as you like her, she likes you, who cares what other people might say? It's not them who is in the situation.
2007-04-03 01:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure! You never know til you try....worse that happens is you all don't like each other and don't go out again... of course, this could also be the beginning of a beautiful relationship...however, if you don't ask, you'll never know.
2007-04-03 01:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋