Okay heres my situation. I just recently got back together with a girl I had been going out with for awhile but then she broke it off. We have known eachother for 7 years, since we were 7, and always liked eachother, but had only been going out for about 5 months.
Problem is, my best friend doesnt like the fact im going out with her because she kept afew things from me, like how she had gotten drunk and lost her virginity the summer before we got together the first time. But she did tell me when we got back together.
Shes good friends with my friend, and she had said she was worried us being together would ruin her friendship with my friend. She also has said over the phone that her friendship is more important than us being together, but whenever she sees me she takes it all back. She recently asked me over the phone if we would still be friends if we broke up, because when we broke up the first time I pretty much stopped hanging out with her. Im wondering what I should do.
2007-04-02 17:47:47 · 10 answers · asked by Mr.Right 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Unfortunately (and I'll never understand why girls dont understand this), you will NOT go back to the friendship and the way things were before a hypothetical relationship.
You may return to being friends...but it sure as hell wont be ''the same''.
That said, I dont see the big deal about the girl losing her virginity. People have sex. If you weren't her first...well there's a stupid, pointless childish fantasy that didn't happen. Big deal. Although I WILL say the fact that she thought it was a big deal shows class on her part.
My philosophy on stuff like this : "No reward without risk". Sometimes these things work out and end up being a very good thing, for a very long time. I secretly lusted after my best friends sister for 12 years. It's worth the reward.
2007-04-02 17:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are probably the most difficult thing we deal with on this planet. Look at the divorce rate, over 65% for first-time marriages. Consider it's the same for friendships and crushes and virtually any emotional-based relationship. If you're having difficulties...join the club. What to do? Trust your instincts. Trust yourself. Ask yourself whether going out with this girl truly honors you. Look inside yourself and see if you respect and like you. If you do, then you will find others will also respect and like you. If your gf is going back and forth in her feelings, ask yourself if you're interested in a relationship where the girl acts this way. What advice would you give a friend who came to you with this problem. If you'd say "dump the gf" maybe you're right.
2007-04-03 00:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same position although many years ago. Let her go and do your own thing. I did and am married to the girl now after a courting of 8 years with 2 break ups of similar situations as yourself. Besides there are lots of women around that might enjoy your company without being worried trying to be so friendly with your mate.
2007-04-03 00:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by stew_in_vic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm... so i'm guessing ure both 14..... and that means she is way young to lose her virginity and def might not be a good pick. u guys went out for 5 months though? thats pretty commited for ure age i think. u gotta know her well enough by know to make your own decision about this... it's healthy that she thinks her best friend is mroe important than your relationship, it'll help when u guys break up. i say play it however during ure relationship but dont force her to choose her friends or you, and when u guys break up be friends w/ her. if nothing else ude save someone from an earache while she's venting about why you won't talk to her. i've had a hell of a lot of earaches from girls venting to me about that >_<
2007-04-03 00:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you guys broke up it really will affect your friendship. But ask yourself this, those 5 months that you were together, was it worth anything to you? Think about my question thoroughly. Maybe you'll find your answer.
2007-04-03 00:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by heavydeezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your better off as friends. Some people just don't work in a relationship but work great as friends...you decide.
2007-04-03 00:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Dereck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are young. If it gets between you and a friend, let it go. Stay friends and see where it goes when you are older.
2007-04-03 00:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by evilimp2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date someone else and let her get her self together and later on maybe get back with her when she sorts out her life. Good luck!
2007-04-03 00:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your too young to be seriously involved in any relationship.
2007-04-03 00:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how bout you stay single for a wile? your way to young for that drama. and either way you dont need her she flacky dont you think?
2007-04-03 00:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by Miss K.V. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋