Do you know any 18 year olds who still use a dummy and or a bottle?

Question

Why are dummys (pacifiers) such an emmotive topic for some people. I read one question where a mother was asking how to wean her 3 year old off a dummy and some of the answers were awful, stating she was a bad mother etc, the poor women was just asking for advice.

Answer 1

I've noticed a lot of people on here are just plain mean...even if they don't agree with a particular parenting style, there's surely always a way to say so politely.

Answer 2

You know, Pacifiers, Stuffies, Blankets, Thumb-sucking... all these are the way kids feel secured. The best way to wean off any kid is to give the alternative. They will switch with all delight. Remove that element of fear and they will respond well.

Many parents during some phase of the childhood, encourage these security measures just so that the child will stop crying. Then it results in a habit that needs to be weaned off!! My daughter never sucked a thumb or used a pacifier. Whenever she cried without a reason, we just made sure she is comforted and attended to.

Few occasions when we KNOW she is doing it on purpose, we just let her cry while sitting in front of her and she stopped after 5-10 minutes. Now she knows crying doesnt help! And uses it very very rarely.

Anyway, dummy/pacifier should not be used once the teeth start to come out. The first thing that you can observe is they tend to have the teeth coming outside, you know.

Home remedy? My mom put some Neem oil on the finger for my sister and she quit thumb sucking in 1 week!! hehehehe

And I agree with you, there are people who are outright impolite and arrogant and dont try to understand the predicament of the questioner.

Finally, No, I havent seen any 18 year old using a bottle or dummy. But I know quite a few 20+ girls who _still_ go to bed with their hugsies!!!!!

.:Fishie:.

Answer 3

I don't know....some people just like to judge and interject their opinions. The lady probably wanted to know how to wean the child off of the dummy/bottle. Three years is pretty old to still be using that stuff but my kids have never had a strong attachment to them either. I think it can be bad for their teeth as they good older. It's hard to make the break, and there is plenty of advice out there on how to do it, but it's bound to be a battle! I think some parents just want to avoid the fight for as long as possible hoping that the child will just grow out of it.

Answer 4

Many, many, many...

The thing that I have noticed is that people will judged another parent for letting them keep a pacifier till 3 but their own child will wear pull ups to bed, or wasn't potty trained till 3, or still uses a sippy cup at 5, or can't get themselves dressed at 4, or sucks their thumb at 7, or throws temper tantrums each night before bed at 4, or still takes a special blankie or stuffy to sleep at 6.

Each child has something that they use for security. I think that the world would be better if everyone could stop being so judgemental and be more helpful. Remember to look at yourself too. SD

Answer 5

This is kind of like a question I answered earlier. My answer still has to be the same. Some people are just rude to each other. Sometimes a kid will ask how to do a math problem and the remarks are terrible calling the child stupid and such, it's ridiculous. Whatever happened to courtesy?

Answer 6

Nope, never have seen an 18 year old with either. But I have seen dental photographs of what can happen if a child continues to use either for too long. Since the experts agree that neither should be used after the age of 1, its easy to see how a 3 year old still using either can be viewed as abnormal.

Answer 7

i don't have self belief that it truly is a cut back and dry technique. My son stopped employing a %. in the previous he replaced into 2 months previous, and stopped with the bottle at slightly in the previous 3 hundred and sixty 5 days, the two with out me having to even attempt. some sippy cups are worse for a baby's tooth than a bottle is, so i do no longer understand the great rush to get them off the bottle besides. some little ones have sensory matters and sucking on a %. is a thank you to maintain them calm in stressful circumstances. I used to think of, omg check out that 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous with a %., yet on account that transforming into a ensure, and seeing how annoying it truly is for some little ones, exceedingly ones with sensory matters (my son has sensory matters, yet none that a %. ought to help with), i do no longer think of i might provide a 2d concept to seeing a baby with a %. except they have been like 8 or something.

Answer 8

I think pacifiers are fine, for "pacifying" the child when they are in need of some security.
However, it shouldn't go past two or three, I suppose.

My best friend when I was younger had a little brother, and their parents let him suck on a pacifier until he was nine or ten.
It was absolutely disgusting and humilitating to come over to her house and have her brother try to talk to me at nine with a pacifier in his mouth and I'd have no idea what he was saying because he couldn't talk properly, even without it in his mouth.
Come to think of it, I still don't think he can talk properly...

Answer 9

It has been proven that using a pacifier delays speech development and negatively affects the way the teeth come in.

Reason enough not to use them!