HELP!!!!! DO YOU THINK I SHOULD RUN AWAY!! SMOKING PROBLEM???can't stop smoking?

Question

OK i know this sounds dumb and stupid but this is the only place where i could ask this questoin... i'am 18 year old guy. I smoke and i can't stop smoking. I just can't. I tried everthing, from nicotine gum to patches to injections to etc. and it doesn't work and i cant just quit. My parents for the most part hate itThey said if i ever see you with a ciggerate, i'll kick you out..at least thats what my dad said. not my mom but my mom hates me smoking too . He says even if i see you pick up a ciggeate or stare at one, i'll beat you up and throw you out. But again i can't stop...do you think i should just move out/run away?and PLEASE no negative answers..if you don't have anything good to say please odn't answer

Answer 1

With your parents so adamantly agaainst this disgusting habit, you may be clinging to it out of a deep, perhaps unconscious, rebellion. You need therapy for the smoking and for the rebellion so you can deal with the root cause. You aren't old enough to have had this habit for any great length of time so it's not hopeless. Your parents mean well, but their criticism is counter-productive. Don't move out just to get away from your dad's nagging. You are displaying an immaturity that would indicate that you can't get along on your own.

Answer 2

I'm trying to quit smoking myself. Don't run away. But if it is an option, you can get a job and move out like was suggested. Here's the deal. You can't quit if you don't want to. Every time I tried until now it's been pointless, but though it will be hard you can do it if it's what you want. If you really don't want to, then either get your own place, because 18 or not it is their house, or become good at hiding it. I'm not saying that's a good path to take, I hid my smoking from my wife for two years and I felt terrible, but what I did was:
1. Sprayed my clothes with deoderizer...not air freshener, but something that dissipates other odors.
2. Limited my cigarettes to as few as possible each day, which also made it easier when it came time to quit.
3. Chewed cinnamon gum after each cigarette and washed my face and hands whenever I came home.
4. Didn't smoke anywhere near home.
But like I said, I felt bad about it. Now that I'm trying to stop, I use the gum, I also made sure to have a list telling me why I didn't want to smoke anymore (important), and I just avoid all my smoker friends.....I've even had to cut back on my drinking. I've been almost a week and had one cigarette, and it was because I was drunk. So I know you're "too young" but if you drink, try and avoid that. Good luck man.

Answer 3

How long have you smoked? Why is your father acting this way? Does he know someone who is having health problems because of nicotine? Do you have a job and if so can you support yourself? Who is buying your cigarettes and treatment for the addiction? These are all questions you need to ask yourself. If you cannot stop the habit and you can support yourself then I believe you should move out. Cigarettes are not really that hard to quit. I smoked 4 packs a day for 7 years and stopped cold turkey. I think you can do it. I have faith in you. After this though I think I would try to see why Dad has such strong feelings about what you do as an adult. Good luck.

Answer 4

After smoking for about 14 years, I finally quite using the smoke away system. But have to say I tried everything possible before that. It is not just about what you use to stop smoking it is also a mind set. If you are just doing it because of your parents, then give up and move out (sorry for being so blunt) but if it is something you really want, then stop saying you cant and keep trying new things. There are more and more support to help stop smoking out there, it is not impossible, just hard.

Answer 5

I had the same problem at home - not to the same extent - but with parenst who were really anti smoking. You'll only stop if you really want to and I guess you probably don't want to.

You're 18 and it's legal so just don't smoke at home so as not to cause a problem. I started at 14 and am 21 now and eventually they just sort of accepted it but I still can't/don't smoke at home.

You always have that choice to move out but it seems over the top just for this. Maybe your parents smoked when they were younger. Doubt if your Dad would beat you up at 18 for smoking, would he?

Answer 6

What makes you think that running away could possibly, in any way, shape, or form, prevent you from smoking?! One of the reasons your not able to succeed in quitting smoking is because, as you said, "this is the only place where I could ask this question." You need to talk to professionals and get help because it is a very difficult thing to do from what I understand and you've got to try and build a support group around you. Good luck.

Answer 7

From someone who smoked for over 15 years and thought I Could NEVER stop... YOU CAN STOP! Why would you run away from your home over something that is killing you? Do you know everyday you smoke you are taking days off your life? You are going to look back on this time and think why did I just not stop?
You Can truly do this.. One day at a time. I can't imagine trading my family and a place to live over a Smoke.. think about what you are saying...Please try again to stop.. Just not worth it.

Answer 8

You can, and will, when you make up your mind to, quit smoking. You are 18 yrs old. You are technically an adult. So, our dad could, if he really wanted to, kick you out. My dad quit smoking, cold turkey, my mom still smoked at the time, so unfortunately he started back up just shy of seven years later, and kept smoking till he died of a heart attack. My mom, 12 years before she died, quit smoking, the way she did it, she was determined to quit, tried different ways and times, went up to the alter for prayer about it at church on a Sunday night, and quit. With the help of prayer. Let me ask you a few questions: Why did you start smoking? How old were you? Do you REALLY want to quit? Do you want to get diseases like cancer, emphysema, etc.? Do you eventually want to get married and have a family? If so, hypothetically, if you have a daughter, do you want to be healthy enough to walk her down the aisle when she gets married? Do you want to live for a good long time? Be healthy? Or, do you want to end up in a wheelchair, and with an oxygen tank? Do you respect your parents? And their household rules? If you do, then please, quit smoking. For yourself, that is the best way to do it, and truly quit, and stay healthy. Also, you must like to eat. Are you aware that food will taste even better when you don't smoke? 20 minutes after your last cigarette, your lungs will start to get healthier. You will be able to breathe better. Take care.

Answer 9

Don't run away, it wont befun for someone 18 to smoke(really) its true.
Ok now some answers are to drink a lot more
water than usual. throw away the cigg. or have someone look over you.You should just not hang with people that smoke or the truth is that u can die of ling cancer of even worse( no offense its true) Ilearned that in school when I was little. So you should just stay away from THE CIGG!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Well I would have to say that if you are old enough to go against your parents wishes, and have a grown up habit that you pay for then maybe it is time to be a true grown up and move out on your own.
I hope you don't look at this as a negative answer, I'm not trying to be negative, just real.