I live with a woman who was married over 30 years, and her husband left her and 3 daughters declaring he was gay. It has been a roller coaster ride. She has problems showing appreciation when I do something for her. I really love her and I guess I need to know if maybe I am putting too much importance on a thank you when I do something nice. It kind of hurts my feelings when I shop, and prepare a fine meal, and dont even get a thank you. Please tell me what I need to hear.
2007-04-02 17:21:42 · 4 answers · asked by john c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not sure what it is that you need to hear but I will gladly tell you this I consider it rude not to thank some one when they do some thing for you. And I cook all the time but I at least hear its delicious etc. There are no excuses for being unkind. I have been through much hurt in my life but I do not take it out on others. She should be kind to you. I wish you all the best.
2007-04-02 17:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by scruffie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. No, it should never be too much to expect a simple thank-you when you do something nice for anyone. When someone opens a door or holds an elevator for me I say thank-you. Its the little things that mean so much and courtesy takes little time or effort, as much for those you care for as for total strangers.
The question you have to ask yourself is why. Does she use better manners with other people? Do her children say please and thank-you? Or is it her upbringing where these are just not on her radar? If she is nicer or more polite to others then maybe she is just using you for your help and not really interested in you as a person. If she doen't do it to others then she isn't respecting you ands your effort. But try talking to her about the way you feel, she may not realise the way you feel and what you want from her.
All the best, B
2007-04-02 17:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I WILL THANK YOU FOR SHOWING NOT ALL GUYS ARE JERKS LET GIVE A ROUND OF APPLAUSE....just remember that shes been going through a rough time. having someone leave you after 30 years is rough but to also come out to being gay thats a lot for one person to handle all at once. Shes probably appreciating it but shes not able to show it real well and shes not in a trusting expression way right now just give it time and remember your helping all guys around the world showing were not all jerks and that we care..my regards thank you and dont worry about it
2007-04-02 17:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by sportsallstar812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
therea re people in this world who aren't showy with their own feelings. yu just need to understand them for i think they've got some childhood issues that were left unsolved. my mother belongs to that kind of people and we understand her, including our father. even if she's not vocal with her love for us, we can feel it. after all, actions speak louder than words, right? i'm sure you can feel it that the woman you love loves you back and appreciates everything you've done for her....
2007-04-02 17:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by merl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋