I'm 25, and all my life, my parents have known some family friends. They have kids a few years older than me, so I would often get their hand-me-down toys. One of them, was a Weeble People playset.
Now, the 'kids' whose stuff I used to get have kids of their own. Now, the 'grandma' is asking my mom for the weeble people BACK. Unfortunatley, my idiot mother threw them away many, many years ago.
I found the exact same Weeble set on Ebay. Should I buy it and give it to my mom for a birthday present (to give back to the friends)...
OR...
Is it extremely tacky for the grandma to be asking for the toys back, 20 years later?
2007-04-02 17:17:54 · 21 answers · asked by Matt 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think that is EXTREMELY rude, unless you don't have kids and maybe you just have the stuff lying around unused, but still no, that's wrong. I mean if you are gonna want it back in 20 yrs, why even bother giving it away! If you buy one to give to her, it shows her that what she did was ok, and being an Indian Giver is not ok, it's rude. Good luck sweets.
2007-04-02 19:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by jashaunte 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was tacky of her to ask as long as she didn't make a big deal out of it and act betrayed that you don't still have the toys after twenty years. There are clothes and toys in our neighborhood that have been handed down through three families and wound up in the original homes in time for the next generation. If she can accept that the Weeble people, alas, did not survive then all is well. If you can afford to buy the Weebles and give them to her that would be very generous. I think the sensible thing to do would be to offer to buy them for her. I'm guessing she'll say, oh heavens no, it's not that important, I just thought if you still have them little Roderick nd Simplicity would enjoy them as much as you did.
2007-04-03 01:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you calling your mother an "idiot"? Of course she's going to throw away toys that you no longer need because you're an adult so act like one and don't call your mother an idiot. Not only is it tacky for someone to ask for something back from 20 years ago and also has no value, it's just plain crazy. I would just say the toys were thrown away a long time ago and you no longer have them. Leave it at that.
2007-04-03 08:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by pathfindercia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's beyond tacky.. it's almost unbelievable! But, knowing how silly some people are, I believe it!
Definitely do NOT buy the Weebles for this woman.. it will be the thin edge of the wedge! Next she'll want mint condition collectable Star Wars figures...
2007-04-03 00:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by endorable 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think it tacky. A gift is just that a gift. Once it is given the giver has no right to determine what should happen to it next. I would not purchase a set on E-bay. Just think what you might be getting yourself into.
What about all those other toys? What if she wants those toys back? I would just explain to her that the toys were given 20 years ago and loved so much that they were thrown away once they lost their usefulness.
2007-04-03 00:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by Misty B 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tacky with a capital T. Tell your Mom about the set on Ebay and see if she wants to buy it to give to the grandma but do not give it to your Mom for a gift. Get Mom her own nice gift.
2007-04-03 00:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you do with any items that are given to you is your business & you have no obligation to anyone to return or replace the items. G-ma may be asking for them because of sentimental reasons - if so - not much you can do to help other than to say "sorry about that - it has been gone for years". If you suspect that this is a monetary thing – I recommend you let them know that you feel their request is very tacky & just ignore them in the future.
2007-04-03 00:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by weaver2sl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They gave it to you, it wasn't a loan. Don't worry about it, not unless they want everything else they gave you as a hand me down. I gave a Barbie doll away that is probably now worth over 500 dollars but do you think I'm getting that back. HA!! Tell them they shouldn't have given it to you in the first place if they knew they would be wanting it back. Shame on them!!
2007-04-06 16:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAAAT? It is extremely tacky for the grandma to be asking for the toys. She's nuts... ignore her. I'm sure her children would be mortified if they knew that their mother was asking for the toys back.
2007-04-03 00:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by ohbrother 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
20 years! Who's expected to keep toys for 20 years!
2007-04-04 00:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by njyecats 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋