how do u get over a broken heart?

Question

i had my first relationship not long ago. it lasted the whole month of february. it was a huge deal for me because I have major major trust issues. and my ex boyfriend made it clear that I could trust him. we hung out every day and I didn't want to admit that I was falling in love with him but when he told me that he loved me... I just completely let all of my guards down. I was in love with him. and i told him that. it wasn't till the end of february when he suddenly stopped talking to me... whenever he would see me in the halls at school he would avoid me... he wouldnt answer my calls... and then i saw him kissing another girl... and I felt a pain that I had never ever felt before in my life. it's been over a month since we stopped seeing each other and every single day I cry over him... i feel pathetic but i dont know how to get over him

Answer 1

I'm guessing on top of lossing this guy you really don't have to many friends, espacially a best friends so this is going to hit you hard. Espacially sense your dealing with trust issues, we tend to isolate ourselves and at the sametime crave people to be around us... nice caught-22.... but your going to also suffer because your relationship with yourself, before this got started, wasn't very good.... only a month... yea you were primed for falling in love... so realize this true fact of life... just because someone says they love you doesn't mean what you want it to mean.... love is personal thing and people have there ideas about what saying that means for them... also don't let the words blind you to want the actions show you. And this guys actions show me that he is just out to learn about women and you got caught in the mix. What are you to expect, better from him? Your in highschool this is were people do some of the worse things to themselves and others. Just play your heart a little bit more seriously and look for what a person purpose in life is, not just weather or not they like you are not.... relationships are complicated, and love is never enough you need compassion and passion and if you don't see these things.... don't expect much.... as far as what you need to do with yourself is get use to you... if you can settle on loving yourself right now, everything else will be cake... just go out and make some friends and see were life takes you from there...

Answer 2

hi yesterday's feeling,

all i can say is i know how it feels,

many people are sailing in the same boat as you are.
many many people have asked me the same question, to help more and more people, i have created a web page for the question on broken heart.

http://lovedevotee.googlepages.com/

Hope it helps,
GyaanGuru