so i just started going to church, i havent been going very long but i really like it. so anyway, a friend of mine (another girl) is lesbian and she kinda tricked me by pretending to be interested in my crush's friend and said she was nervous about kissing him and asked if she could practice with me. i didnt ever think about her being a lesbian so we practiced making out with each other. now she tells me that she's in love with me.
anyway i feel really guilty about what happened with me and my friend and i dont know what to do. does this mean that i cant go back to church now or what?
2007-04-02 15:49:15 · 18 answers · asked by Manda P 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
look i'm only 15 and i just didnt know better. this girl is a little older then me and i trusted her. i dont wanna mess with her again. i like this guy who is older then me and he's the one i want to go out with.
2007-04-02 15:56:12 · update #1
you made a mistake, and the best thing about ,mistakes is we all get to learn from the ones we make. you need to tell the girl that your not interested and you don't appreciate the way she fooled you into doing it, think wiser in the future, don't believe anything anyone tells you and only half of what you see and you will be fine, and you can go back to the church if you so choose, that's is your option, and people are not suppose to judge anyway even though they do, so ask yourself, would you judge someone one if they made the same mistake as you
2007-04-02 16:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sparky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What happened seems like an example of invincible ignorance, in that you weren't to know your friend's motives for wanting to 'practice' kissing, and so you did not knowingly commit the act, making it not your fault.
However, if you're a Christian, I'd say a good guideline for you from now on is to just not 'make out' with any more girls. Anyway, on the whole you're the victim really, and you ought to probably talk to the girl like the other people have already said, and tell her you don't feel the same way aswell as ask her not to trick you again, although you forgive her. Don't feel guilty.
2007-04-02 16:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by firefromabustedgun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem isn't that she's lesbian or that she likes you. The problem is that you have two different agendas. Let her know you *really* don't go that way, and if you'd have known her true intent, you wouldn't have played along. Tell her you like her as a friend, only as a friend, and that's it. Think of how you'd say it to a boy who liked you but you didn't like back--that's probably the right thing to say to her.
Sure you can go back to church. You aren't the first to make a mistake (and obviously you think it's a mistake.) But many churches and Christians think gayness is a neutral, even a fine, thing. Your church isn't the only game in town.
2007-04-02 16:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, the minute you stepped in the direction of Christ the devil made sure he found a way to mess you up!! and big by the sounds of it. That lesiban spirit will be delt with, Christ made sure of that. He will and already has forgiven you, thats why he went to the cross for your sins. You do need to find a strong believer that will help you right now because, and ill say it, sometimes you can get the most woundness from thoses in church. I sorry but it does happen. Thoses who know the enemys attempts and how to affectivley pray and cover you are the ones you need in your life right now. I pray now that God sends labors forth in Jesus name for you and your walk. Nobody tells us how the devil comes at us when we get into church, but his bootie is parked in church too and there if allowed he does great damage. But Gods word also say we are overcomers, Overcomers of the World, devil and the flesh. Those things i will believe for you, the flesh is hard but you can do, sin is not what needs to be accepted. So tell this girl that you no longer will be decieved by the devil or that sin attached to her. You need to seperate yourself from thoses not strong in the word and having trouble with sin. Find a mentor that can pary over you continually and keep in the Word because what happened is under the curse and Christ came to set you free from that curse. Run into the arms of Christ and ask for forgivness with a true repentive heart and let him do the rest, he knows what happened and love you very much.
2007-04-02 17:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bought & paid for!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question, why does a person go to church? From what I think, because a person wants to get closer to God; thank Him for whatever things that we have and ask for things that we don't have. But one main reason to go is to ask for forgiveness and repent on the mistakes that one has done. There is nothing wrong in going to church as long as you keep this inside your heart and not tell anyone about it. Ask for forgiveness and God will forgive you.
2007-04-02 16:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jaggo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
salam (peace be upon you), I hope you stay self and God conscious for the rest of your life. You got to strongly believe in the fact that, God doesn't punish you for your mistakes, unless and until those mistakes are repeated again and again that they dont remain mistakes anymore. And God doesn't punish you for something you have no knowledge of. You didn't know your friend was a lesbians, and she tricked you in doing whatever you guys did. You were tricked. God loves those who commit mistakes and repent.
Ask God for forgiveness. Your friend is the one who should really be concerned about whatever happened between you and her. Out of two, i believe you are better, because you are worried about your sin and so conscious. May God help you in finding the the straight path.
peace.
2007-04-02 16:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by faiz_khan50 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Our God is forgiving. Hey there is always weakness in the flesh. God knows that. Just tell Him Father i'm sorry,wish that I could have done better. He will forgive you if it is true heartfelt repentence. He will blot out that sin to the point it never really did excist. Do it today won't you.
2007-04-02 17:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by dispesational7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to church. But don't tell people what happened. They could judge you, and I think that is God's place. Pray to God and ask him to forgive you. He will if you mean it.
2007-04-02 15:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by norielorie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax. Tell your friend you're not interested and get over it. if you know it's not your fault, don't you think God knew it way before you? and if you did like it, and if you do want more of it, people may talk and judge, but God loves you anyway.
2007-04-02 15:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Gungnir 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Church is the God-ordained place for people to go who have messed up. Get over it, because God already has.
2007-04-02 15:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋