How can I persuade my mom tostop drinking?

Question

My mom has a huge drinking problem.... every day she gets drunk and then comes home and starts blabbering about some stupid **** and the smallest thing will start an angry frenzy when shes drunk and we keep getting into fights and shes being a little ***** and says that she doesnt need to help her drinking problem.......plz help.........

Answer 1

You cannot help her, just get help for yourself.

Answer 2

I hope I can help you. I am an alcoholic and was in the Navy and drunk on my butt and rode a motorcycle into a rock wall at 42 miles an hour and was in a coma for a week. And told by the Doctors that if I did live I would be nothing but a vegetable. But I found out the hard way that alcohol was not my buddy and most of the time when I was drinking I did not remember where I was or what I did. So I drink coffee. Now the best thing I can recommend for you is to find a Doctor to see her and tell the Doctor the problem before you have to tell her that she has to go see him or her. She has to face the fact that alcohol is not her friend and must have help to do so. And then you all can go to meetings together and work it out but first she must face the fact that she has this problem and a medical way is the only way I know to help her. The police is going to far. So try medical help and get her to go for it. And then after she is seen to have them make her go to meetings and you go with her. And help her face it. I hope it works and the best to you. She is running from everything and needs to face that. She needs help and you must find it for her. Best of luck to you and I wish you the best.

Answer 3

If this is going on~

Solution for U, however, she will stop only when and if she is ready:

Be point blank honest with her and don't walk around her as is she were made of eggshells or china. Any person that walks around an addicted person behaving as the person is made of glass is has a serious problem themselves ~ it's enabling(encouraging the behavior). This is what they mean when they say the person choosing to drink is not the only one with a problem - Here is why: the drink has control of them by choice and since they have no control over their own lives they attempt to control and manipulate the lives of others "concerning the addiction". Drinkers expect people to keep their mouth shut because they are looking for validation...which is very manipulative. Keep in mind that she is your mother and some of what she does will be that of parental authority sorry you have to sort that out but there is such a thing as your own personal responsibility in life also. You don't want to grow up to be being a weenie that blames everything on their parent just because they had a drinking problem ~ don't make choices to stunt your own growth. I'm not recommending disrespect here...what I'm advising is to be honest(love)...you don't have to like the behavior but love mom ...yes. Just think about it first before you act because honesty(positive) doesn't include disrespect(negative).


"being a little *****"

....this is disrespectful (projection) ....please try hard not to call people names as it just reflects who you are instead of searching for solution. I'm sure you don't want to be known as this angry person who goes around calling people names. Most don't want that to be part of their identity.

Answer 4

Go to Al Anon or Alateen meetings in your area.

Get some of her friends together and plan a meeting, known as an intervention. Talk to her after she has had a drinking bout and is hung over. Tell her you love her. However, there are things you do when drunk that upset you very much.
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Be very specific. Let each person tell her similar very specific stories. DO NOT try to talk to her when she is drinking.

She may not even know some of the things she does. People who drink heavily black out, where they are awake and on their feet but remember nothing of what they did. But anyone around them knows for sure. Drinkers are totally convinced nobody knows of their drinking.
You may be in no position to offer consequences, but talk to other people in this situation before you try to be the family hero.

Answer 5

Your mother is way beyond your help! She needs in-patient detox and treatment! Where is your father? If you are under age and living in her home, you need to get out and find a good safe home to finish your growing up in a healthy way! I know you want to help her--but she needs in-patient treatment!! That's expensive and too much for you to take on yourself!!! Does she have any family that can take responsibility and get her treatment??? I KNOW this sounds harsh and it is very very sad that she is in this state and That you are having to deal with the consequences!! Above all, don't get involved with hiding her liquor, etc., or you'll just be dragged down into the insanity!! I ask how old you are--as a young person, you can go to court and ask for emancipation. You've GOT to get yourSELF help, if you are living in her home and are dependent upon her! If you are already on your own, love your mom and let her go. Tell her she needs help and MUST get treatment!! That you can no longer be around her the way she is. Do everything you can to get her in-patient treatment, and if she won't, turn around and live your own life in a positive way. Watch your own alcohol intake, too, throughout your own life. Lots of good luck--you have lots of company here! As others say, go to Alanon for your support!

Answer 6

You can't make her stop, Alcoholism is an illness, all you can do is get involved in a personal recovery program for yourself, as earlier mentioned, Alanon, Alateen. They won't teach you how to make her quit, but how you can deal with her and still be happy. If she sees you doing things like that, and maybe leaving some literature laying around where she can see it, maybe it will get her attention. I know its not easy, I'm a recovering person myself, and a Drug and Alcohol Counselor. You can only take care of you. I'll pray for you to receive the help you need.

Answer 7

I'd say dont call the cops/or family if you really love your mom wheter she's a ***** or whatever... do things from your heart
like look up online ways to help her ::google search::
before she gets home maybe do laundry or mom stuff... incase she's stressed out. plan a day, order food/ invite family members maybe do a surprise party.... so when she gets home she will feel relax and happy to see ppl... maybe after the party sit down and talk with her tell her how you feel about her drinking....
also tell her how much you care. and you'd be willing to help.... but dont follow her steps.. by asking a ?'s your heading the right direction.. hide all the wine/beer throw it away ** can believe i said that lol** but do it.... and dont tell your friends... talk to ppl and slowly help her cause my dad stopped drinking in one year. and is doing great... good luck

Answer 8

they have (in England) 2 instruments of jabd at about 8 weeks then at 10 weeks. It value me about £50 for both instruments + worming paste. are you able to easily view the dad and mom on line? if so dont even difficulty. a strong breeder is what you want to be searching for. £three hundred? does have papers?, have dad and mom been well being checked and had the checks finished? pass and imagine about this more advantageous

Answer 9

you can get help for YOU....

unfortunately you can't change your mother. she will get help and sober when she is ready.

you can do a Yahoo search for Alcoholics Anonymous chat. if you go to the chat, these people are very aware of resources to help YOU COPE with your mother... and they can give you a lot of advice.

also, you can go to Alcoholics Anonymous or Alanon meetings in your community. If you do, don't be afraid to ask for help and advice.

another thing you can do is talk to an adult friend or relative who you trust and respect. let them know what is going on.

i hope your mother gets help. Please consider help for YOU too.

sending love and hugz your way.

you deserve a good life.

Answer 10

you can't help someone who doesn't want to help herself.
I live the same life except the drunk is my husband
you will eventually get old enough to leave
you could go to Alanon meetings but.....
I would try to avoid her when she is drunk
I'm really saddened that you have to go through this and feel so desperate...
is there anyone else that you could possibly live with?

Answer 11

take out all the alcohle in the house and dont let her buy any or go to the bar and take her to one of those alcohic meetings too