i broke up w/ my ex and im starting to kind of miss him and think i can deal w/ his annoyingness which is why we broke up but i know i cant man please someone i need tips to focus on the ews of my ex so i can move on. i always end up thinking something bad and then im like well he was so nice klsdfjfdsjkfklsd!!!!! help please
2007-04-02 15:19:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ps. and i dont exactly want to be friends w/ him idk why but im like scared of him...
2007-04-02 15:28:25 · update #1
It's so completely normal to miss someone/feel bad so soon after breaking up, but don't fool yourself into believing you still want him as a boyfriend, especially if his personality is why you broke up in the first place. I think you know this though if you're asking to focus on the not-so-super things.
What's worked for me is make a list of all the things you hate... EVERYTHING from the big things to the little nitpicky things and then if that didn't help, write another list of the things you DO want in someone that he couldn't give you.
Stay strong! :)
2007-04-02 15:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by May C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than focus on his 'ews'...find someone to distract you...
Okay that isn't easy, I know...if he wasn't that bad, he wouldn't be an ex...use that as your mantra...no matter how good he was on his best day...it's all the others that matter...
over the course of a lifetime...it's not the bright points that keep you happy...it's the dark ones...if the the high points are 'not that bad'...'something I can deal with'...the low points will really suck...
good luck
2007-04-02 22:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by Clif S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why break ups get so bitter. Don't try to demonize him. Just tell yourself that's not the way I wanted my life to go and pick a new direction.
2007-04-02 22:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem...wat i did is hav a very close friendship relationship w/ him...u can still hav the comfort of having him there for u but u can still get mad @ him w/o worrying about breaking up & bf/gf stuff & u can move on to dating other guys...good luck ;D
2007-04-02 22:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by Ana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a list of pros and cons if u have more pros dont forget him hes a keeper if more cons dump him like last nites trash!
2007-04-04 22:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋