He's completely moved on with his life and yet I cannot shake our love no matter how HARD I try. We just had that special magical power to our interaction.. that certain chemistry but with UMPH... that brings out creativity and passion.. the kind Michelangelo used when he painted the chapel.. the kind Robert Browning had when he spoke of his wife, Elizabeth. Will I ever shake him? Does this mean I am sentenced to a life of wishful thinking forever lost in my own thoughts of him? I am so lonely...
2007-04-02 15:18:35 · 25 answers · asked by Jane Doe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the heart never forgets. Your mind will try and logic things out, but in the end it is all love. You will never stop loving him, but give some one else a chance, you may miss out on your true love by keeping the flame alight for a man who is obviously moved on and in love with his wife.
Open your heart to a new love you may surprise yourself.
2007-04-02 15:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just sad in so many ways. First of all, look in the mirror and tell yourself it's HIS LOSS, not yours. Obviously it was not as "perfect" as you are leading us to believe or you would still be together. More importantly, he is married and you need to move on. Try remembering all of the reasons you are NOT together instead of focusing so much on what you think was perfect. The kind of thinking you are doing right now is only going to keep you lonely... not help you at all. Go get the book "He's Just Not That Into You." It's kind of brutal but helpful too. Your soulmate is out there somewhere... and he's not married to someone else.
2007-04-02 22:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Jane,
Get a handle. You are going to spend a fantastic life miserable. Do whatever it takes to find some fun so you aren't forever thinking about him.
If you find that he is single again, as I am noticing most people are after a little while, then go for him! Let him know how you feel, especially if you think he may be feeling the same for you.
Try to wishful think the one you have yet to meet, who is just waiting for you.
He could be paint better than Picasso and be more handsome than Greco.
2007-04-02 22:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by goodness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to get over someone you've loved. There is a reason the two of you broke up in the first place. Obviously if he has moved on with his life and married someone else, he wasn't the guy for you. You will shake him, trust me. When you find the guy your supposed to be with, you will forget all about your ex. I know it seems impossible right now, but it can happen and it will, I am proof of that.
2007-04-02 22:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Aimee M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find a way to move on,he has. If the feeling is not mutual then you really need to find someone new. Maybe you should go to counseling or something.I know it is hard but do not think you will always feel this way or you will and that would not be good.Remember that you were half of that magic you had and you can bring that to another relationship. Good luck.
2007-04-02 22:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lori O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are sentenced to whatever you choose to sentence yourself to. The minute you start living in the real world, you'll start feeling better. But it seems that you're happy imagining yourself the heroine in a great Greek tragedy. Nothing wrong with that, per se, just don't complain about all the time you've wasted later. Time you could have spent finding someone who actually wants to be with you (as opposed to someone who has moved on in every sense of the word).
2007-04-02 22:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and come back to reality because your husband doesn't see it that way. You need to take a real good look at your marriage and be honest with yourself of what really went wrong there are signs the lead to break ups yes it hurts but you need to get some help and get pass the hurt (love) to move on I sure he's move on.
2007-04-02 22:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married so treat it as a wrong way sign and turn around. Go down another street. He has moved on so whatever you two was not as deep as you perceived it. It's okay though. Thefunny thing is that we humans fall in love and feel as though we will never feel that again. But the truth is we will! Take your time and heal. There will be another~
2007-04-02 22:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly what is wrong with you, wishful thinking. Evidently he didn't see the relationship as you did or he would still be with you. You are in love with the idea of not being able to have him. Just think, you have wasted 5 valuable years of your life that you will never get back wanting something that you cannot have.
2007-04-02 22:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, Its been five years hes gone and your just letting your life just go on by. Try to start dating again, go out with friends just try to occupy you time so u wont feel so lonely. I really feel for u But things will get better....
2007-04-02 22:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋