hey guys i appreciate any responses that i may receive.
okay so here is the deal. i've known this girl for about a year now and sometime between then and now, we have become good friends. we used to talk a lot, she would stop by my locker, wait for me, you know, the whole deal. whenever we talked, she would look directly into my eyes and smile. so i wanted to ask her out pretty bad, but my parents are adamant about not letting me date. we are indian, so apparently getting into a relationship would ruin my valedictorian status and whatnot. however, lately, this girl has not seemed too interested in me. she no longer takes the initiative to start conversations, she no longer waits by my locker, no longer looks at me and has a complete conversation. i did ask her out to a dance, but she didnt give me a straight answer. she respondedly vaguely and changed the topic. now she doesnt even say hi, and it seems that i have to start the conversations now. so whats the deal? what should i do?
2007-04-02 14:52:09 · 5 answers · asked by Jason V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and do u think i waited too long to ask her out? is that why she is exasperated?
2007-04-02 14:53:11 · update #1
You know what, you did wait too long to ask the girl out. A year is definitely too long to wait when you know upfront that you're interested. Now . . . what you're describing is typical of girls who don't have the nerve to reject men. They just start ignoring the guy they aren't interested in all the time, hoping that he gets the hint that she isn't interested. But what usually happens, as has happened to you, is that the guy is totally dumbfounded and doesn't know what the hell is going on. Forget her and find a girl who really is interested in talking to you.
If you hadn't asked the girl out, I would say you should give that a try. But you did and she is ignoring you instead of just having the courage to tell you "no" . . . she doesn't want to feel guilty about having to hurt your feelings. But usually this kind of rejection hurts worse, because you don't even know right away that you've been rejected if you lack experience. Good luck!
2007-04-02 15:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You waited too long to ask. She felt rejected and moved on to someone else.
You still have a chance though. If you are willing to defy your parents, I would walk up to her and just confess why it took you so long. If she knows that it was your parents' rules and not your lack of interest, she might give you a chance. Good luck, buddy.
2007-04-02 14:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she got tired of waiting! She probably thought that you weren't into her so she wanted to reciprocate those feelings back, try to ask her out and show her you sincerely want to go out with her. If she declines, maybe you could just be friends.
2007-04-02 14:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Keona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you waited too long and she is exasperated. Now you should cut to the chase, tell her you like her if you do, go for it, etc.
2007-04-02 14:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her one more time ifshe interested she will let u know if not move on and forget her
2007-04-02 14:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋