Help please?

Question

I am currently 13 years old and for the past two months, I have been crying every single night. At school, I am always grinning ear to ear and joking and am so relieved when the weekend gets over(because schools back). I stay as long as possible after school, because I dread coming home.

At home, I am always frowning, and my parents are always yelling at me. Sometimes, I feel like I fall into a depression right after I arrive home from school. For the first half an hour its ok; my sister doesnt get home yet. But after that half an hour, I feel like im in hell

I have stopped eating at home, to avoid my family, and am usually locked up in my room. My dad doesnt talk to me anymore because I didnt want to eat that much.

Is it possible that im in a half-depression? I am jolly and happy in school, but sad and frowny at home

Well, I started crying right in front of them and they said that I should stop being a baby and that their life was already very stressfull as it is. Then I told them that i cry every night and then they laughed.

I cant talk to the counceler!!!Itll ruin my social life and I'm supposed to be completely on top of things. If people know that I cant handle my life, my reputation will become completely dife

Answer 1

hi.... sorry to hear you're having these problems.

depression could be the issue, or it could be something else entirely.

do you have a good relationship with your mother? please ask her to take some time to talk with you. let her know how you are feeling. i'm sure she has already noticed something is wrong. tell her "I feel....." and express how YOU feel... No one will ever know, unless you tell them.

if not your mother, perhaps you can talk to the school guidance counsellor or some other adult you respect and trust -- they can help you talk with your mother.

if you are depressed, remember it's nothing to be ashamed of... it's an illness, and it is manageable through several different types of treatment.

Your eating habits indicate a problem, also.

Your health and happiness are very important. it's NOT your fault you are feeling like this -- sometimes we have to ask for help... and i think that perhaps you might consider doing that soonest...

sending hugs your way.

Answer 2

Ok... wow,...
so here it goes...

I was 13 once.. so i understand those days...
and... i can help you out a bit since i've been there before...

Learn to ignore!!!!.... seriously... it's the ONLY way out!!!!...
Ignore , ignore, ignore, ignore!!!!

If you don't want your "social" life to be ruined!!!.... cause i'm guessing that is more important than your self esteem...

well... then you gotta learn to ignore...
Ignore when they scream at you... ignore your sister.. ignore all the stuff that annoys you and get you angry or depressed....

If people make you feel down.. ignore them!!! ..there's gonna be a day when you'll be old enough to send them all to hell...

Now... READ!!!!....
...your parents at times will never be right... and to them.. you will always be wrong... so just ignore them... pretend that when they're talking .. that it's not them talking.. pretend it's a monkey talking ...and then instead you'll laugh about it....
AND think that there's no IMPORTANT reason to hate your parents for acting the way they do... because you can wake up tomorrow and your parents can be gone... and you'll then wish that you rather have your parents screaming at you ..then have them dead underground.... so be patient.. you'll grow up one day ...and you'll understand that parents just talk and talk and talk and even if they're wrong... pretend that they are right... to not get them angry so that they won't scream at you...

...now find something fun to do at your room... read, write, draw,.. if your not that type of a "geek" ..like i am... then stay after school and try any activity...

don't frustrate yourself ...the world is NOT gonna end !!!.... be positive... your still a kid... when you grow up you'll see that there is much more to worry about...

if your parents get mad at times.. they got bills to pay.. they gotta figuere a way to bring food to the house.. so they themselves are kind of frustrated...

so just ignore all that's around you and enjoy life cause believe it or not... life is short.. and you don't want to waste it crying...

...yes, it's good to cry and let all emotions out.. trust me,.. it's very good...

but don't get depressed... try to take things as a joke.. joke around instead

..you can actually become THE HEROE of your family... try to joke about everything isntead... try to be funny with your family... if your mom says no... you say no.. try it once... and then your mom would be "what the hell"? ...and that will be funny... then she'll tell your dad.. "dude,.. our son actually said no when i said no... he didn't argue with me.." then your dad will tell your mom "well dude,... our kid is growing up"...

well they won't actually say "dude" ..but you get me...


i believe your smart.. and you'll do the right thing...


so good luck!!!!!!


and try not to cry :-) !! ...be happy.. as hard as it is for a 13 year old.. trust me.. i know... i put myself in your shoes cause i was wearing those shoes when i was 13

luck.

Answer 3

Talk to your mom and confide in her privately. Tell her how you feel and see if you can get to the root of the problem. Try being friendly and jolly at home too. If you continue to avoid your family they may feel rejected as well. Try to eat and have dinner with them, you have to put forth the effort to make things better.

Answer 4

dont worry... i and a lot of my friends go through like the exact same thing. my parents can get sooo annoying and sometimes i seriously hate staying at home. i hope we'll just grow out of this "phase" or whatever... just try not to take your anger out on your family cause that just makes everything worse. do you do any sports cause i swim like every day and it reallyyy helps with stress and anger i have built up from my family. its good that you are happy at school though... just try to compare what makes your home so different from school.
hope this helps and good luck!!!

Answer 5

You should talk to a counselor at school. Also think about why your parents yell at you; it could be something you are doing or not doing, or it could be they feel stress from another area and are taking it out on you.

Answer 6

u should talk to someone like a best friend about it,and u shold get to no ur family better and find something u like to do with them, i consider u lucky cuz i am abused at home and i REALLY dont wanna go home after school cuz i am scared so be happy of the family u have and talk to them about it and get used to them u no

Answer 7

It sounds like you have it rough at home. maybe you can find an adult to help you, someone like a grandparent or family member if not maybe a teacher or counselor.

Answer 8

No such thing as half depression, but it sounds like your homelife sucks. Is there someone at school you can talk to?