How many moms here don't have a job....?

Question

Okay, don't need ways to make money at home, thanks but already got those...

How many moms here don't have a job well a "regular" job (please moms are the best)?

How have you made this work and for how long?
Do you wish you ever started working sooner?

I hear all these people putting money back and saving lots for later, but I want to be the mom. I don't really know how moms can be the employee and the mom and still be happy.

Answer 1

I am a divorced mom, who isn't working, but going to school. I thought I was set for life. So did alot of my other divorced friends. Some who came from money, others who had husband with good jobs.

The chances of you getting a divorcee is more than 50%.

I think all girls/women need to get an education and be prepared to work. You can do both. I may not always be happy at work, but I sure am happy when I get home.

Answer 2

I was a full time employee and a full time mother of three for many years. My husband and I decided one day that we would manage somehow because I am now a stay at home mom. I still get out a few hours a month just to get away, but other then that I am with children. The thought of putting money back never crossed our minds because it was short notice. I can not speak for you but the bond that I have with my children now is so much different then what it was last year at this time when I was working. There are many things that I realized that I have missed out on. As for the money aspect, we just try not to over spend when we do not need to and we just do not live the before kids life that we once did. Even though we have made many sacrifices none are worth the time that I am able to spend with my children.

Answer 3

I've been a stay at home Mom for 7 years. My two boys are 7 and 5 years old. My little guy is in preschool a couple of hours a day. Anyways the first 6 years I worked 3 nights a week for a family business. I was lucky to be able to work after hours. This way my Husband was home with the boys at night when I worked. I haven't worked the past year due to back problems. The Doctors recommended me to stop working. I have nerve pain in both my legs do to 3 degenerated disks. Anyway we made cuts when I stopped working. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I'm the employee and the mom. I'm stressed but overall happy. I work from my home office 5-6 days a week. My hours are flexible so I can get them to school, work, pick them up, snack, play and homework. I make dinner just about every night. My kids are involved in some activities. Except for school im ALWAYS with them. I get them to bed at 7:30pm and then it's back to work for me sometimes late (2-3AM) but it's totally worth it for me. I'm contributing financially but I'm also physically there. I used to work in a downtown office 5 days a week and I STILL made it work. At that time I made sure work STAYED at work so when I was home the kids and husband had full attention. with the kids at school and me in office there was really only 2 .5 hours a day they were TRULY without me (from 2:30 after school to 5pm when I got home). I think it's more about the quality of the time you spend with your kids than the quantity. If your kids feel loved, cared for and have you attention and involvement they'll be fine and if they have happy moms (9-5 job or not) they'll be even happier. I know plenty of depressed stay-at-home moms who's kids are not getting the best because they have issues.

Answer 5

I had a really good job when I first found out I was pregnant, but there weren't any hours after my training was done. I ended up finding another job because I could not NOT work before the baby came. I think I would feel guilty about it. So now I'm working 2 jobs lol ,but I am going on my maternity leave at 36 weeks, and I do plan on taking the whole year off. All I wanted to be was a mom, and I will go back to work eventually, but I want to enjoy being a mom first, which sounds like what you want to do.

Answer 6

All mom's here have at least one full-time job, it's called being a mom. Aside from that, it is a personal decision that everyone makes for different reasons. I was a stay-at-home mom for 7 years and loved it. My youngest has special needs and being able to be home with him was a great blessing for both him and me. I went back to work full-time during my divorce. I am very happy working full-time and being a mom and my children are old enough to understand. They also like that I am much more independent than I used to be. I have taught my children that if you wish to be a stay-at-home parent then you can and all the wonderful enriching things you can do for your children. Now I am teaching them that if you chose to work outside the home you can still be a wonderful, involved parent and that your children don't lose anything for it. I was ready to go back to work about a year before the divorce, he just did not want me to (he enjoyed not having to worry with sick children or get up in the middle of the night and justified it with "that is why you stay home").

Answer 7

The last thing that I wanted to do is to leave my daughter with someone. I had no peace in going back to work full time I wanted to be there for all the milestones, and everything. I didn't want to hear from someone else "your daughter did this and that today" So I work one day a week (Saturdays) as a RN she stays home with her daddy and then all the other days I am an investor (in my child's life). We have had to make sacrifices but it is worth it. My daughter laughing and smiling at me, the peace that I have is much greater then cable, or vacations. I am extremely happy, never get bored, and my baby has a mom, not a babysitter raising her. You will find what works for you, if you want to stay home bad enough then you will find a way. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 8

I've been a stay at home mom for almost 4 years and to tell you the truth I love my kids but I am bored. I did start working a job about a month ago and had to quit because of my husband's job and I now wish I could work more than ever. I love not having to miss anything that my children do but at the same time we all need a break from each other. Me and my almost 4 year old start fighting when he is off from headstart and my daughter is only 9 months old but occasionally I wish I didn't always have to get up and chase her because she is crawling right for the dog food. But I love my kids and at the same time I know I will be so sad when they both go off to school and I am stuck home by myself.

Answer 9

First you have to understand what what works for some wont for others. I have the kinda life that everything would go to $@#* if I was to work. How old your kids are and how much do they do to help will need to be thought about. Your spouse plays an important part in this decision. Is he willing to pitch in and share the household tasks or activities for the kids. If you wont have much support then staying home is alot easier. I have worked 2 out of the last 8 yrs. For 8 months out of this time both my husband and I worked and I still managed the full load. He then became the stay at home parent and nothing really changed other than the decrease in income. In the end it is easier for me to stay at home and budget rather than take on all that. I do want a career but for now at home it is. My advice is to start part-time and work your way in. Be creative and look or develope shortcuts to things.

Answer 10

I don't have a job right now, but I am looking for one. I have 3 kids, ages 13,8 and 5. I stayed at home for most of the last 13 years and am just now realizing that there are things my kids need that they can only have if my husband and I both work.

I would prefer to continue to stay at home, but we have no savings for college, we haven't bought anything decent for our home in years..literally. I would like the kids to have a nicer looking home that they can bring friends to and feel comfortable. I would also like to save for education and for any possible emergencies that may come up. I can only afford to do that now if I work,too. One income isn't enough anymore.

Yes, I wish I had started working sooner. When I worked part time for a few months, I was happier than I was staying at home. I think its because of the social isolation of just being with kids and mom's all day. I also think that I am a better mom and better example for my girls if I have a job of some kind and a broader view of the world than I get at home.

The best advice I can give you is to remember that an unhappy mommy isn't a good mommy. If you feel you need to work to provide the best you can for your child, then work full or part time. If you feel that you need to get out of the house, be more than a mommy and be useful in other ways to society, then definately get a job of some kind.

Kids are resiliant and they live up or down to our expectations and examples. It won't harm your child to grow up seeing you work. Just find good child care, don't sweat the small stuff and make time to relax with your child...even if it means the floor gets vacuumed later than usual.