My son 13 doesn't want to participate in anything. We have to make him and his attitude stinks at times. Is this just a phase or problems with self-esteem at this age?
2007-04-02 14:05:44 · 8 answers · asked by anjoek5859 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they alllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll do this....it's like death to parents repeated over and over again...
he is going to go in and out of it...all you can do is wait for the sweet baby you had 13 years ago shows his little face and catch it really fast...if you can document it, go for it, i doubt you will move that fast, but try anyway...
most of the time you will have to deal with the attitude, and not wanting to be a part of the family, and not caring, and not feeling...you know, what ever he is doing now, you can bank on it lasting longer as time goes on....
now, how do you deal with it....
make sure you keep in mind that it's a combo of hormones, his little brain working overtime in trying to figure out what is going on, his trying to see how far he can go with the tude and how much he will get away with....oh, and did i mention hormones?
your job, is to keep him on track...if there is family affairs that he was a part of and you know is what is good for them family, you tell him he has to do it...not ask him tell him...he will give you a hard time or be pissed about it, but do you really care...well you shouldn't cause he doesn't either..we both know that you will care, cause its going to hurt you bcause you are still trying to figure out what happened to your baby. just don't let him get to you...
mine is going on 15 and i want to jump off the ship every other day...but i'm getting used to it..and i've learned not to let him see how much it hurts because he has not capability of caring about it...so i am as cold as ice when we have to do something, he has to do it and that is the end...if he starts crapping about it, i end it right there..
2007-04-02 14:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by la21unica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its a self esteem issue.You need to talk to him.Don't worry,kids want to talk to their parents,its sometimes the parents that don't know how to start a conversation.Just remember to keep it simple and casual.Take it from me,I'm 15 and the only people who knows to decipher the complex codes of the teenage mind is a teenager.
2007-04-02 21:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Euphoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITs a phase dealt with the same things. think of it like a dog pissing on trees our son needs to feel like he belongs in this world on his terms. never let him forget where he came from and he will straighten out . cut him off and make him earn what he gets for free that he doesnt appreciate. just do it in a nice way like you are another person in the world not a parent
2007-04-02 21:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by aggadan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could just be hormones but keep an eye on him anyway. it's a lousy age and the perfect time for him to choose the wrong path.self esteem can be a big problem now too.
2007-04-02 21:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have a feeling it a Little of both. At his age self's is really important so ask him what wrong or why don't you want to get ingadaged and fix it
2007-04-02 22:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by lady_bug110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what he is going threw find things he likes to do don't force him to do something he doesnt want but don't let him run loose
2007-04-02 21:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is more annoying for him to be pressured, give him space he will come around
2007-04-02 21:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fase he will snap outta it
2007-04-02 21:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by missy <3 ( : 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋