Why can't people get past religion?

Question

My fiance is Christian and I'm Athiest, if we can get past that why can't the rest of the world at least TRY?!?!?!

I meant Agnostic. I belive in God I go to curch every sunday confess regularly, but I just don't think God is as lovng and forgiving as people say.

Answer 1

Some people are so wrapped up in themselves and so convinced that they have to be right that they don't want people to be different than them, because it means that they might be wrong. They'll do anything to convert others to their side; if they can convince others, they have more security in their own beliefs.

Answer 2

My husband is christian, I am an atheist. Our views differ on that subject but our morals are still the same in life. Some people think we need to be "saved" and it is their job to save us for some odd reason. I'm a good person, you are a good person, I have not killed anyone, I would give a person in need the shirt off my back if need be. So that really doesn't make me much different then anyone else in the world.. like you though I am an atheist and once a person hears that they think we are evil. I do know where you are coming from, though there is no easy fix. Just be who you are and be happy with it. Peace!

Answer 3

They are afraid of the unknown, for the most part. Also, religion gives them the comfort on knowing that the wicked will be punished and the righteous rewarded. In our ugly, violent, perverted world, I can see how that might be comforting.

Some people will always be afraid of the unknown. Some people will never be truly willing to accept the old adage "life isn't fair". Hence, religion will always be wtih us.

As for what we can do about it. We have to agree that there are some things more important than our beliefs (or lack thereof). In the case of a couple, they have to put each other first and their beliefs second. In the case of society, we have to put a national, non-religious identity and morality ahead of religion. To some extent this has started. Most Americans believe deeply in Freedom of Religion and Human Equality. This can be the basis of mutual respect and cooperation.

Answer 4

My boyfriend and I are the same way, but we still argue at times. I'm an atheist and he is Christian. Religion is a very personal thing, so I have to be careful and not judge him sometimes. I used to consider myself a Christian, but no longer do. It depends, some people are more devout than others. Most christians do not believe in being with people that do not have the same faith as them, and it makes sense. It effects sex, morality and your entire view on the world.

Answer 5

People have a hard time with Atheists because we feel that their refusal to believe in something beyond themselves will somehow destroy them. If you live a good life, love your neighbor as you love yourself (not in a sexual sense but spiritual) do unto others as you will have done unto you you do not have to believe in anything.

Secondly religion is our core belief system. When we attack someones religion they feel we are attacking something that is key to who they are. Even people within the same religion fight. It is ironic the greatest gift we have which is the freedom to choose is the one we constantly try to take away from others. We feel they should think like we do.

When someone asks you what you are it is firstly an inappropriate question but it is a question you should not answer. A good answer is I am human and leave it at that. We somehow feel that if we recognize a person is the same of us then they will be just like us and they will choose as we choose. What you do or do not believe in is a personal choice.

Answer 6

Because the rest of the world isn't as considerate towards each other as you & your fiancee are. If they were then it wouldn't be an issue.

Personally, i don't care about a person's religion, until they try to convert me or tell me i'm wrong for believing what i believe or they tell me they feel pity for me because i do not know "their ways."

If you can have a relationship with a christian & it's a loving respectful relationship then more power to you! :-) I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 7

It sounds like your relationship is still fresh. I don't mean to sound negative, but your question perhaps is premature. I am being honest in what I say. you are differently yoke, although, it may not mean anything, and you two just may live together just fine, but there is a time for everything. Perhaps in time your fiance feels that he or she can change you, perhaps you would or the other way around. And if that's not the way you two are thinking, it may come down to that in time. I hope the best for the two of you.

Answer 8

I am not sure what you mean by "get past religion"?

Your fiance is probably praying to God, that one day you will change your views of Christ Jesus and God.

I know that if I deeply loved a man, enough to marry him; my prayers for his salvation would never end.

I am curious --- how this division of faith in God and Christ Jesus will affect your children?

Answer 9

You're right, true religion is not repressive and I love people regardless of their affiliations, yet, in a mysterious way, because of my 'religion', I am able to experience a spiritual/mystic connection with those who call themselves Atheist.

Answer 10

Look at wars, what is the most common trend for wars other then just greed and power....religion. people need to beleive that they dont have a final say so that they can blame their mistakes on 'God'. honeslty the world would b a better place if the world didnt have religion because think of all the people who have died because of their faith