hey, Im LDS. I just got engaged, and I want to get married in the temple. my fiance has been nactive for a couple years, so he's not completely prepared for hte temple, doesn't know a whole lot about it.
we are going to take a temple prep. class, and have regular interviews with the bishop, but what other things can I do to help him be prepared??
2007-04-02 13:31:34 · 10 answers · asked by Liz 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
please no jerk answers please, I dont care if you dont like my religion.
2007-04-02 13:39:18 · update #1
Been there, done that!!!
When I first met my husband, he was inactive and had one last habit (there were three originally) that needed changing. He had been on a mission, but when he came home, the relationship with his parents went south-- badly!!!
I'd just come home from my mission, and somehow, without me actually saying it, he knew I would never get married outside the temple. When he proposed, he knew he wasn't worthy. I hadn't even contemplated the question, so I told him, "I don't know"... yeah, harsh, but I really didn't!... The evening he met with Bishop and committed to changing the things he needed to, I ffinally felt that yes was the answer...
Because he knew I would never get married outside the temple, he chose to change to make himself worthy. I never pushed him or demanded that he change.... I think that's the difference between how I treated him and how his parents had been treating him... ;)
My acceptance of him, warts and all helped him a lot. In addition, he started coming to church with me, and interviewed with the Bishop.
Remember all the Sunday School and Seminary answers?.. Yeah, those, too... Read scriptures together-- The Pearl of Great Price has a lot of deeper stuff, and the Book of Mormon is always effective in building a testimony.
Just keep doing what you've been doing. Love him and let him know it on a regular basis. If you have your endowments, go often, and pray for him.
BTW-- Congratulations!
2007-04-02 18:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The best thing is the interviews with the bishop and the temple prep class. These things will prepare him the most. If you live close to the temple, take him to walk the grounds. Let him feel the spirit that is there. Ask the bishop for materials he can read, along with scripture references that could help him prepare for himself.
Going through the temple is wonderful, but he needs to be aware of what it means for him to go. If he can, have the bishop explain as much as possible so he understands some going in. It's hard to understand the first time, and having some info before is a good thing.
Has he received his Patriarchal Blessing yet? If not, he needs to get that. That will help him. Also, maybe saying a prayer before each meeting withe the bishop, and each class will help him to understand more, and will impress upon him the value of the commitments he will make.
2007-04-02 20:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by odd duck 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
The best things to do (besides what you are already doing) is study your scriptures, continue praying, and stay morally clean. The temple prep class in nice.
I read a talk - you can search for some nice talks on LDS.org - about preparing for temple marriage. They of course give the best advice because it is coming from the apostles of the Lord. The talk I read suggested looking up words in the Bible Dictionary that had to do with the temple - such as Annointing, Covenant, Temple and things like that. Search on LDS.org and you will find some great advice.
Good luck and may you be blessed in your efforts.
The temple is a wonderful, beautiful House of God. I love to go.
2007-04-03 14:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on this! That is wonderful. I am happy for you and your fiance in making such a great decision. The temple prep class will be great.
There is a book by Boyd K. Packer, entitled, "The Holy temple," ISBN 0-88494-411-5, that is very good. I think
you can get it from Deseret Book Company online.
Talk with other couples in your area that have gone through the temple and ask about their experiences. Invite such a couple over to your house for supper or somthing and ask about their preparation efforts.
Preaprae yourself spiritually by doing some fasting and praying as you prepare. The holy spiirit will help you get ready; and you will both draw closer together as you work at this.
Again, congrats.
2007-04-02 23:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I'd do is make sure he is really "active"...not just going to church cause he wants to get married. His testimony is extremely important. Your interviews with the bishop and stake president will help greatly. Read the scriptures and pray... you know do all the "seminary answers".
2007-04-02 21:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by Topher 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I was told to read the pearl of great price together before we went.
We (married last year civilly) are working on getting sealed still and can't wait to go in December.
2007-04-02 23:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Private High School 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Have family prayer (even tho you aren't quite a family yet) this will be the beginning of your spiritual bond. Also read the scriptures and do a deep study of them together and talk about them, and how they make you feel ect. Congrats!
2007-04-02 20:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by divinity2408 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Show him pictures of temple clothing on the net before you go... including the aprons and hats.
Edit: I know LDS take this as rude, but did you know that the number one reason people become inactive is because they get taken by surprise in the temple? If you are really going through the temple, the best thing you can do is *really* prepare.
I know, I've been there... take it from a guy....
2007-04-02 20:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 7⤋
Tell him not to ask about the Hebrew Native Americans. Since no trace of their "primary decedents" DNA has been found.
2007-04-02 20:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by Beavis Christ AM 6 · 3⤊ 8⤋
Make sure he's ready for the Nifty Little Nude Ritual where he gets his special underwear.
Good luck
2007-04-02 20:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by Croa 6 · 1⤊ 8⤋