Single for too long??

Question

yes its possible. and i am so lonely i can't even explain the pain. I have tried lowering my standards at guys, but i just can't force myself to go out with some of these people. I know for a fact that 4 guys like, and i don't like either of them. There just no way i can even give them a chance i know it wont work out. How much longer do i have to wait for its driving me nuts? I can't hope for the guys i like cause i know they are way out of my league, but the people who do like me, just have absolutely NOTHING in common with me. I'm not even close with them. What should i do, im tired of having sex with myself, and i am too young to use dating sites. (17). Is there any hope??

Answer 1

Sorry sweetie, but at 17 you couldn't have been single for too long. Don't worry so much about having a boyfriend, that may be a reason that you don't have one. Desperation is not an attractive trait. Just relax and be with yourself.

Answer 2

I've been single for 7 months now, and I agree with you. It is very lonley at first, but then there are a lot of positive sides as well. You get to flirt with any boy you want, and have more free time. But if you really feel like you need a boyfriend, lowering your standards is not the right way to get one. Your standards are your standards for a reason, you know what you like and what you dont. Also I feel that you're going after a boyfriend for the wrong reasons. A relationship is not just about sex. And with those boys who like you, why not give these guys a chance? It never hurts to try and you may be suprised at what you find. My ex-boyfriend and I didnt have much in common at first but then we ended up in a fairly long-term relationship. So give them a shot! You can always end it if you feel it's not working.

Answer 3

Sister, you got problems if this type of situation seems like the end of the world at such a young age.

Believe it or not, having a man is not the only thing there is to life. Yes, it can be nice, but you have no idea what lucky girl you are not to be tied down in relationship. Get out, see things you are interested in, build a relationship with yourself (no, I do not mean sexual).

You need to get to know who YOU are. That is the most important thing. When you have a real grasp of who and what you are and are happy being yourself and happy with your life, you will attract the right kind of guys.

I do have to give you a bit of kudos though. Although you say you have tried lowering your standards, at least you realize that these guys are not the right ones and you don't go out with them. Please, learn about yourself and be happy with yourself -- the right guy is waiting -- believe me, I know...

Answer 4

Absolutely there's hope. Don't ever lower your standards just to have someone around. You will regret it if you do. Just hang out with your friends and have a good time being young and free. I know that having someone special in your life is something we all want, but hold out for the right guy that you have things in common with and enjoy their company. Then it will be a great experience and you will have fun spending time with the right guy. Patience is key and getting to know someone first before you jump into a relationship is a smart thing to do.

Answer 5

Yea!!!! Get a friggin Grip. Your ONLY 17!!!!! for christ sake learn how to be alone and happy with things that you do. Make yourself happy in all aspects of your life and then maybe you can make someone else happy. If you expect or need someone to make you happy then that is just sad. As for lowering your standards don't. Hold out and like I said learn how to be alone. Also there are over 6 Billion people in the world...trust me you are not alone

Answer 6

I know you've probably heard this before, but you're 17 and have your whole life ahead of you. Enjoy being young and being yourself. And being yourself is importent when trying to find a potential mate. If you come accross as being fake no one will give you the time of day. So go out and enjoy being young and able to have fun. In time guys will see you're a fun girl to be around and will come after you!
Good Luck!

Answer 7

What is so bad about being single? Take your time and don't rush things you are only 17. The guys you like now won't be the guys you like in your 20s anyways so don't get to serious and by all means have fun with your life!

Answer 8

there is no such thing as a man being out of your league. you are a WOMAN! all men are fair game to us! i don't care if you look like the loch ness monster, it is always possible to get the man of your dreams!

the age old dilemma: settling for Mr Right Now versus waiting for Mr Right.

you are Snow White - surrounded by a bunch of strange little men waiting on a real prince to ride through and save you.

the right one is out there. while you're waiting, you can use a few Mr Right Nows to keep your skills up. Or you could be more creative with yourself. There is no such thing as being bored with yourself! If you get tired of yourself, so will Mr Right when he comes along.

Answer 9

Well your to young... Thats your answer. Dont think about who your going to hook up with, just have fun and enjoy your life. There are a lot of guys out in the world and soon you will find the right one. But if you are looking hard for the right one he may never come along. Just relax and enjoy yourself. Have fun, go out with friends, chill and when your not looking he will come along.

Answer 10

try the rec center it,s made for teens on friday night there is dances, or look for single clubs, or it,s perfect to make a foundation of friend ship with a cute guy and then get in to a deep relationship one year later. good luck. the is one web site you can it,s call yahoo.personals it good for a girl your age. so there is some choices to pick. lood luck.try the rec center first.