My boyfriend is indian. We love each other. My parents get along with him just fine...but they don't want their daughter married to an indian guy... to make matters worse, he is somewhat hindu, and they are christian.
He told me his family would prefer him with an indian girl.
What do you guys think? Should i hold on to this relationship? I really love him and im going to college soon. I would like us to continue being so close.
If you are indian, would you marry a black person? Would you let your child marry a black person?
If you are black, would you marry an indian or let your child marry one?
2007-04-02 12:32:51 · 25 answers · asked by chocolate_sateen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Go for it if you love him. I know how your feeling. I'm Chinese and dated black man and my family wasn't to thrilled about it. :)
2007-04-02 12:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Rommie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all in relationship black or white deos not amtter
well girl love can happen with anyone
indains are not that white . Well its comon in india parents want thir son and daughter to get married to indian. It normal but these days international marriages are quite comon.
Marriage is all about understanding between 2 person . To tell u the truth society dint plays majour role all will be with u in good times and bad times society wont care .
i would suggest finish ur college when u guys are mature enough to take the decision go for it
i am also indian and i have decided to amrry an jewish non indian and u know i really dotn care what indian society care because i know the se society people and ur relatives only know to find fault in ur side
good luck
2007-04-05 07:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by vikas_dellcomputers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If two people love each other their race or ethnicity shouldn't be an issue. Religion, however, is an issue for many couples--be sure that you are both comfortable with each others' religious beliefs and that you hold the same values (views on child-rearing, for example) before deciding to get married. Family conflict is also a big issue; will you resent the relationship if your parents (or his) are never accepting of it? (Not just an issue for interracial couples, but for many others as well for different reasons.)
If you have yet to begin college, I assume you are 18 or 19. This is very young to get married these days. Give the relationship some time. I disagree with the person who says you should date around. If this is someone you love, then hold onto them for as long as you can. But I would wait a few years before making a lifelong commitment.
2007-04-02 20:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by M L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should do whatever necessary to stay together if you two truly love one another. Regardless of how the families may feel, in today's society anything goes, including going against your family wishes. I am black and if I loved an Indian guy I would marry him and be happy rather than a black guy who may not love me as much as the Indian guy did. You should hold on to what you got, but college may make things a little tough but if you two have an understanding then you will be fine!!!!!
2007-04-02 19:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by diamondz_a_mill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is Indian and I'm mexican
When he first told his famly about me they were not sure to acept me or not, but once they got to know me better and see that we really love each oter they understood that love is what matters to make a person happy and as long as we are happy and love each other they are happy with me.
We have been happily married for almost a year,
and will be going to india in may to have the indian wedding with his famly.
So you just need to give both the families time and they will understand that love is what matters the most.
2007-04-04 13:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as the product of an interracial marriage, I can tell you that it shouldn't matter. If your parents have a problem with him as a person, then it makes a little more sense. however, if they only don't like him because he's not christian, that's unfair. And it's also not very Christian of them..... So, follow your heart. If you really think that the diffrences in your beliefs will cause a problem in the long run (what religion will your children be? for example) then you need to consider what is more important. Seeing where the relationship could go, or holding to your beliefs unconditionally. no one can decide this but you and him...
2007-04-02 20:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by jmya1030 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would marry someone that is Indian. I think that some Indian girls look just beautiful as well as Asian and Latino girls. The ethnic background of a woman does not matter to me. Love should be between 2 people that love each other, and there should not be a limit placed on the ethnic background of people that you date. Someone of the opposite sex that is of the same ethnic background as you may not be meant for you, maybe someone that has a different ethnic background is the person for you.
2007-04-02 19:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by AdrianClay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have children and would be happy to see them marry the one that they have chosen to love. Make it a life goal that if and when you have children you instill in them the knowledge that all people are equally important. If you love someone who is different, then take time to learn as much about their culture as is possible, so that you know how to love them as they have been raised to believe love is. If this is an impossible task for you and your Indian love, then maybe you should back off. Life ingrains traits that may not be over come without great costs to both.
2007-04-03 14:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all the --INDIAN-- marriages, the parents of the bride had to give the bridegroom (in laws) their demanded dowry (cash, gold, silver, costly clothes, house hold articles, decent furniture, house/flat or house site, etc.). Even if the marriage was without demand & dowry, much demands are made later. On failure, brides are much harassed & put to mental physical cruelty. Often such brides are killed by inlaws, burnt to ashes, poisoned or injured severely. Frequently such brides commit suicide unable to bear such torture & brutal beatings. Due to stern laws with severe punishments, very few Indian Hindus are presently practising custom, tradition culture of of Hinduism of SUTTEE (burning widow on funeral pyre of husband's dead body), yet NIYOGA (impregnating wives through pious healthy males) is not so uncommon.
India is a country of multi culture, colour, race, region, language and religion. It has some very white (fair) coloured and some very black. People usually prefer white coloured with much dowry or else the black coloured with sufficient dowry. Parents always arrange the marriages and very rarely accept their children's choice. Children are always obedient to parents. It is much difficult if not impossible for a foreign girl to adjust with Indian inlaws.
2007-04-03 11:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
True love super-cedes race and religion, age and family. If you feel that the two of you are truely meant to be together, then you deserve to be with him. However, if you are still in high school and are just now embarking on college, I would have to suggest that you not limit yourself with relationships. It is good to have someone you love, but don't let that get in teh way of your college experience ... a lot can be said about going off to school single.
2007-04-02 19:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you love him that much then gone head and marry him. theirs nothing wrong with marring an Indian matter of fact theirs nothing wrong with marry somebody out of your race. some interacial marriages go better on in life then same race, but u marry your Indian.
2007-04-02 19:43:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋