My friend recently began talking about my ex bf. We broke up back in october(he ended it)we've remained good friends, i've recently came to the relization that its never going to be and that i don't think i really want him back. I've started to go after this other guy i like now, and i know my ex is jelouse (we are all in the same theater group, so thats how we see each other). My ex is a big flirt and he flirted with my friend the last 2 rehersals. not a terribly great amout, but now i think shes starting to like him. (flirting for him doesnt' mean he likes the girl)I don't think i could handle seeing them together, he was my first bf and we went out for 6 monthes i was in love with him. She said she doesnt' knwo what she woudl do if he asked her out, she lieks this other guy a lot and he knows it. I know that my ex and my friends personalities dont' match, she admited it, but she says hes cute. I can't reallysay don't go out with him cause i'm going after the other guy what do i do
2007-04-02 11:47:14 · 14 answers · asked by Jessie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's kind of low of your best friend to go out with your ex, even if you have remained friends with him.. he's still your ex! Then if they do start seeing each other, do you really want to hear about it? You could tactfully mention to your best friend that just because someone is cute, that isn't the basis to start seeing each other. Plus, it's kind of disrespectful to you and your friendship if she pursues something with him. It's the principle. If you would be hurt if she went out with him, tell your friend. If you aren't happy about it, tell her (nicely) It sounds like you haven't been very clear to her about your feelings on this. Let her know in a nonthreatening way... so then you guys can at least discuss the issue.
Plus, you seeing some other guy (potentially) really shouldn't doesn't affect the issue of your best friend going out with your ex.
2007-04-02 11:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by BookAddict 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of fish in the sea for you and for everyone in question. Enjoy life and don't let emotions interfere with what you want out of life. Who knows maybe your best friend and your ex-boyfriend have more in common then you think. Give her your blessing if you are over him. And if you are not over him, now would be the time to re-think going after this other guy....for he will end up getting hurt by you. It's called rebound. Take some alone time and think this whole thing through first, and be sure of your feelings.
2007-04-02 11:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any friend knows that you don't talk to your friends "ex" or potential crushes, she'll be breaking all the rules. Why would you allow her to even make comments about her liking him? There is thin line of betrayal you girls are messing with, because you already said that this boy was your first real love, now could you stand to see him kissing your one true friend. If so happy hunting........that is for a new friend and love!
2007-04-02 11:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by mahoganay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest to your best friend and have a sincere and open communication. Just tell her, "Look, you are my best friend. I don't think I can stand to see you go out with my ex boyfriend right now. We just broke up and he was my first bf. I am asking you not to go out with him for me because it will really hurt me a lot. I hope you can do that for me. Maybe when the wound has healed up with time, we can revisit and see how I feel, ok?"
If she cares about you and your friendship, she should agree. There're tons of other fish in the sea.
I know I would never go out with an ex-bf of my gf. It's just bad taste.
2007-04-02 11:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just try your best not to think about it hard I know but it might work and if not then tell your friend that you are not comfortable with her and your ex. but you are not sure why if she is your real friend she will understand'
2007-04-02 11:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by princess_bee_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What part of this do you have control over? Only you. I always say... Do what is right. What here is right for you. Remember, there are a lot of guys out there that are worth waiting for. Is it worth dealing with someone you already know you don't fit with? What other people do is out of your control, so don't fret about something you can do little about. In the end do what is right.
2007-04-02 11:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dport 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. He's just trying to make you jealous. Even if he is interested, your friend (if she's a good friend) should not allow anything to happen. If she does, then she's a back stabber, and you need new friends.
2007-04-02 11:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by Mark D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you shouldnt have to say anything to your friend cause if shes really your friend she wouldnt try to get with him even if she is attracted to him. All those rules about your friends having to wait such and such amount of time before they can date a friends ex is BS...Friends dont date friends ex's thats just scandalous!!!!
2007-04-02 12:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by Hott Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think if this girl is your best friend, she wouldn't go out with him. Second, maybe he's just flirting with her to make you jealous. Don't worry about it, go get that new guy!!!
2007-04-02 11:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Tracy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry that it hurts you seeing them together but maybe u should tell her WHY u dont want her to be with him
first bf
first love
big flirt
and all the stuff u just mentioned
tell her he's flirting with her to make u jelous and that flirting to him really doesnt mean anything
basicly just tell her everything u typed up there
if she's a true friend then she'll understand
2007-04-02 11:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋