My step daughter has claimed my son has molested her, and everywhere I call doesn't offer help for the accused. I need information and help on how to talk to my son and where to get him professional help. DCFS and the schools are involved. I have no one I can talk to, my husband doesn't want any family to know.
2007-04-02 11:42:12 · 12 answers · asked by Michelle V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Psychiatry. So how sure are you about your belief in your step daughter... doesn't sound like much if you say she "claimed" you son has molested her. Kids don't make these things up and she needs you to protect and nurture her. A juvenile hall or jail will do your son some good. I know your protective instincts to house your son and hug him are coming out when I say that but you need to look at him like any other sex offender. Otherwise you're just neglecting your daugher (nevermind if she's step daughter or blood daughter, she's yours). Your family should know, don't let your husband hide his own shame by sweeping your daughters tragedy under the rug. You'll just hurt her in the end. Everyone close needs to know for family sake and for other children's sake. Seek counseling yourself becuase at a time like this it's hard to sort out your protective instincts and rational thought as well as balancing your family and your own emotions. The whole family would benefit, but remember that you need one on one as well.
2007-04-02 12:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you contact your county Mental Health, they should at the very least have some contact info for you. You're right to help your son, there must be programs available for the accused, if he was convicted, he would be offered a program, so it makes sense that he could volunteer for one now. Good luck, seek help for yourself and the family also, you are all very stressed at this point, not understanding or knowing what may happen, could balloon into other issues. Take care.
2007-04-02 11:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old your son was, but I take it that he is under 18. Try to find out who molested your son. Children who sexually abuse other children are almost always re-enacting what happened to them. And your husband is wrong about not wanting any family to know--a family member is probably responsible for molesting your son.
I would put your son into therapy with someone who specializes in treating victims of sexual abuse and incest. After all, your son was probably a victim before he was a perpetrator.
Talk to your son about who victimized him. If you can get his molestor prosecuted, it could help your son heal.
Hold your son accountable for what he did to his step-sister and NEVER leave them alone together again.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-04-02 11:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm amazed that you aren't wondering where you can get help for the stepsister....
As for the son, try calling psychiatric hospitals. They usually have programs for child molesters.
Why do you need your husband's permission to talk to someone??? As long as people keep on hiding dirty secrets like this, kids will keep on getting molested. Eveyone in the family should know... that way, your son won't be able to do it to any other child in the family.
Good luck... excuse me now, while I go vomit.... Shame on you for not wanting to get help for your stepdaughter...
2007-04-02 12:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your son being charged?
I understand your husbands concern regarding the family knowing but "sweeping it under the rug" is not going to make it go away. Both of the children need proper counseling and therapy. Your step daughter needs to know that she is a victim and needs to feel protected and safe. Your son also needs help, to make sure that he doesn't re-offend he needs psychiatric help. Good Luck to you all.
2007-04-02 11:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Bridgette B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i comprehend it truly is a prior submit yet i'm too tryn to study this, i replaced into molested by ability of my older brother while i replaced into 12 all to age 15. An he replaced into in his previous due 20's. It replaced right into a terrible journey!! somebody I appeared as much as, ruined my existence. My mom knew an did no longer something approximately it an I nonetheless resent her to this present day, I see my brother all of the time an it tears at all of the previous wounds… I definitely hv no admire or love for that guy, i do no longer call him my brother or kinfolk! Bc of him i'm frightened of guys an my intercourse existence with men is nonexistent, i'm lesbian.. i've got self belief he pushed me in the direction of it. (I particularly b with a woman) ur daughter might carry alotta anger an resentment to the two u an her brother, i might call the law enforcement officers on him. incorrect is incorrect Idc how previous he replaced into on the time!! Get her into see a decrease bc it truly is been helping me, or maybe a 'intervention' as a kinfolk positioned it out interior the open. No judgment, purely communicate it. those kinda issues will mess every physique up an will interior the destiny reason alotta issues for her. preserve her an call law enforcement officers!!
2016-11-25 21:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you better get a lawyer your son is going to need it. I would also get a counsler for your son to talk to . I dont know how to tell u this but if your son is over the age of 18 and your step daughter is under then age of 18 your son is in deep deep deep trouble and theres northing u can do for him
2007-04-02 11:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both children need help here.......it is very important that your
husband understand first and foremost the children's mental health is more important than who knows. That is his ego speaking and as a father it has no place in this matter. Try the county mental health facility. They should have qualified
councelors on staff to help the whole family. Please understand this is a family problem and you all need to stand
by eachother to get everyone, especially the children through it.
We come into life to learn lessons to help us evolve. You
can all come through it better people for standing by eachother with love. Blessings
2007-04-02 12:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is a very hard situation but at least you are taking steps to get him help. DCFS should recommend a therapist for him to see. Go to your states website and search for therapist or the local phone book keep calling until you find one to help
2007-04-02 12:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your son a minor? If so, I would think DCFS would be able to arrange counseling for him. If not, does your insurance cover counseling?
Has your son admitted to this? He may not have done it, but a counselor would help either way.
I hope you have a lawyer for him. If not, you should get one. His lawyer may be able to help pave the way for treatment for you son.
Good luck to all of you.
2007-04-02 11:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋