I was hanging out with my friend and his girlfriend and we went to a club in LA to meet up with their all their group friends. My friend introduced me to his friends. I said hello and they were all very nice. There were a few girls I thought were very fine. After the club, we went to a restaurant to eat. When we were there, everyone was talking, laughing, and I didn’t really talk to anyone because I didn’t know anybody and I feel very weird. When someone said something funny, I just laughed and went along with the crowd. This girl notice I wasn’t saying anything, and she ask me why I was quiet. Is there a good comeback answer to this question? When I’m in a group, most of the time, I don’t really say anything and I don’t know how I should react, especially when I’m around people I don’t even know. But I want to know them, they all seem very nice. Is there any other way to appear confident without talking? Also, do people interest level go down if they see you not talking?
2007-04-02 11:39:45 · 13 answers · asked by jerry_won3771 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't talk you can do two think:
1) spark curiosity
2) spark annoyance
But as they say "it is better to be silent and remain an enigma than open your mouth and prove a fool" or something along those lines. Either way what I'm trying to say is you don't know these people and you may not be a natural extrovert but it is better to reserve "buddyness" as I refer to it till you do know the people and their interest and you've picked up the dynamics of the group so you really are a part of it rather than be "the weirdo who is all cocky" or "the annoying one".
On the other hand if you find it really hard an uncomfortable when you are just meeting a bunch of people it may help to think through it like this:
1: I already have some friends so there must be something likable about me; and in so doing amplify your positives
2: I don't know most of these people so it will be really nice finding out about (whoever catches you fancy)
3: Don't just along with the crowd individuality is often very attractive and people often prefer genuine people and they can tell from your smile if your being fake (something most men haven't realised)
4: Smile, be open and be approachable; find things you like, compliment people if you genuinely like something about them, when asked question don't give your life story but avoid "yes", "no" and "maybe". E.g:
Person: Do you like LA?
You: It's interesting, the people are fun and this whole city has a certain buzz to it :).
Keep things short, sweet and simple.
2007-04-02 11:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think just yah know holding your head up shoulders back and making eye contact with that person casually is a good way to look confident.. if your shoulders are slumped and head is down and you wont look at anyone then you dont appear confident. I personally wouldnt say that peoples interrest level goes down as a matter of fact I think it goes up that you may be the strong quiet sexy type..
2007-04-02 11:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im exactly the same when in a group of new people. I just usually say im not the talkative type, or i prefer to observe. They either then try to get me to talk or they ignore me. Some see it as antisocial, others find it adorable/ mysterious/ enigmatic or something along those lines. Thing is to listen and when something comes up that you are interested in, know about or something and offer your two cents. if they listen to you, it usually means that its ok for you to participate. if they look at you like you are the scum of the earth, shut up and dont try again, heh.
2007-04-02 11:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by Tiaan W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that most of the time if they do not want you hanging out with you they will leave you alone and so just imagine you have known them your whole life and be straight up honest and confident with your self and yes people do lose interest when people dont talk.
2007-04-02 11:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by princess_bee_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i think NOT TALKING is a bad way to seem confident.it gives off quite the opposite.but dont just jump in peoples conversations cause thats just weird.and honestly guys that dont talk that much actually have a very addictive personality but some girls find it odd.i cant speak for everyone.
2007-04-02 11:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah just tell her you were just enjoying listening to them. its understandable not to talk a lot if you dont know everyone around you. just chime in here and there when you have something to say and before you know it, you'll be in the conversation too. some people are more quiet and some are more chatty than others. its just life. dont stress it.
2007-04-02 11:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by socal_rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're afraid of talking because you don't want to say something stupid in front of a bunch of people you don't know. You need to relax and not care so much about what others think. Be yourself. If you don't like to chat, than just say "I'm just not a big chit-chatter, but I think you guys are hilarious."
2007-04-02 11:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good answer to why you are so quiet is: "I am just enjoying listening." However, I doubt this girl really wanted to know why. It sounds as if she was trying to start a conversation with you.
2007-04-02 11:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 21:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the perfect situation to bust a move.... if you're interested in a girl (hopefully the one that asked you)... tell her that you can only talk to one person at a time...(joke) and you chose her... so start a conversation with her and try to get her number...
2007-04-02 11:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋