I know for some this won't sound like a big deal, but i need help b/c i don't know what to do. Please answer seriously. There's this guy, he likes me so when he asked me to hang out i did, i figured it would be a good way to get to know him. I had a great time w/ the guy , he has a great personality and would treat me well. But I don't feel the connection, he's like just good friend material. Now he acts like he's my b/f and he raves to his friends about me. I need to make a decision b/c the way he is acting is making me uncomfortable. Like when i see him i want to go the other way. I don't know what to do, maybe i could get to know him even better and end up liking him or maybe i will never like him in that way.Should i talk to him and say i don't want a b/f now or i feel like we're just friends, or should i let it go and see how my feelings are after a while. I don't want to regret it and miss out on a great guy but idk if my feelings will ever change. What should i say and do?
2007-04-02 11:35:15 · 11 answers · asked by Blossom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, if you don't feel the connection right now then I'd say go ahead and tell him friends is all you want to be with him. If you don't automatically start to like him then I'd say there's nothing there. But... maybe the more you guys hang out as friends, the more you will get to know him and become closer to him, making it more easy to decide what to do since you know how he is. So, just stay friends with him and the more you get to know him, the more you may get to like him or the more you'll grow as friends.
2007-04-02 11:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by kristen♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A connection has to be mutual. If it is not mutual, then it is the wrong connection. The best advice I got when I chose my wife was "if in doubt, don't". If your not feeling the comfort zone with this guy, then you need to start telling him no. As long as you tell him yes, he will think that you are still on. The only way he will give up is if you tell him straight up. I tell my wife all the time that I cannot always tell what she is thinking, feeling or wanting. Sometimes her body language is clear enough for me but sometimes it is not. She needs to tell me what she is feeling. You need to do the same. Men are not as adept at judging feelings as women are. Don't string him along and don't cheat yourself out of finding the right person. It does not sound like this is the one. Move on.
2007-04-02 11:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by rac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and disillusion this guy. Emphasize the fact that you see him as a friend. If you two go somewhere together, pay your own way. Nothing says "We're a couple," more than the guy paying for everything. (Well, not nothing, per se, but you get the idea.)
Just tell him how you feel about him as a good FRIEND. If your feelings change later on, this way he'll probably still be there.
But do it soon. DON'T lead him on in his misbelief.
2007-04-02 11:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately the decision is yours. but my advice is to break away. This guy is using one of the oldest tricks in the book for trapping women. he is playing on your good nature to make you his lover whether you want to or not. By telling everyone he is your boy friend and publicly acting like a couple, he is gambling that you will do just what you are thinking about doing, and become his lover whether you really want to or not, just to keep from hurting his feelings and looking like a jerk. dump him before possessive becomes aggressive. I've seen girls end up in hospitals from guys like this.
2007-04-02 11:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by traveler.3339 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your gut feelings.It is always right.If you don't feel the connection then don't go with him.Get to know him as friends first and tell him that.The fact that he is pressuring you and making you feel uncomfortable does not say a lot of good things about him.You need to let your feeling for him develop over time before you make the decision.If he doesn't want to then he is not worthy of being with you.Be strong girl this is the right thing to do.
2007-04-02 11:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by one_man_gang2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him, tell him you two have never talked about being bf/gf and right now you want to take things very slow. If he truly cares then he will respect that and give you some space, if he keeps acting like he is then walk away.
2007-04-02 11:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mark C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is kinda funny because there was this guy that really liked me as well and i really did not like ther person. He asked me out twice and the 2nd time i finally said yeah and he was all happy and stuff he told me that he loved me but i told him to stop witht the bull so if i were you i would just tell him how you really feel because you are going to hurt him like i hust the other guy and you are going to make things more worse that they were before.
2007-04-02 11:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Tomas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should think things through and see what you want to try then just go with your senses what do you think is better for you? well if i was you id just keep it as friends so that nothings messes up the relation.
2007-04-02 11:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just want to be friends, by not telling him you are leading him on and in the end; you will just be hurting him even more. Just be gentle when you explain it to him.
2007-04-02 11:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by clashinggrandeur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say u want to be friends coz u not ready for a relationship or u just want to hang out with him unofficially and see how it goes
2007-04-02 11:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by Bubby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋