I am quite upset w/my cousin , his wife & my daughter for them all going against my wishes for my daughter to allow them to supposedly have a temporary custody (verbal agreement for now) to have my 4 yr. old grandaughter. There are many reasons given by my daughter for doing this that I can't go into but basically; depression. She has two other kids 2 yr., & 5 yr. & they all live w/me & only the youngest's father is involved. My cousins mother condones this & they all talk behind my daughters & I back, but my cousin & his wife wouldn't stay away from my house until they got my grandaughter. I hate that my daughter allowed this to happen & am asking her why she didn't let me have her to raise, but she won't talk to me about it. My son & I bother are upset & don't want anything to do w/them as we feel my cousins wife manipulates her in-laws, & whenever I'am w/my grand it hurts too much to send her back to them when I can see she is getting very distant from her immediate family.
2007-04-02 11:23:24 · 3 answers · asked by sissytwo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't know if it will help you but, I really understand how you feel. We grandparents have to understand that we really have no more say in what our kids do in their lives, than what our parents had a say, in what we did in ours, even if they live with you, [unless you want to loose them completely]. Try to be patient. They must have their reasons..Don't take it personal.. Be sure you talk to your daughter about letting you and your granddaughter stay close, like nothing is wrong, for your granddaughter's sake...This must be important to your daughter. Try to support her and let her know that you are there for her...That's the only way to keep connected, in my opinion. Go to any family occasion that you can.. Stay close and be patient. Good luck.
2007-04-02 11:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this has happened to you. Don't be too hard on your daughter; depression is hard to deal with.
As far as your question, NO I would not go to dinner at their house.
Talk to your daughter about making sure that she still has her rights intact even if she lets her daughter live with these relatives for a while. They sound like control freaks who just want to take over. If they wanted to be helpful, they could have just helped your daughter without all this gossip. They are only hurting your daughter more.
I know this is very hard for you to deal with. God bless you.
2007-04-02 19:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand it is an unhappy situation, but don't spend your holidays with family members who upset you.
2007-04-02 19:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋