My friends and I are going to a Tea Party this weekend. It is for one of our friends who is getting married in June. She didnt have an engagement party and we are thinking this Tea Party is like a Bridal Shower. Next month we are spending about $500 each to fly and attend her hens night then the following month we all have to pay even more to attend the wedding with our partners. So what I am asking is, Should I buy her a gift for the Tea Party ? and if so what sort of things do you buy ?
2007-04-02 11:02:30 · 10 answers · asked by answers 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I doubt it. It's a tea party. That is when women get together and talk. Perhaps she doesn't need many gifts and thats what she wants to do instead of a shower.
Perhaps this is sorta a gathering for the non-drinkers who aren't invited to the hen night.
Either way I've never heard of bringing gifts to an afternoon tea.
Especially since you are paying so much for the wedding anyway. Honestly, she wants you there as a bridesmaid. She doesn't expect huge presents from you. My bridesmaids didn't get me anything (well my sister did but the others didn't) and it was perfectly ok. They are rather broke and I was just glad they could come. If you really want to buy her a gift for the wedding, thats fine but pick something small. No reason to go in debt for a friends wedding. She is a true friend and understands how much it is costing for you guys to be there.
2007-04-02 11:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are never obligated to purchase a gift for any type of bridal shower. Gifts or cards are to be given as a kind gesture and not out of obligation. I have been to several bridal teas hosted at hotels and tea parlors. On a few occasions each guest was asked to pay for their own cost to attend the tea in lieu of gifts, for one tea I attended guests were asked to bring recipes on enclosed recipe cards in lieu of gifts, and others were traditional hosted showers were gifts were opened towards the end of tea. So I agree with the previous posters that you should contact the hostess regarding whether gifts are preferred. If so, I would probably just get a small gift no more than $25 (bath and beauty products, gift basket, etc.). If the tea is being hosted at a hotel or tea parlor, you will not need to bring any type of food since more than enough food, included dessert is typically provided.
2007-04-02 18:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it is a shower it should say so on the invitation. Another sign that this might be a gift giving occasion, is if there was registry information inside.
This woman may have chosen a tea party specifically to avoid having her guests bring gifts. If you are still in doubt, call the person hosting and ask.
2007-04-02 18:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it is a Tea Party, I would not get a gift. If it was an engagement party or bridal shower they would state it as such (hopefully).
I would bring... tea. Or something along the lines of Tea Party stuff.
2007-04-03 08:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The gift you are giving is your presence at all these wedding-related events, especially the one you have to fly out to. If you are truly friends, she will already believe this to be your gift.
If you are really feeling empty-handed the easiest gift is to buy a packet of seeds or some bulbs, both within the 50 cent to 5 dollar range. Give them to your friend with a card with instructions to plant them during their honeymoon with some ending comment like, "Watching your love grow right before your eyes!" or "May your love keep blooming."
Good luck and have a good time
2007-04-02 18:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by meraphetamine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just buy a kitchen/home item, you don't have to spend much. If I were you, don't bother attending the hens night, save your money to attend the wedding.
2007-04-03 07:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would call the host and ask. If you are feeling uncomfortable about showing up empty handed I would get a nice card for her.
2007-04-02 18:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is no shower...bring a cake or some baklava,or a nice torte....something from the bakery.
No gift this time...have fun.
2007-04-02 18:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by AuntTater 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if in doubt pick something up, i mean cheap, like a cute figure from the hallmark store or something on her regestry less than 20 bucks, can't hurt if no one eles does then you look really good:)
2007-04-02 18:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by ericams85 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
anything for her house or honey moon
2007-04-02 18:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋