my teen is pregnant!?

Question

She's 16 and in the 10th grade. Do i still treat her as a young teen after she's had the baby?

Answer 1

yes, as long as she lives in your home she should have to follow the same rules as before. like it or not, she's still only 16 years old, and i know you don't want her going out making more babies. kids should learn from their mistakes, heck we all should! she does have to live at home at 16 years old too...the laws have changed on this issue in most states! you have to make choices for her, she's not old enough to really make those choices in life.

it's going to be even harder with a baby, but you can both make it through this!!!

Answer 2

Well you should treat her like a women. Now that she is having a baby she needs to be treated like an adult you cant treat her like a kid if she is going to have a baby. Take it easy, people make mistakes and i bet she is not the only one that will make a big as mistake as she wants. She will learn. Now she is having a baby and she needs all the support she needs. Like i said before I had my baby when i was 16 and the thing i needed the most was the support of my mom. Support her because if you don't then she will do something stupid like have an abortion. If she wants this baby and you make her have an abortion then she will hate you. I think you should sit down with her and talk about the responsibilities she will have, and how everything will be different from now on. Another thing don't worry what other people will say tell them to screw themselves that's your grandchild and you love him/her. I also think you should sit down with her and watch the movie "Mom at 16" I watch and it was very interesting.
Congratulations on your new grandchild! May your lives be filled with joy.

Answer 3

Absolutely not! Only because she won't have a young teen status, she'll have a mom status. She's perfectly capable of raising a child. She just might need a helping hand. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm now 26 years old, I have a son that is turning 9 years old this year. I was barely 17 years old when I had him (I'm talking days), and I can honestly say I did it on my own, I'm a single mom. Her teenage years will be gone forever but that's the price you pay for having a child when you are a child. She's going to have to learn to stand on her own two feet and hopefully she won't be alone.

Answer 4

Well, yes and no.

For one, she will still be a teen, so part of her needs to be treated that way. She will still be emotionally undeveloped, and will need your constant good example to help her finish growing on the inside.

On the other hand, she will need to be given some room to make her own mistakes - especially as a parent - just as all of us did as young adults. It's one of the most common ways for us to learn, is through our errors. She also needs to have the opportunity to be responsible for herself and her child...If you stick too close and don't give her the chance, she'll never get good at it.

The best advice I can give you is to be there for her - let her know every day that you love her, and that you're there as a resource if she needs anything at all. And be honest with her. If you think she's making a mistake, speak up - but then leave it at that, and give her the leeway to figure it out on her own.

If in doubt, ask yourself this question: "What would I have wanted from my own mother?". That usually sends me in the right direction.

Answer 5

You should still treat her as a teen but also teach her responsibility. Let her take care of the baby so that she will see that being a mother is a job and hopefully she will learn and not have more until she is an adult and can properly provide for her children. I would allow her a small amout of time to hangout with friend but I wouldnt be to lenient.

Answer 6

I had a relative that was a teen pregnancy. Everyone ended up having to treat her as she was like a adult and it just went that way. Ya, she was still a kid and still acted like one. For instance, we had to get on to her about the way she was taking care of baby and also make her get off her butt and take care of baby. She still wanted to play and act as teens do, but we just ahd to remember she was a kid, too. Our teen pregnacy girl was so clue-less to this big responibility and had to be constantly mentored or she would be neglectful to baby so easily.

I don't think you should worry about the way your treating daughter- just treat her the same as always and make sure she is not mistreating baby. She still is not grown up yet herself and may get more easily stressed out. I've heard people say that about teens with babies. They are immature and have make poor decisions. So, what I'm saying is watch out for the baby more so than the mother. Just make sure she is doing the job right. God Bless you for making the decision to keep child. Stressful as it all began will soon be forgotten when baby shows up.

Answer 7

this is a really difficult one. i got pregnant at 19, I'm now 21 and my daughter will be 18 months in may. i would say, if she is living under your roof, which i imagine she will be, she should still abide by your rules for the most part. however, this experience will be monumental, as I'm sure you already know. she is going to mature like crazy, because she's going to have to. previously, she only had to worry about her, & now she has a whole other life that she is about to be responsible for. she probably has no idea what she is about to go through. and this responsibility isn't for a year or two, its for at least 18! so i hope shes preparing herself. all i can advise is just be there for her, support her, but dont be afraid to be her mom when she gets out of line, especially after the baby is born. good luck!

Answer 8

wow, Well I planned to be pregnant and it happened when I was 17. I already moved out of my mom's house, so this will be tough to answer. If she doesn't keep up with school or her mommy duties then treat her like a young teen. You have to guide her and ask her to listen. Tell her that she represents her baby, so being respectful and mom like would be nice. No teen clothes anymore.

Answer 9

16? wow that is a little young. if she is keeping the baby no you shouldn't treat her as a young teen you need to now treat her as a dult and make her take care of that child and get a job. if she thought she was old enough to have sex and have a baby she now needs to be treated as an adult and be able to take the responibity of caring and supporting her child. its now time for her to grow up and no longer act like a child/teen she is going to be a mother now and needs to now act like one. sorry for being so harsh but its very sad that now she will no longer be able to experience a normal teenage life but she brought this on herself. just encourage her to be a good mother and to do what is right.i wish her and you all the best of luck and hope you get through this ok.

Answer 10

No you treat her as you do know. But you know being a young teen and still in school is going to be hard. But don't let her forget she is a mother. She made her bed so she has to lay in it...She wanted to be grown so you can only show her the way...But as far as going out and being with friends going shopping that is out...Now if she wants to do that she needs to see she has a bundle of joy that she will have to drag along with her. She is still a baby herself. She has to learn.

Answer 11

That is young to have a baby, but she needs your support more than ever right now. Treat her as a new mother even though she's still a child. Someway, somehow, find a way for her to finish school. It might be tough, but you won't regret it. Good luck to you all.